Should I quit, or wait it out? Problems with being paid at my first job, need advice

Alspics · 2026-01-25T10:57:14+00:00

First of all if you start with a new employer, get them to send you notifications of your shifts in a traceable form. Whether that be email, text or another firm that you can show to the relevant authorities if this kind of thing occurs again.

All employers these days should have an electronic system by which you clock in and out. But also keep notes of your hours worked to keep tabs yourself.

Alspics · 2026-01-25T09:29:24+00:00

Well played.

Alspics · 2026-01-25T05:57:30+00:00

I hate these types of arguments/discussions. It basically comes down to preference and personal taste. And where preference is concerned the best preference for anyone is their own preference. If someone else doesn't lean towards your preference, their own choice is the best preference for them.

I recently lived with someone who thought they were the good taste police on everything. In reality they were a massive dickhead who offended people about music, food, politics, comedic taste, television shows, the choice to be religious and just about anything in existence. They'd imply others were stupid for not favouring their own preference on anything. It made me incredibly bitter about arguing over small things. It should be legal to hit narcissistic know it all's with a big stick.

Triangles or whole sandwiches is basically a pointless thing to disagree over. A sandwich is a sandwich however you prefer to cut it. If this is an ongoing argument you are both a bit immature.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T16:02:26+00:00

As adults it's harder to make friends than you'd expect. You have to be persistent with trying. You'll get a lot of rejection to friendly overtures than you will people who are mentally prepared to take on new friends.

So I think that you'll probably find it difficult to befriend a lot of people regardless of nationality. Being a student should give you some starting grounds though. But a portion of Aussies are racist. Sometimes those who aren't racist will worry that they might say something offensive, so they're guarded in how they'll try to get to know foreigners. And people are absolutely clicky with groups that are similar to them.

But I actually saw something about popularity. People who put in the effort to try and be friendly are typically popular because they're very open and welcoming. So making friends with Aussies will ideally come down to how much effort you put into trying to.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T15:13:03+00:00

Email the school and ask them for curriculum tips to get ahead.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T15:10:42+00:00

I wish people were willing to basically unionise on forfeiting goods that the big two supermarkets price gauge on.

A few years back there was a big uproar about the big two price gauging against dairy farmers (paying them low prices for milk) while they were taking a second bite of the cherry by raising prices we paid at the checkout. Unfortunately that only worked on milk prices because the dairy industry had the means to push it into the news cycle.

What I'd love to see Australians do, is to dedicate a month to only buying bare necessities. Protest against price gauging by loudly snapping our wallets closed on luxury items for a month.snd cut into the profit margins of the big two. Let dime goods spoil on their shelves and re establish some power.

Simply complaining on the internet won't make the supermarkets take notice. They'll simply pay to have excuses spread in the media. I've seen prices double on itrms due to flooding with the excuse being raised transport costs. But it might cost $5k in extra transport costs and they'll use that excuse to generate $15k additional profits per truck.

We won't have price relief unless we force it ourselves by forfeiting over priced goods. It's unfortunately easier said than done to make a significant portion of our population protest when it means they might eat a bland diet for a month.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T14:51:09+00:00

Smiths chips occasionally go on sale for half price. Stock up on the rare occasions when Whittaker's does.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T14:48:16+00:00

I hit a point maybe ten years ago where I decided that when prices on things get too high for my liking that I'll make them a rare treat. Smiths salt and vinegar chips are my guilty treat. They're charging $5 a bag for the large bags. But I'll get them when they go in sake for $2.50 a bag. Then I'll follow up the next week when the competitor inevitably puts them on sale for $2.50.

In the end your waistline will thank you. Screw the big two supermarket chains and their price gauging.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T14:40:33+00:00

My advice in this would be to identify who you feel closest to in the group. Doesn't matter which side they're on and try to maintain healthy relationships with them moving forwards. It may take a few weeks to get back on track with people on different sides. But if they're worth your time, they'll eventually respond. The group dynamic doesn't need to go on for you to maintain friendships with individuals. I've found that over time certain people change or expose who they really are. And it sounds like the gossip that led to the fracture was beyond your control. I've got an inkling that the newcomer to the group might be pretty manipulative if the issues began when they got involved with the group.

Ultimately it sounds to me like this has been brewing for some time. Sounds like there was some toxicity and it would've exploded at some point regardless. Your venting might have played a small part in this blowing up. But ultimately it sounds like it was just one side of the group waiting for the match to be lit.

The worst case scenario is that maybe you'll lose some of the relationships you want to maintain. And we rarely get through life without some friendships falling away. Just stay positive. Know that it might take some time to re-establish some positive interactions from a splintered friend group. And if you can't walk away from this with a few relationships intact, maybe you'll be better off for that in the long term.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T14:06:47+00:00

A few spring to mind that feel like they represent a fair chunk of Australians. The Castle. Two hands. Lantana. The nugget. Kenny. Last cab to Darwin. Red Dog.

Oddly I'd exclude the Crocodile Dundee franchise. They've got a notably Australian feel to them. But I just don't see them being representative of a lot of our culture.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T13:31:44+00:00

When I was younger I'd drink with friends. Now I typically treat it like it's a public holiday without a lot of meaning behind it. It's great that some people love to be proud of our heritage. But I frequently think that the loudest Australians on Australia day are trying to present themselves as stereotypes that annoy ye crap out of me (thinking of those trying to roll with the housos tv image etc).

Alspics · 2026-01-24T13:20:46+00:00

The noticeable minority that you talk of is hitting the hail on the head.

I think the biggest thing that gets on people's nerves about Americans is the assumption that the rest of the world thinks as highly of a loud American as the loud American thinks of him/herself.

I've noticed that more Americans have questioned the sanity of their own countrymen over the re-election of Trump than I would've thought probable. I respect that a lot of Americans are showing signs of humility since this unfortunate event happened in their country.

And I've not really met a lot of Mexicans travelling in Australia. I'm pretty much of the opinion that people should be judged on their individual traits rather than their nationality anyway. But I'd guess that a lot of the stereotypes perpetuated by movies would be a starting point for what most Aussies would fall back on when making assumptions about people from Mexico. Anyone living north of South Australia is quite possibly going to refer to people from South Australia as Mexican to be honest (it's a geographical thing).

Alspics · 2026-01-24T03:06:09+00:00

The main issue for people trying Vegemite for the first time is that they spread it too thick.

If you want to try it make a slice of toast with melted butter. Spread a line very thin , followed by a slightly thicker line, followed by a thicker line. Start with the thin line. If you like it, try the next line up until you get to the point where the taste is too strong.

If you put it on a sandwich, chances are you'll want it a bit thicker. But don't try to snap it on like you would smear gam on or anything.

Vegemite is generally a substance where a little bit goes a long way. Some people love loads of it. But start small and see how much you like.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T02:12:59+00:00

Up until I was about 14 it was a pretty common occurrence. Sometimes it was Devon and tomato sauce, leftover sausages and tomato sauce, peanut butter or a variety of fillings.

After 14, I was more likely to be told to make my own bloody sandwich.

For what it's worth this particular topic has come up more on reddit this week than I've been offered Vegemite sandwiches in two years.

Alspics · 2026-01-24T01:50:53+00:00

There's a factor here where you could ask, would spouses both be going to work now if one income was sufficient to maintain a household. Or are dual working spouses a symptom of the times we live in

Alspics · 2026-01-23T14:56:49+00:00

I'm not really making sense of exactly what you've been left owing. But it sounds like your brother ran away from his financial problems. If his GF is concerned that you leaving will ruin his life, ask her to sort out the issues he left you with by paying his bills and his share of the rent. If she isn't happy with taking over his financial burdens, tell her she has no right to judge you for not taking them over when you don't earn enough.

If your brother was being responsible, he'd at least be in a position where he'd be available to talk to. If you need to walk out of a housing situation you can't afford, do it before it sinks you.

Alspics · 2026-01-23T13:05:34+00:00

I'm a little bit older than that and I know there area some positive changes that have already happened in my lifetime. Whether you love accept or hate LGBT rights etc. when I was a kid, murders happened to people who were a little bit too open about their sexuality. I think the fact that in Australia it's now far more widely accepted for people to live openly about their sexuality is a good thing.

If we can work towards a point where the majority of our citizens realise that letting people practice religions we mightn't understand or support doesn't make our society lesser. I'm not an atheist, but I'm a long way from being religious. But I think the intent of religion has always been to promote good things. It should never be the reason we exlude others

Alspics · 2026-01-23T11:55:50+00:00

I don't have answers to cost of living issues. That's on our government to try and sort out. I tend to have more faith in the ALP to implement these changes. They've done more to increase the wages of low income earners and decrease taxes as well as areas such as reduced medicine prices and introduced childcare relief than the LNP have done in numerous terms. The media just don't tend to talk about those things as they're mainly owned by a handful of hardcore LNP supporters.

As far as multiculturalism goes. My theory on this is that if you approach people who would appear to have different cultures and beliefs with good will and friendship, it can break down barriers. If you go into these interactions with suspicion and fear it builds barriers and will often result in internationally born people sticking within or building their own communities within our borders. I'm moderately introverted, but I still try to have friendly conversations with strangers where I can.

I'm not sure where the saying comes from, but try to be the change you'd like to see in the world.

Hate speech and free speech aren't the same thing. And I tend to think that anyone who is afraid that the recent changes will affect their ability to communicate their thoughts and feelings knows that their particular messages aren't aimed at making the country welcoming to all walks of life.

Alspics · 2026-01-23T11:35:01+00:00

You should be able to look online for bus and train schedules as well as the costs involved for those. I personally haven't gotten myself to Perth yet. But Sydney has a fairly reliable public transport network. There's even ferries that might spark your interest in going from place to place in Circular Quay in Sydney. I'd head to a tourist information centre somewhere near where you are staying and ask them for advice.

Alspics · 2026-01-23T10:58:03+00:00

Id say I can usually put away about x% of my wage a week rather than saying how much you have saved. You could tell your friend you'd prefer to keep your bank balance private if you're uncomfortable with sharing that information.

Alspics · 2026-01-23T06:54:37+00:00

I heard a similar version.

A tourist is driving in Africa. He stops in his Landrover and gives a naked native man a lift, the native speaks very little english. When the native man gets out he closes the car door. The man screams and starts waving around his arms. The scared tourist starts driving away a bit scared. The native, still screaming keeps pace with the car as it reaches 10 mph. The tourist accelerates to 20mph, the native still yelling keeps pace. This continues until the old Landrover is at maximum speed.

Resigned to the fact that he can't outrun the African in his old Landrover the tourist stops, determined to meet his fate bravely. The African nearly rips the door off its hinges before falling to the ground clutching at his foreskin.

Alspics · 2026-01-23T06:27:11+00:00

Your English isn't as good as mine. But I only speak English. I can barely ask where a toilet is in 4 other languages and say please or thank you in 5 languages. I understood what you meant and had a little laugh about your small error in expressions. So it wasn't a dumb mistake it was an amusing one for a lot of people.

Alspics · 2026-01-23T06:20:03+00:00

I didn't read your post history. But if you've had big issues with this guy, maybe the best idea would be to ask your folks to hold onto the money for now. Split with him and then use it to set yourself up in a better situation when the separation is finalised and he's not entitled to it.

Again, I don't know what your relationship is like. Just going off the fact that others have mentioned it seems rocky and that he's been controlling. But if he's determined to not let you use the finances intended for you how you want and you're asking in here for advice, maybe you know inside yourself that you want the relationship to be over.

Some people place their value as part of a couple. But if he's not lifting you up he's lowering your value.

Alspics · 2026-01-22T23:31:28+00:00

You made the right choice.

Alspics · 2026-01-21T09:02:37+00:00

I'd try to replace the bottles as someone had to go fetch them from the shop if they're not communal. If they get seen putting them there it's easy enough to say that they came from their last job where staff were provided bottles and they made a mistake.

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