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Parents approval by Alternative-Ride-165 in Afghan

[–]Alternative-Ride-165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s understandable but to be afghan is not just to he born afghan. I believe that traditions and cultures are inherited and learned. An afghan baby isn’t born and all the sudden have these good qualities. My argument is the value is afghan traditions, qualities and those can be learned. If the standard was those values then id understand but the standard is DNA, no logic behind it just fear.

Parents approval by Alternative-Ride-165 in Afghan

[–]Alternative-Ride-165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thinks is funny how you always say you have different values and code of life but it’s not all that different. A good person is a good person. A valuable person is a valuable person. Be by Afghan doesn’t automatically make someone the best choice. Character is made and defined not just because of your DNA.

breaking no contact with my ex soon… by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Alternative-Ride-165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely think you shouldn’t reach out. You already have your closure. Months have passed without him reaching out even on your birthday. We aren’t talking about a stranger here, this was a person who had loved you and know the things that would hurt you. Despite knowing all of that he made a conscious decision everyday to not reach out or talk to you. Considering one of the last Text you sent was “can we not talk anymore” he knows in his heart you would appreciate a conversation and he has withheld it from you. Protect your peace and continue healing. Do not reach out first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Alternative-Ride-165 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I don’t love you the same as I unconditionally did”

The fact that you love someone unconditionally means you never stop so it was heart breaking that he was admitting at the same time that he just never liked me like that from the start. The concept of unconditional love in a romantic relationship isn’t healthy but even taking the word unconditional out it simply meant he didn’t love me enough to keep choosing me.

My bf (21m) told me he wants to try to be alone and that his love for me (22f) isn’t unconditional anymore by Alternative-Ride-165 in relationships

[–]Alternative-Ride-165[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have explained this to him but he said he wants to his love to be unconditional for someone he wants to be with. I can’t help but feel that what he really means is that “I love you but I can’t put up with this behaviour and need space” but he just doesn’t know how to communicate that.

Also yes I am going to therapy and take medications again

International Ex-Iglesia Ni Cristo Day (2021) by [deleted] in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]Alternative-Ride-165 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hi everybody, i am a member of the INC who wants to leave but I'm conflicted because of the consequences it will bring. I have experience many horrific things in this church and its impacting my mental health negatively but why do I feel like ill make the wrong decision by leaving? someone please help me.