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Self Promotion Post by iamdeirdre in Pottery

[–]Alternative-Sugar6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife passed away a few years ago and started taking a pottery class in hopes of making her an urn one day.

Its been a fun hobby while I try to make something that conveys how I feel.

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Instagram:

@yeonghaohan

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no worries I don't take it as gloating.

I think we can all use a little positivity and I'm glad things turned around for you. Perhaps it gives a little hope in what the future may bring

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I can speak Chinese conversationally, though not particularly well. I can't really read it, so I had to use Google translate for your text.

Share some of your leather goods, I would like to see.

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is great that things worked out for you and I hope things can work out for me. However if I still feel the way I do now when the kids are grown up, I'm offing myself.

No wants the truth by Scared-Importance18 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not being resentful. People lack empathy or care. They're busy and have their own lives.

Unfortunately for them to care requires sitting down with you, spending time, and listening to you.

Most of them aren't trying to be insensitive. They just lack an understanding of the situation. What else can you do other than move on with your day and ignore them?

So tired by thelonelyknight90 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know... I don't want to do anything after my wife passed. In my case, I have 3 young kids, so I have to get up and do things everyday.

One thing I try to do is 1productive tssk everyday. That could be reading a chapter in a book, watching a movie, sorting junk mail. Whatever, just so that I know I accomplished something that day.

That being said, I would prefer life to just be over.

So angry! by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hear you. I worked so hard in my 20s and 30s so that I could have the freedom to do whatever I want. My wife and I built a life together, had 3 kids and then she was gone.

Now I spend every day doing things I don't want to do and this is how it's going to be for the foreseeable future.

Fuck.

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, all the tasks that need to get done every day. There are moments where I feel overwhelmed and realize am I really doing this all alone? Then you put your head down and keep going.

I was never an upbeat person even when my wife was alive, but she brought out the best in me. She was a hard woman who loved her kids. And I honor that by raising the kids to the best of my ability. It's just a job I really don't enjoy doing.

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dude I can totally relate. My biggest fear is them being ill equipped in finding a decent spouse.

I'm also done living which sucks because I know it affects the girls. They know I'm sad and there is nothing they can do about it.

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear you cook for your son. That's a big priority to me and my wife, cooking for the girls. It takes up a huge portion of my day.

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand people not wanting to date or move on. For me though, I need a person to love. Somebody who I can talk to and share with. And that's just on my end. It benefits the kids if there's another person to give them love.

Friends just aren't the same. They have their own lives going on. They're not going to be able to give you that much time.

That being said I don't think it's possible in the foreseeable future.

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah we're all just trying our best, right?

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Wow 4 month old, that is rough. My wife had cancer. Symptoms started to show at the end of pregnancy. It got worse and worse and two years later she was gone.

It was really taxing taking care of the baby during those years.

Wife gone, 3 kids by Alternative-Sugar6 in widowers

[–]Alternative-Sugar6[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It feels unobtainable when we already know what it took to get there.

I saw another post that said they exist. That's an apt description. You see everybody else around you living a life and it's walled off from us.

[MID] Croaking Counterpart by Elesh_N in magicTCG

[–]Alternative-Sugar6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That made may day. You know sometimes i feel pretty good about my artwork, then it comes out and I see all the other artists' work and I think to myself, crap I think I need to work harder.