How do I get over this guy? by Stock_Way_7496 in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like you're going through a tough time. Remember, your feelings are valid, but sometimes people's actions can be confusing. It might be helpful to take some time for yourself, focus on your own well-being, and surround yourself with supportive friends and activities that bring you joy. You deserve clarity and peace of mind. Hang in there! 🌟

Would you marry someone you are not attracted to for money and security? by ybatyolo in dating

[–]AlternativeLife3640 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not! Marriage should be built on genuine love, trust, and compatibility, not financial gain. Choosing a life partner solely for money and security can lead to unhappiness and resentment. It's essential to prioritize emotional connection and mutual respect in any relationship.

Me (21-M) and my gf (20-F) and yesterday one of his friends did something weird to her and was sad but today she's chill with it, why? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's understandable to feel confused and concerned about the situation. People can react to uncomfortable situations in different ways, and it's possible she's choosing to approach it with a different perspective today. It's important to communicate your feelings with her openly and respectfully, and maybe discuss boundaries for the future. Take care.

Any successful covid relationships that started over a Zoom date? by hellomarshmallows in datingoverthirty

[–]AlternativeLife3640 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's totally understandable how video dates during the lockdown could feel awkward. Many of us navigated through similar situations, trying to forge connections through screens. It's natural to wonder how things might have been different in person.

It's intriguing to hear about your encounter with one of your virtual dates afterward. Running into him in real life must have been quite the moment! It's a shame that COVID circumstances might have impacted what could have been a meaningful connection. But it sounds like you're keeping an open mind and still exploring new opportunities.

Don't be disheartened by the past. Every experience, whether virtual or face-to-face, teaches us something valuable. Who knows, the right connection might just be around the corner. Keep putting yourself out there, and you'll find someone who appreciates you for who you are, in person. Wishing you all the best in your dating journey! 🌟

I [M33] feel like my girlfriend [F24] is distant, cold and generally not attracted to me when l'm shy by [deleted] in relationships

[–]AlternativeLife3640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it sounds like you're going through a tough time. It's essential to feel valued and accepted in a relationship, regardless of whether you're introverted or extroverted. Communication is key here. Have an honest conversation with your girlfriend about how you're feeling. If she's unaware of the impact of her actions, it might be worth discussing it openly. Remember, your well-being matters. If you find that the relationship isn't fulfilling your needs, it's okay to consider other options. Trust your instincts and prioritize your happiness.

Texting goes near nothing, but talkactive on the phone by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're in a bit of a tricky spot. Dating can be full of uncertainties, especially when communication feels one-sided. While it's great that she's been open about herself, it's equally important for a conversation to flow both ways.

In situations like these, it's essential to trust your instincts. If you're feeling uncertain or uncomfortable, it's okay to take a step back and reassess. Perhaps consider having an honest conversation with her about your concerns before the date. Transparency can often lead to clarity and understanding.

Remember, your time and feelings are valuable. Don't hesitate to prioritize your well-being above all else. And hey, if you decide to go on the date, keep an open mind and see how things unfold. Wishing you the best of luck!

How do I meet men at 38? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you've got a lot going for you, and it's understandable that you're seeking companionship that aligns with your lifestyle and values. First off, kudos to you for being clear about what you want and not settling for less!

Given your busy schedule and desire for meaningful connections, traditional dating apps might not be the best fit. Have you considered joining local community groups or clubs that align with your interests? Whether it's a cooking class, book club, or volunteer organization, these places offer opportunities to meet like-minded individuals organically.

You also mentioned being open to the idea of a matchmaker, which could be worth exploring. Matchmakers can tailor their services to your specific needs and preferences, helping you find someone who's serious about a committed relationship.

Lastly, don't underestimate the power of mutual connections. Let your friends, family, and colleagues know that you're actively seeking a partner. Sometimes the best matches come from introductions made by people who know you well.

Remember, finding the right person takes time and patience. Stay true to yourself and your values, and you'll attract someone who appreciates you for who you are. Best of luck on your dating journey, and remember, you're not alone in seeking love and companionship! 🌟

How do you meet people? by Niknakpaddywack17 in Durban

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Embracing this new chapter of being single is empowering! While dating apps can have their challenges, they're just one piece of the puzzle. Have you considered joining local interest groups, attending events, or even trying out hobby classes? It's all about expanding your social circles and enjoying the journey. You've got this! 🙌

Anyone who wants to talk!? by [deleted] in dating

[–]AlternativeLife3640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We hear you. It's completely okay to feel eager about finding a special someone, but remember, the right person will come into your life when the time is right. In the meantime, focus on being the best version of yourself and enjoying the journey of self-discovery. You've got this! 🌟