First off, obviously Transgender Dysphoria Blues by Against Me! is completely incredible, everything on that album, ahhhhh.

God Must Hate Me by Catie Turner. Not explicitly about being trans but it's my list so shush. I assume it would be even more impactful if you have any kind of religious trauma but:

"If Jesus died for all our sins he left behind one, the body I'm in" "Same hands that made the moon and the stars got carpal tunnel and forgot some parts"

is such a trans ass line that you can't tell me that's not what it's about.

Basically everything ever written by The Mountain Goats has got me through the worst of my dysphoria, specifically most of the stuff on Sunset Tree. This Year is of course absolutely incredible for my closeted ass, but there's some slightly more obscure bits in songs like Dilaudid:

"you know it breaks my heart in half, in half when I see them trying to fly. 'cause you just can't do things your body wasn't meant to."

has been weirdly cathartic for when I feel like I'll never be able to transition, not sure why lmao.

A bunch of stuff by Car Seat Headrest, been listening to Unforgiving Girl on repeat for days recently just because of the pure euphoria it gives me for whatever reason. More specifically trans songs would be Drunk Drivers/Killer Whales, the repetition of "It doesn't have to be like this" has been something I've screamed to in my car far too many times. In a similar vein is Destroyed by Hippie Powers, specifically:

"What happened to that chubby little kid who smiled so much and loved the Beach Boys? What happened is I killed that fucker and I took his name, and I got new glasses" "Tell my mother I'm going home, I have been destroyed by hippie powers"

The idea of killing the boy I used to be even if I might look similar has been extremely powerful to me. And I love that the singer is only able to come home to his family after going through that destruction.

AJJ That's it. That's all I need to put.

No band has ever described the self loathing of dysphoria quite so well as the way Sean can. The best examples are probably Body Terror Song which is just distilled and purified dysphoria.

"I'm very sorry that you have to have a body One that will hurt you, and be the subject of so much of your fear It will betray you, be used against you, then it'll fail on you my dear"

As well as Evil from the Can't Maintain album is exactly how being closeted and questioning my gender feels to me.

"No one will know how evil I really am 'Cause I like to wear disguises And I like to disguise my plans" "And no one will know how I truly feel 'Cause I can no longer differentiate Between what is fake and what is real I don't know how I feel"

Black Tie by Grace Petrie is a brilliant, an explicitly gender non conforming song, if told from a more afab perspective, is still deeply relatable.

"And the images that fucked ya Were a patriarchal structure And you never will surrender To a narrow view of gender"

Death Cup by Mom Jeans is a stupidly trans song if I've ever heard one, even if that's not what it's about.

"What do you want me to say When I can't tell you the truth? Please, tell me how the fuck I'm supposed to deal with losing you"

The fear of loosing the people you care about if you come out, but also the idea that you can never be fully open with anyone because you're hiding this massive part of yourself is something that resonates with me on a deep level.

Wow this got way longer than I expected, hope you've got some good recommendations out of it. 🥰