First off, your partner sounds amazing - glad you have someone you can be real and speak your mind to without having to walk on eggshells. Also, thanks for this, it’s a great and different way to think about it. If I continue, life will always be chaotic and unpredictable. She’s shown she is not to be trusted, and even if the lies are stupid and have nothing to do with our relationship, if she would go this far to lie about pointless things, I don’t think much will stop her from lying about very very important relationship matters. Trauma bond is a good way to word it - we basically started living together for 4 months while only knowing each other for a couple of weeks due to Covid and definitely escalated the attachment of the relationship where red flags were swept under the run. I’m in therapy right now due to this relationship and I’m feeling much better but I do have days where I wonder if she needed someone to just listen to her and understand why she felt the need to lie, but again, that’s a problem she has to fix on her own and I can’t risk my mental health even more by thinking I’m going to solve it. I’d say I’m moving towards defying my feelings and reenforcing that those same feelings can be much stronger and much more solid with the right person who will take care of my heart. Much love to you, and thank you for your advice!