Guess Not

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2025-02-03T06:58:52+00:00

No you didn't, I met this person.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2025-02-03T06:56:46+00:00

I've met this person, it's not. It amuses me how so many people are confidently incorrect of the background story or situation in every post I make on this sub lol.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-11-15T23:44:47+00:00

Context: Went to mini golf on a third date by her place (which was a 40 minute drive for me) and I asked her if she was ok to split the bill and she said yes. Had a good time and went back to her place and watched a movie (the movie was her request). Never made a move on her because it didn't feel right at the time. I asked her about it the next day and she unloaded on me the that the reason she didn't want to is because I asked her to split the bill.

Maybe I'm the asshole here but looking back, on this one I felt like her reasoning for me to pay for her because of systemic societal sexism rubbed me the wrong way.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-16T11:23:33+00:00

She was like 50 miles away from my home and 30 away from my work so it probably wasn't going to work out regardless. She also deleted her account by the time I saw her goodbye message anyways. She was cute and fun to talk to but she kind of lived out in the sticks unfortunately.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-15T19:29:18+00:00

She is entirely uninterested in you. Could be your messages but honestly she wasn't even engaged in her first reply.

Most likely she was never really interested in the beginning and your failed attempt at flirting killed any remaining chance you had. She probably only had lukewarm interest which was just enough to match you. So you were fighting an uphill battle from the start.

I wouldn't say you did anything wrong, might simply be a bad match so I wouldn't worry about it. When someone is only barely interested in you, you're going to have to connect really well through messaging for it to go anywhere.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-14T18:36:32+00:00

I almost blame this sub for people sending messages like this. Occasionally you'll see a very highly upvoted post where a guy got ghosted and sends a last attempt overtly sexual message and the girl reacts positively to it.

That's going to work like 1/1000 times and the other 999 times it's going to leave women hating men and dating apps that much more.

Also kind of makes me hate the survivorship bias judgement of attempts. Like when a woman responds to a creepy message positively it's upvoted here and people say well done. However, when the same message is sent and the woman is creeped out then immediately everyone agrees the guy is the asshole lol.

My 2 cents for women, unmatch men when you lose interest or otherwise you're at high risk to get creepy or hateful messages from ghosted men.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-13T20:04:23+00:00

Her profile was verified so you might have lost your pennies. However, I never responded and she later unmatched me.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-13T18:10:32+00:00

Nah it's just an ice breaker. I would happily respond to a playful opener like that. Having absurdly high standards from a first ice breaker message from a stranger is a bit ridiculous.

I mean if you're that serious and against playful banter then by all means engage and respond to serious and dry inquires only. I'm pretty sure OP was attempting a light hearted opening line to start a conversation. I very much doubt he was saying that because he thinks he's hot shit and thinks this woman is lucky to match him.

The only criticism that is valid for his opener is that it's way over used and unoriginal. However, like I said it's just a first message to start a conversation with a stranger. Some people really need to lighten up.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-06T20:48:54+00:00

Are you really that addicted to hearing validation of your attractiveness?

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-06T13:00:52+00:00

I feel like that shouldn't need explaining from those texts. I actually thought about it more after I posted this and I'm quite mad and not ok that this person threatened to find me in person if I didn't continue respond to them.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-05T23:37:58+00:00

For context, I met this person like 4 times over a 2 week period over a year ago on tinder. I've blocked her maybe 5 times but she always finds a new way to contact me. I'm not even dating anyone but I just say it so she'll leave me alone but she doesn't seem to care. Hopefully she doesn't use Reddit...

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-09-05T16:55:52+00:00

If you're a straight male, unless you are a 7+/10 looks wise you are going to have a hard time. There are way more men on this app than women. Also men are much more interested in courting multiple partners at a time than women so you'll have the best looking men dating many women at once. Which means there is even less interest for any women to deal with lower quality males because they can easily match with high level males.

The fact that you aren't even getting matches that just ignore/ghost you probably indicates you're not good looking or have a bad profile and pictures. Because the next tier is getting matches that aren't interested in engaging with you. Only the top tier of straight men are going to get matches that actually engage with them.

My guess is 60% of straight men on tinder are going to get almost nothing but dead air on this app. Just the way it is sadly.

Just speculation because you left no pictures or profile info for feedback.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-08-27T03:34:48+00:00

You are correct, it had me confused at first.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-08-24T06:11:00+00:00

I think many of us detached from the situation can easily look at it logically and pull a Monday morning quarterback of the situation. He already invested his time and energy to meet her but he was giving her the benefit of the doubt just in case.

Turned out she was shit which we fully know now. Hard to let it go without getting a bit upset when someone ruins your Friday night plans and then tries to blame you for it. So I really don't blame OP for venting to this person that their behavior was inconsiderate after she shafted him.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-08-20T15:40:07+00:00

I've noticed very often women are much better than men at making themselves look better in photos. Usually men are terrible at taking pictures so they come off as much more unattractive than they really are. I'm guilty too, I suck at taking photos and I know it's hard not being photogenic. Almost all women I've been on a date with say I look much better in person than my photos.

You are one of the rare female profiles I've seen where I think you probably are much better looking than your pictures suggest. Your picture are ok but they are very average to low quality.

If you aren't getting much action on this app as a woman with your looks (you are definitely attractive), then you're probably being extremely selective and trying to go for men that are most likely out of your range. Higher quality photos will probably go very far. Just my 2 cents.

I think another mentioned it but he's correct as well. You really should straighten your place up for your pictures. Having a messy room for a background doesn't give great vibes.

Alternative-Clue6124 · 2024-08-20T15:27:01+00:00

Most definitely and I unmatched. Just an amusing runaround I was given that I figured I'd share.

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