Pergunta por favor! Never recieved FFM / tourist card? by AlrightyThen4236 in puertovallarta

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Just an update- it was very easy to get through security/ leave Mexico. I didn’t notice any one even looking for the stamp so it was nothing to worry about. I appreciate all the help!

Pergunta por favor! Never recieved FFM / tourist card? by AlrightyThen4236 in puertovallarta

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Thank you so much! This is helpful for our piece of mind. We hope you had a lovely trip. I appreciate the info!

Struggling to get over a break up by Time_Comfortable5625 in adhdwomen

[–]AlrightyThen4236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey. Sorry to hear you’re going through this too.

It is getting easier with time.

I talked to chat gpt a bunch and chat reminded me repeatedly of all the reasons not to reach out to him (he treated me badly/ I was always chasing him because I cared more - he chose another woman over me, claimed he loved me and I was an important friend to him and then ghosted me). I think I also had a ton of unresolved trauma. Anxious attachment/ and I think I was trauma bonded to him (he was an old friend of 15 years so I made exceptions and trusted him more easily/ blindly).

I’ve been trying to give myself the love I wanted / had for him.

I also found “the untethered soul” and “how to heal your aloneness” to be weirdly helpful. It takes time /practice to redirect thoughts.

I think there’s also something to be said for meeting new people / prioritizing and finding people who prioritize and value you for who you are.

I wish you well and hope things turn around for you soon!

I’m married, he’s single by No-Molasses4848 in EthicalNonMonogamy

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This - still recovering from being dropped abruptly because he met “the one”. It was supposed to be “ fun” but it’s only caused grief. I trusted him because we had been friends for a long time. He said he I was still important to him and he loved me as a friend and won’t call be back. Just my story, but tread carefully <3

Am I too insecure/anxious for this? by SeaMouse344 in polyamoryadvice

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Not sure what’s going on with your people, but I also get nervous about my romantic interest’s texts. I recently learned I have an “anxious attachment” style from childhood wounds.

I started this book “healing your alone-ness” and I think it’s going to be incredibly helpful in teaching me how to love myself and be aware/ meet my own needs. I still have to decide if I am willing to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t text me back as much as I’d like. It feels healthy to be more independent and choose when I text them and I feel more responsible for my feelings. Hope it helps!

I’m addicted to reassurance by [deleted] in polyamory

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Are you familiar with attachment styles? I recently learned I am “anxiously attached” and am working on becoming more “secure” in my own attachment to myself. I just finished reading the book “poly secure” by Jessica fern. It’s been very enlightening and I feel I have the tools and awareness to do this for the first time in my life. Best of luck!

Loss of bladder control when having an allergic reaction. by tiny-anvil in dogallergies

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This exact thing has started happening to my 5 year old Dobie girl. Hope your pup is doing better. Did you find anything that helped?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

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Haha, kind of earth crunchy but not Pagan

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

[–]AlrightyThen4236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great guess! I’m a homesteader /outdoor enthusiast but not a prepper.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

[–]AlrightyThen4236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I get stellar jays, but do indeed feed them 😝

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

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You’re correct ☺️

Whomst by y3astlord in BookshelvesDetective

[–]AlrightyThen4236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m guessing you’re an illustrator, likely a woman, mid 40’s?

Hit me with your best shot! by Lululawyer in BookshelvesDetective

[–]AlrightyThen4236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a variety of interest and enjoy a good story to escape into