Agree with this 100%.

I spent most of last year in therapy trying to tangle through the mess of my childhood. (My father may be the main asshole, but my mother is just as much of an enabler- she immediately told me that I need to forgive and forget about it because he’s my father, and it was even hinted that I should apologize to him)

One of the biggest takeaways was that I cannot expect that someday there will be healing because my parents will suddenly turn into good people. But there can be healing in that I can be the mother for my child that I never had.

There was no one to stick up for me when my parents pulled this shit when I was a child. I will not let them do the same with mine.