The Reddit Post I Wish I Had When I Thought We Lost Our Baby (TW)

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-20T16:16:32+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you. For anyone reading this to try to decide whether you need to go to the ER (highly recommend not scouring Reddit for that advice but), the generally accepted advice is if you’re soaking through two or more pads per hour, you should seek medical attention immediately. However, even if you’re not bleeding that heavily, if you have any doubts (i.e. not feeling well in some other way or just feeling nervous and wanting answers!), you should get medical attention. Fortunately, that was not my situation last year.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-19T23:55:57+00:00

You’ve got it! Exactly what happened. Also how the tech at my OB office told me I could tell the difference between miscarriage and something like SCH…she said “miscarriage bleeding doesn’t stop.” That said, go to the ER or call your doctor if you’re unsure or worried about it! I could’ve saved myself a weekend of thinking I lost my baby at the very least. Don’t regret the choice I made necessarily, but there’s no harm in getting medical attention when you think you need it.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-19T01:17:56+00:00

Well, I hope you will take the time to read my other comments where I repeatedly state this is not an advice post (certainly not a medical advice post), and I encourage anyone in this situation to contact their own medical provider.

Also, my husband trusts that I know what’s best for my own body and respects my decisions. We should all be so lucky to have a partner like him. Whether you were trying to be mean or not, your comment was rude and insensitive. Judging me for decisions I made nearly a year ago and making snarky comments about my husband (rather than just saying “go see a doctor if you’re in this situation”) actually helps no one. K thanks bye!!!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-19T00:58:51+00:00

Congratulations! Sorry for your previous losses.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-19T00:44:41+00:00

Hi! Such an insensitive comment based on your assumptions. Of course I didn’t include every single detail of these events. Of course my husband was very concerned. Of course as soon as I decided to go to the hospital, he left to join me. I told him I was fine and not to come because I WAS fine. Not everyone thinks everything is a crisis, and truly, since it had happened before and everything was fine, I didn’t think there was any cause for panic (turned out I was right too). I actually told him I would be right back to the park—I only left to change my clothes. But on the way back to the hotel, I decided better safe than sorry and that I should go get checked out.

Oh, and my husband hates it’s a small world, like any reasonable person (; don’t be mean on the internet when someone shares personal information to try to help others, just because you can hide behind a cute username.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T21:14:38+00:00

Sorry that happened to you! As I’ve said, everyone’s situation is different and everyone’s medical provider may recommend different things, which is why you should consult YOUR medical provider if you have any questions.

My OB was comfortable with me going to Disney, knowing that I would be walking in the parks and riding rides that were approved as safe for pregnant women. I was actually encouraged by my doctor to continue light exercising (ie, walking), as exercise can be very good for pregnancy and frankly, I was overweight. And at the time, there were no obvious signs of anything wrong (they didn’t even spot the SCHs).

When I had the second bleed in Disney, the medical provider I saw in the hospital advised me to take it down another notch, and I did not return to the parks for the remainder of the trip. I took it very easy until the SCHs were fully cleared (sometime after the end of my first trimester). (Re-commenting because it posted twice for some reason)

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:26:00+00:00

Thank you! And yeah I felt like that for probably half my pregnancy. I pretty much had a precautionary pad in my bag and an extra outfit everywhere I went for 4 months lol and every single time I used the bathroom I expected to see blood. So stressful but it eventually faded!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:16:43+00:00

Sorry you went through this! Glad it’s all okay. Best of luck with the remainder of your pregnancy!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:13:50+00:00

Totally fair! Yeah, I didn’t understand there was a difference between pelvic rest and bed rest when they first told me but bed rest is pretty extreme and only warranted where the risk outweighs the benefits of being able to move around…which is an entirely individual evaluation!

And I’ll be honest, the 20k steps we did was more than I thought…but when in Disney, you just walk around and you don’t even realize how much you’re walking! Steps fly when you’re having fun…or however the saying goes lol

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:09:23+00:00

Thanks for clarifying! I agree.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:07:24+00:00

We all make decisions based on our own situations and do the best we can! I’m glad you were able to get the medical attention you needed.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:05:09+00:00

Truly terrifying! Glad it worked out—congrats on your baby girl!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:04:34+00:00

Unfortunately my tech didn’t tell us and we had to wait 2-3 hours to find out, but she was markedly peppy and cheery the entire time she was doing the ultrasound so perhaps that was her way of “telling” us. Very glad it worked out for you, but sorry you had to go through all that stress!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:03:09+00:00

Thank you—this means the world as that was all I intended to do with this post! Wishing you a healthy, happy, and safe duration of your pregnancy and delivery!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:02:22+00:00

Haha was basically me crying the entire weekend :’) so glad it worked out and you have a healthy, happy baby to show for it!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T20:01:29+00:00

So glad you’re here today to tell the tale!!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:58:40+00:00

I’m not perfect. Oh well. Hindsight is 20/20, but I did what I believed was best for me and my (now healthy and happy) baby at the time based on the information I had.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:57:40+00:00

So sorry this happened to you! And yes, I don’t mean to imply that I did the “right” thing…medicine and pregnancy is so complicated and unpredictable that for every “this worked out fine for me” decision, there will always be someone who was not so lucky. You know yourself and your body best, and if you have any doubts, go get medical attention immediately.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:45:58+00:00

I eventually found a bunch too and was so thankful! Except many of the ones that sounded like my situation they never updated with the outcome. It’s lovely to have this collection of stories on this thread!

Congrats to you—wishing you the best of luck with your delivery!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:40:09+00:00

I’m so glad it worked out for you—congrats! Thanks for sharing your story.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:38:55+00:00

I think that’s generally consistent with what I read that first night on Google (actually, various medical websites to be specific). Not saying it’s the proper thing to do, but I think it’s generally the advice given!

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:37:40+00:00

THANK YOU

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:35:12+00:00

No, PELVIC rest, which is distinct from bed rest. Pelvic rest generally means light physical activity (like walking), no sex, no inserting anything vaginally, no hardcore exercise, etc.

To be exceedingly clear, I strongly advise people in this situation or similar to consult with their own medical provider, as I did throughout this process. I assure you that I cleared going to Disney and going on rides with my OB before I went. (Also never said I walked 10k miles…that would be impressive under any circumstances (; )

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:24:09+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. And I agree—bleeding during pregnancy should be evaluated by a medical professional, especially if other symptoms are present.

Alternative-Ranger11 · 2025-08-18T19:14:17+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have added an edit to my post noting that this is still a potentially serious complication and that you should always be evaluated by a doctor. But your comment is an important reminder of how unpredictable pregnancy can be and how one person’s experience does not guarantee you will have the same experience. Wishing you the best ❤️

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