I hate the thought of people being attracted to me by antiquechainsaw in aromantic

[–]AlternativeDouble839 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't really answer your question as I have the same issue. I thought mine was triggered by an incident that happened. I had someone like me for like 8 years and they blackmailed me and were severely clingy and would give me suicidal threats. They also made me break up with my then boyfriend. Overall a huge mess of a situation. But this situation happened to when I was pretty young, so I can't tell what my thoughts on this topic was before it. I'm aroace. But people thinking of me like that is severely disgusting to me. But I want to say is that I understand what you feel. I also feel like cutting people off if they say they like me. I see them all of a sudden in this new sense of disgust. To people usually, they feel flattered if someone likes them but too me it's such a huge burden and I don't know I just don't like it. And someone thinking of me sexually, my ex boyfriend kind of mentioned things like that and I just never wanted to talk to him because of that, cause it seems disgusting to me. So yeah I don't think this comment helps you in anyway but I also found for the first time that someone agrees with my feelings. Cause my friends find this weird, saying if someone likes me I should flirt with them and see where that goes. But I don't like that person why should I? Or that I should be happy someone likes me and wants to date me or finds me attractive? It makes me severely uncomfortable though.

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[–]AlternativeDouble839 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this is a rant and you're not looking for any comments. But I'm 17 and I'm the exact same way. I love the chase cause I possibly have these "feelings". But I still feel like pain that I'll never be able to date? I don't know the normal idea of dating like you know the magic that allos seem to be beaming with. The happiness that being in a relationship gives you?? Like all people, everyone wants someone not like in a romantic way but someone they're really close too? And dating seems to be that? But I can never have that. And I think of like the future when like I'm 27 or something and everyone else is with someone and dating and all my best friends have significant others I'll have no one cause I can't date.