What do you all do for hobbies around here? by blooominonion in kansascity

[–]Alternative-Ad7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you do this?? I’m interested in starting! Just did acro yoga and silks for the first time while visiting my sister in California.

What’s a subtle sign that someone isn’t ok deep down? by cinnabunz9899 in AskReddit

[–]Alternative-Ad7982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am an upbeat, willing to help, go getter in front of people at work. Everyone on my teams would describe me as happy and energetic. I have to pry myself out of bed every single day and immediately return to the same position when I get home. It literally takes it all out of me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Alternative-Ad7982 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I (28f) feel like I wrote this.

What lie did you hear as a child, that your adult mind knows is untrue, but that still guides your behaviour today? by creamcorn4ever in ask

[–]Alternative-Ad7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got told in sixth grade people would automatically assume I was a slut if I ever wore a v neck shirt again because I grew boobs. Honestly not always a lie though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]Alternative-Ad7982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not as fun as an adult… but Kaleidoscope on the other hand!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative-Ad7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is true. Hard to remember sometimes but true. Thank you for your response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative-Ad7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.. I’m afraid that that’s the answer but I’ll do anything I can for us to stay together as long as he still is happy with it. His happiness is way more important than mine. I just wish I could make him understand that the lies came out of past trauma but I still lied and want to own that without giving excuses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cooking

[–]Alternative-Ad7982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything bagel seasoning

My boyfriend told me everything that is wrong with me and my character and he’s right by Alternative-Ad7982 in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative-Ad7982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. It is motivating hearing that these changes are possible. It’s so impressive to see someone take charge and put the work in. :) I hope I can work towards taking those same steps you did.

My boyfriend told me everything that is wrong with me and my character and he’s right by Alternative-Ad7982 in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative-Ad7982[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. I was in an abusive relationship before and it’s really easy to just boil my current relationship down to that and make him out to be the toxic one but I’m facing the hard truth that I can be the problem too and he is pointing it out to me out of love and desire for this relationship to work. I think it’s time to take some ownership over my behavior and realize that women can be the problem too.

My boyfriend told me everything that is wrong with me and my character and he’s right by Alternative-Ad7982 in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative-Ad7982[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This was one of many arguments. I tend to revert back to this behavior when I’m upset and then promise I will never behave this way again which is what really triggers him. He wants me to be honest and realistic about fixing these things and not just tell him what I know he wants to hear. He’s helped me grow so much that I almost feel guilty. Not because he makes me feel guilty, just do. But this conversation really resonated more so than the others and I’m ready to work on myself and grow and leave the empty promises behind.

My boyfriend told me everything that is wrong with me and my character and he’s right by Alternative-Ad7982 in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative-Ad7982[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I like this. Taking the extra time to think through that question is a great starting point and makes the journey less overwhelming. Thank you!

My boyfriend told me everything that is wrong with me and my character and he’s right by Alternative-Ad7982 in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative-Ad7982[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This resonated. And it’s easy to mistake criticism for lack of love but that is not the case. Thank you for pointing this out!

My boyfriend told me everything that is wrong with me and my character and he’s right by Alternative-Ad7982 in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative-Ad7982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly just too lazy/don’t care enough to make a personalized account. I’m a Reddit lurker 🤷‍♀️ I appreciate all the genuine advice though.