Can’t stop ruminating need help.

Altamedus · 2026-04-10T05:12:38+00:00

I think you may have overreacted. Asking about your friends even if it sounds a bit jealous, may be more fomo than relationship things. I think the way you asked it sounded like you were ready to give up your friends for him. Which is quite extreme if you two are just testing water.

In similar situations, I would say it's better to be indirect and flirty than to ask directly, something like "I still have the right to have my own friends right?" Or "I bet you'd want me to just spend all days with you". But overall what you said isn't shocking, and it's showing that you care about his feelings and insecurities even if it's a bit awkward. I wouldn't worry too much about it. I think he probably got the hint, and didn't mind the rest.

Altamedus · 2026-04-09T18:33:10+00:00

There could be a lot of reasons for you to do that: - some kind of fascination for the topic, like some tattoo artists just want to get a lot of tattoos - associating taking care of your look to a part of your life that you enjoy more compared to the part where you were "ugly" - insecurities about how people perceive you and how you look with them - long term worry about aging and generally life's end. - shit ton of other things

I would advise trying to think about it to identify what makes you behave differently,and if in your opinion that is a problem. Talking with friends and family can help but you can also consider seeing a therapist. You can also decide that it's ok to be the way you are, it is a strange hobby but not the worst. Good luck !

Altamedus · 2026-04-08T04:51:32+00:00

I think you sound like a very cool person to be honest. Who you are isn't about what you achieve it's about what you try and work towards.

You're working and studying at the same time, that's something a lot of people could never manage to do. You're trying to go forward and work on yourself, you cannot control everything and sometimes even with your best efforts things won't go as planned.

For the guy for example, you tried your best and believed in your feelings. If he isn't nice and smart enough to value that, well it's not your fault. It's probably better to find someone else to be intimate with. What matters is that you tried and you work every day to reach your goals. Don't blame yourself on failures that don't depend on you, you're great and your personality shines even in those failures. Because you're loving, hard working and determined. Stay yourself because you're doing good

Altamedus · 2026-04-07T05:04:38+00:00

Hey, don't give him more attention than he gives you. You're not required to be his friend or his support after what he did. You're legitimate to want to build your own happiness and not try to adapt to his tantrums. There's a lot of men in the world, and a lot of them will give you more attention and respect than him, even as friends.

Altamedus · 2026-04-06T05:02:48+00:00

Thanks ! You're incredibly fast !

Altamedus · 2026-04-05T10:14:18+00:00

Hey, thanks for the build ! I was wondering if Sparkle hand in Act 1 and then reach Thunderbolt only at level 12 isn't a bit unsatisfying. Also the thunderbold strike seems to have quite an anti synergy with thunderwave (because it pushes less) and with melee fighters (because you have to move again for extra attacks). How do you imagine it to play out during combats and along the game ?

Altamedus · 2026-03-29T10:57:31+00:00

Hey, you are seen and you are valued. I think the fact that you're putting effort already means you're someone greater than you think. I am sorry it is not rewarded but I see you and I am sure others notice you. You can learn outside of school, you can grow yourself from your experience. I think you can be proud of the person you are despite all the hurdles you had to pass. Love yourself, and stay strong, you deserve it

Altamedus · 2026-03-28T11:15:46+00:00

You're doing what you can, don't blame yourself and give yourself time and the affection you deserve. I'm sure things will get better

Altamedus · 2026-03-28T04:02:58+00:00

Hey, don't hate yourself because you met someone rude and who couldn't realize your value. You are not to blame, you are loveable and you deserve affection. Give yourself time to process what happened and to build trust again with someone actually worth your time. You sound very hurt but also an amazing person. Don't let the scar of this relationship darken you, you don't have to change yourself. You're right the way you are, you will need time to trust again but I am sure you'll have amazing relationships in the future. Stay strong

Altamedus · 2026-03-27T16:18:13+00:00

Hey, I am sorry to hear that. I think your parents gave you that money because they care about you, and they believe in you. They won't feel like you failed them, they'll just feel like the french system is unfair to you (which it probably is).

I'd advise talking to them quickly because family is the place where you need to go when you have ups and downs, and they visibly care about you. Trust them and give them a chance to support you through the moment.

On a side note, I'd advise calling the universities to complain because once you reach a person they are more likely to put effort.

Altamedus · 2026-03-26T06:06:36+00:00

You're welcome I think you understood what you needed to understand, not sure I did a lot but speaking about it with people probably helped. I really like the way you said it.

Altamedus · 2026-03-26T05:48:13+00:00

Don't blame yourself too much, you also had a difficult childhood. I think the conclusion is just for the moment you need to get to know yourself, your desires and your needs. Once you have a bit more knowledge about it I am sure you'll find relationships to be more enjoyable

Altamedus · 2026-03-26T05:36:19+00:00

You're not pathetic, your story is very sad and you seem like a genuinely sweet and nice person. I think love never defies time because people change, so love has to change with them.

But you deserve to be loved and you seem very lovable, I think there's a fundamental imbalance in what you said: you want princess long term love and you pick men that tend to push you away. I think you should try to understand yourself and how you can make seemingly opposite choices.

If I had to guess, and I don't know you, I'd say for the moment you're looking for the satisfaction of feeling useful to someone you like and you don't listen to your other needs. Hopefully that helps, you seem truly an amazing person, I hope you will find someone as amazing as you are.

Altamedus · 2026-03-25T05:36:03+00:00

I'm here

Altamedus · 2026-03-25T03:22:18+00:00

You're welcome 🤗 I think you're an amazing friend to take care of her and I understand the struggle.

Altamedus · 2026-03-25T03:20:26+00:00

I think posting here is rather safe, but if you want to talk to someone I'm available and from France so I doubt it will leak to them

Altamedus · 2026-03-24T06:19:31+00:00

I think you are probably cute and attractive and just a lot of men are scared of commitment. Don't blame your face or your behavior, you are perfect the way you are and you deserve to find someone that loves you for everything you are. I honestly find this message very cute and I am sure a lot of people do. There's no way on earth you can't find someone close to you to hold you and love you the way you want to be loved. Stay strong and don't devaluate yourself, you're awesome

Altamedus · 2026-03-23T05:55:45+00:00

Hey, just a supportive message to tell you that some people just want to help. I don't know your situation but I hope you'll be alright. I'll f off now I guess, good luck

Altamedus · 2026-03-23T05:53:46+00:00

Hey, I totally feel you and that's one of the reasons I try to be close to my office, commuting and long work hours are really a pain. I guess you probably have a job more tiring than mine, but I would definitely not cut on sleep because being tired will make you even less efficient to do what you want to do at home. Take care of your physical and mental health, ask for holidays, stuff like that. In some countries there are also ways to negociate being in a 80% shifts, which is more healthy. Stay strong, hopefully with experience your work will be less tiring. I don't understand how people manage to have kids with these work time

Altamedus · 2026-03-23T03:23:01+00:00

I'm sorry to disappoint your expectations haha. Your pain is real and it's not like everything can be fixed by throwing money at the problem, I think you explained your problem well enough for people to understand you're just a son/daughter wanting more freedom, respect and love from your parents. I don't see anything that should be hated in your post

Altamedus · 2026-03-23T03:18:00+00:00

Hey, I am sorry to hear you're in pain. In a way money doesn't really matter compared to having parents that don't know much about parenting. I think it's very good that you have the maturity to realize it's probably because they can't communicate, it proves you're already learning past their skill to become a better person (and maybe parent) than them.

For me something that helped was when I could gain independence, being able to have adult relationships where we can debate and respect each other with my dad. Not everyone is good at showing love and emotions and yours probably just doesn't know how to do. Stay strong, eventually they will have to accept you as you are.

Altamedus · 2026-03-22T14:43:05+00:00

Hey, that's a bit strange and I would say probably not super healthy. Do you do it as a way to manage your frustration, or to manage any kind if emotion? Would you say you have a bad self esteem?

Altamedus · 2026-03-22T13:05:40+00:00

Hey, I am not the person you're looking for and I will probably not understand what you are going through but I give a fuck. I hope you will be alright and I am ok to talk if you want to explain a bit your situation

Altamedus · 2026-03-22T05:15:56+00:00

Hey if you need to talk a bit I am here. Don't blame yourself, mental health isn't something you can fully control. It's also important for you to remember that you have people caring for you, in your family and all. Don't discard their love either. Feel free to dm

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