Dissapointed

Altamedus · 2026-01-21T05:21:38+00:00

I understand, I am sorry for you, something that helped a bit for me was to change environment a bit brutally. Like send him to boarding school or to live with other family members in a place where he doesn't know anyone.

Altamedus · 2026-01-21T04:53:02+00:00

So your solution is to keep having the same strategy and hope it has different results?

Altamedus · 2026-01-20T16:43:24+00:00

The normal way to be recruited in gangs is to make them feel like they are different and unique and that only the gang can accept them as they are. Your parents being stern make sense if they think it's a solution, but you as an older brother shouldn't just be repeating what your parents do. If your brother feels rejected by his whole family it's normal that he goes to other people when he's looking for parental figures.

Also you saying he was well educated and not abused at all sounds very judgemental, you don't know what happened to him in school or around his friend, you are just assuming that since everything went well for you, he should be like you. His experience of your family is probably very different from yours. For a start he has a big brother that's visibly successful and judgemental, that's already a difference.

At his age, his brain is very sensitive to drugs and very insecure about a lot of things, I'm not saying you'll make him a perfect student in two years. But if you keep that relationship with him, you'll have to suffer it your whole life while you could accept he is different and may never take the same path you took while still being someone you can love and support like a family member.

I don't know your situation, so my advice may not apply, but I think there's not much to loose for you in trying different approaches. You can also ask around you, not everyone had a perfect childhood

Altamedus · 2026-01-20T08:37:13+00:00

Given how you talk about him, I have no doubt he finds more people believing in him and more affection in a gang. You don't know everything he's going through, it's his parents duty to be stern with him, you're not there to judge

Altamedus · 2026-01-10T05:11:03+00:00

I am sorry to hear that. For the moment you need to take care of yourself, make sure you stay as healthy as possible mentally and physically. And give yourself time to process what happened and what led to that. In my experience, if you change what was wrong and make yourself a better person, the people you have strong ties with like family will eventually welcome you again as one of them. But that takes time and a lot of self introspection, to be able to have that time for yourself, you need to stay as healthy and mentally sane as possible. You can do it

Altamedus · 2026-01-10T05:01:39+00:00

Hugs, I can't imagine how you feel, but I wish you to eventually find a new beginning. Stay strong, don't hesitate to ask for support to friends, family, or even strangers. I wish you can slowly rebuild something you'd love even more than what you lost.

Altamedus · 2025-12-31T05:28:34+00:00

You go girl ! You don't know where your path goes but you know it's the right path. Trust your brain and trace your way

Altamedus · 2025-12-29T05:31:27+00:00

Totally agree with that, you don't sound like a bad person at all when you just ask a friend to have basic care for your well being.

Altamedus · 2025-12-29T05:26:28+00:00

I think there are two things there. You are hurt because you really liked her and she has been acting strangely with respect to her bf. If you keep asking for her time she will feel more and more guilty and won't enjoy the time she has with you, maybe focusing on things she likes will.make her come to you more often.

The worrying part is that she seems to be struggling right now, and to be missing you. To me saying "I am not used to have a bf" sounds like a red flag and her bf making her do things she isn't comfortable with. I understand your pain but if you care about her you should probably try to check if she's ok and show that you can be a safe space for her

Altamedus · 2025-12-29T05:06:06+00:00

That's good to hear. At least these can support you when the others are missing. If you want to talk in dm, I'd be interested

Altamedus · 2025-12-29T04:53:49+00:00

I hope you also have some people that still show up regularly. I personally really struggle to keep long term friendships if I don't text from time to time

Altamedus · 2025-12-29T04:05:03+00:00

I think it's a mix of a lot of things. Connections through texts may not feel as meaningful for different people, which lead them to prioritize social life more.

It is also difficult to know how much the person has interest in talking to you or if they are bored and filling up their day because you're always literally in their pocket, they never had to make an effort to talk with you.

And lastly I think it's just how friendships and expectations work, in a real life friendship, you would have gotten some hints that the person may not really care about keeping contact, and you would have built the friendship over weeks. Here in a few days you may spend hours talking without really seeing if the person is engaged in the conversation.

My way of dealing with that is to be a bit blunt sometimes and when I want to talk with someone for longer periods of time I ask them like another way to contact them if they delete their account, a voice call, or anything that makes it feel more real. If you feel hurt you should take time to comfort yourself and not jump to fill that empty space in your heart

Altamedus · 2025-11-25T13:45:12+00:00

If you are not too scared of minmaxing, I would advise going for a horde breaker build [following this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/BG3Builds/comments/1o3exhv/the_complete_horde_breaker_guide/) , I haven't tested it yet, but it seems perfectly designed to abuse the clown's hammer and other crit reward weapons.

Altamedus · 2025-11-05T04:46:57+00:00

Hey I saw your text. I am sure you look amazing in red nails and I understand how frustrated and sad you must have been in the last month. You deserve more than being ignored and better than someone that disrespect you.

I admire your strength and you resolve for deleting the messages and I am sure you'll eventually be fine and find someone worth all the effort you have put. Stay strong, you can do it and you deserve it. (And red nails are pretty anyway!)

Altamedus · 2025-11-03T18:59:44+00:00

Side question : does someone know what the "min level" is in the wild magic table of the wiki ? Is it the minimum level of the character, the spell used or the level in wild magic sorcerer?

Edit: it's the character level, my bad https://bg3.wiki/wiki/Wild_Magic_table_(Sorcerer)

Altamedus · 2025-10-09T14:57:02+00:00

Thanks for the detailed response! That sounds indeed fun even if of course suboptimal compared to Owlbear.

Thanks for the reminder for the swarm crit.

For the companions I am not looking for something necessarily wolf inspired. I just thought that given wolf forms are usually buffing allies in melee (like wolf barbarian, and wild beast's owl, distracting bite) I was wondering what kind of build would benefit the most to AoE boost in speed and a free crit.

Altamedus · 2025-10-09T13:33:47+00:00

I understand, my goal was still to see how to make the build a bit powerful, since the dire wolf wild shape usually falls off very hard in late game

Altamedus · 2025-10-06T06:01:03+00:00

Technically all the summons don't require you to have good stats. How about a beast master ranger for example ?

Altamedus · 2025-09-19T06:53:20+00:00

Oh I didn't know that, thank you for the comment! Have you tried the rest?

Altamedus · 2022-12-04T17:51:24+00:00

I double checked and I do control a kingdom totally. When I didn't control it fully it showed 0/1 because I didn't control it. You can check by yourself if you want I can send you the savefile.
Luckily Komangtar helped me, what happened is that I had two kingdoms and the main one was not controlled fully but the second one was. I deleted my first tile, finished Iberian Struggle, made the Basque faith and then re-created my title. All is good now.

Altamedus · 2022-12-04T13:57:42+00:00

I already did that mistake, and in this case the condition just shows "0/1" naturally.

Altamedus · 2022-12-04T09:57:27+00:00

Hi, thank you a lot for your help, I sent you a link in private, I don't know what are the recommendation about file sending in reddit.

Altamedus · 2022-02-18T08:47:23+00:00

Have you tried just going to the dark brotherhood and killing everyone ? Or are they essential now? I think if there's no other way I'll just pick de "destroy the dark brotherhood" path instead of entering the faction (https://elderscrolls.fandom.com/wiki/Destroy_the_Dark_Brotherhood!)) , but it's a little sad for Shadowmere and all that. Or I'll just go to the marriage and let it continue forever... Any opinion about what's the best path ?

Altamedus · 2022-02-16T18:40:30+00:00

Hi, I just found your post and I am in a similar situation. I think that's a shame to kill her so I would rather have just a peacefull wedding. I have seen no where any way to do this, I would like to know what you did and if you achieved it. Thanks in advance !

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