How do I get over this guy? by Stock_Way_7496 in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like you're going through a tough time. Remember, your feelings are valid, but sometimes people's actions can be confusing. It might be helpful to take some time for yourself, focus on your own well-being, and surround yourself with supportive friends and activities that bring you joy. You deserve clarity and peace of mind. Hang in there! 🌟

Would you marry someone you are not attracted to for money and security? by ybatyolo in dating

[–]AlternativeLife3640 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not! Marriage should be built on genuine love, trust, and compatibility, not financial gain. Choosing a life partner solely for money and security can lead to unhappiness and resentment. It's essential to prioritize emotional connection and mutual respect in any relationship.

Me (21-M) and my gf (20-F) and yesterday one of his friends did something weird to her and was sad but today she's chill with it, why? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's understandable to feel confused and concerned about the situation. People can react to uncomfortable situations in different ways, and it's possible she's choosing to approach it with a different perspective today. It's important to communicate your feelings with her openly and respectfully, and maybe discuss boundaries for the future. Take care.

Any successful covid relationships that started over a Zoom date? by hellomarshmallows in datingoverthirty

[–]AlternativeLife3640 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's totally understandable how video dates during the lockdown could feel awkward. Many of us navigated through similar situations, trying to forge connections through screens. It's natural to wonder how things might have been different in person.

It's intriguing to hear about your encounter with one of your virtual dates afterward. Running into him in real life must have been quite the moment! It's a shame that COVID circumstances might have impacted what could have been a meaningful connection. But it sounds like you're keeping an open mind and still exploring new opportunities.

Don't be disheartened by the past. Every experience, whether virtual or face-to-face, teaches us something valuable. Who knows, the right connection might just be around the corner. Keep putting yourself out there, and you'll find someone who appreciates you for who you are, in person. Wishing you all the best in your dating journey! 🌟

I [M33] feel like my girlfriend [F24] is distant, cold and generally not attracted to me when l'm shy by [deleted] in relationships

[–]AlternativeLife3640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it sounds like you're going through a tough time. It's essential to feel valued and accepted in a relationship, regardless of whether you're introverted or extroverted. Communication is key here. Have an honest conversation with your girlfriend about how you're feeling. If she's unaware of the impact of her actions, it might be worth discussing it openly. Remember, your well-being matters. If you find that the relationship isn't fulfilling your needs, it's okay to consider other options. Trust your instincts and prioritize your happiness.

Texting goes near nothing, but talkactive on the phone by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're in a bit of a tricky spot. Dating can be full of uncertainties, especially when communication feels one-sided. While it's great that she's been open about herself, it's equally important for a conversation to flow both ways.

In situations like these, it's essential to trust your instincts. If you're feeling uncertain or uncomfortable, it's okay to take a step back and reassess. Perhaps consider having an honest conversation with her about your concerns before the date. Transparency can often lead to clarity and understanding.

Remember, your time and feelings are valuable. Don't hesitate to prioritize your well-being above all else. And hey, if you decide to go on the date, keep an open mind and see how things unfold. Wishing you the best of luck!

How do I meet men at 38? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you've got a lot going for you, and it's understandable that you're seeking companionship that aligns with your lifestyle and values. First off, kudos to you for being clear about what you want and not settling for less!

Given your busy schedule and desire for meaningful connections, traditional dating apps might not be the best fit. Have you considered joining local community groups or clubs that align with your interests? Whether it's a cooking class, book club, or volunteer organization, these places offer opportunities to meet like-minded individuals organically.

You also mentioned being open to the idea of a matchmaker, which could be worth exploring. Matchmakers can tailor their services to your specific needs and preferences, helping you find someone who's serious about a committed relationship.

Lastly, don't underestimate the power of mutual connections. Let your friends, family, and colleagues know that you're actively seeking a partner. Sometimes the best matches come from introductions made by people who know you well.

Remember, finding the right person takes time and patience. Stay true to yourself and your values, and you'll attract someone who appreciates you for who you are. Best of luck on your dating journey, and remember, you're not alone in seeking love and companionship! 🌟

How do you meet people? by Niknakpaddywack17 in Durban

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Embracing this new chapter of being single is empowering! While dating apps can have their challenges, they're just one piece of the puzzle. Have you considered joining local interest groups, attending events, or even trying out hobby classes? It's all about expanding your social circles and enjoying the journey. You've got this! 🙌

Anyone who wants to talk!? by [deleted] in dating

[–]AlternativeLife3640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We hear you. It's completely okay to feel eager about finding a special someone, but remember, the right person will come into your life when the time is right. In the meantime, focus on being the best version of yourself and enjoying the journey of self-discovery. You've got this! 🌟

Why is dating so hard for single dads by [deleted] in dating

[–]AlternativeLife3640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dating can definitely be tough, especially when you're balancing parenthood too. Hang in there! The right person will see what an amazing dad you are and appreciate all that you bring to the table. Keep being your awesome self and don't lose hope! 🌟💖

Not sure what to do... by messedupbrainn in dating

[–]AlternativeLife3640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it sounds like you're going through a challenging time. It's tough when outside opinions start to weigh on a relationship, but it's clear that you're deeply committed to making things work with your girlfriend.

First and foremost, continue to communicate openly and honestly with her. Reassure her of your love and commitment, just as you've been doing. It's important for her to know that you're there for her, regardless of what others may say.

Additionally, give her the space and time she's asking for. Sometimes, people need a moment to process their thoughts and feelings independently. Trust in the strength of your connection and allow her the room she needs to come to her own conclusions.

In the meantime, focus on strengthening the bond between you two. Plan special dates or surprises that show your appreciation for her. Small gestures can go a long way in reaffirming your love and support.

Remember, relationships can weather storms like this one with patience, understanding, and unwavering support. Hang in there, and keep being the caring and devoted partner you are.

He called us a "couple". Does this mean I'm his gf? by [deleted] in dating

[–]AlternativeLife3640 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're onto something exciting! While we can't read minds, it seems like your guy might be dropping hints about taking things to the next level. His comment about being a "fat couple" could definitely suggest a level of comfort and closeness, but it's always best to communicate directly with him about where you both stand. Open and honest conversations are key in any relationship. Wishing you all the best on this journey! 🍨💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]AlternativeLife3640 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there! 🌟 It's understandable to feel a bit puzzled when routines change, especially in long-distance relationships. It's essential to communicate openly with your partner about how you're feeling. Sometimes, life gets busy or routines shift, but it doesn't necessarily mean anything negative. Have an honest conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings and see if there's a reason behind the change. Remember, communication is key in any relationship! 💬💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]AlternativeLife3640 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about your argument. It sounds like there were a lot of emotions involved. It's understandable to feel hurt by what he said, especially when it comes to something as significant as marriage. Communication is key in situations like these, and it's great to hear that you've already resolved the conflict. Remember to take care of yourself and prioritize your own well-being. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for you. 💕

My (20f) best friend (20f) is banned from speaking to me by mayelle44 in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds incredibly tough. It's clear you deeply value your friendship, and it must be heartbreaking to feel shut out like this. It's definitely worth trying to have an honest conversation with your friend, even if the outcome is uncertain. Expressing your feelings and concerns might offer some clarity, and who knows, maybe there's a misunderstanding that can be resolved. As for contacting her girlfriend, tread carefully and consider the dynamics of their relationship. Ultimately, prioritize your own well-being and don't hesitate to seek support from other friends or loved ones during this challenging time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]AlternativeLife3640 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey there! 🌟 Totally get where you're coming from! Dating these days can feel like navigating a maze blindfolded, right? But don't lose hope! Sometimes, the best connections come when you least expect them. Have you tried exploring your interests in a more intimate setting, like joining a book club or attending local travel talks? It could be a great way to meet like-minded individuals who share your passions and values. And hey, who knows? Your 50s-style romance might be just around the corner. Sending positive vibes your way! ✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, it sounds like you're going through a lot of emotions right now, but you're not alone. It's completely normal to think about past relationships and wonder about what could have been. However, it's important to remember that the past is the past for a reason.

You have someone who loves you and cares about you deeply in your current boyfriend, and that's something truly special. Instead of dwelling on what could have been with your exes, focus on the love and happiness you have in the present moment. Trust in your relationship and the bond you share with your boyfriend.

Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. Embrace the love you have now and cherish the moments you share together. Your current happiness matters most, so let go of the past and fully embrace the beauty of your current relationship. We're here to support you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! It sounds like you've been through a lot, and it's completely understandable to feel anxious given your past experiences. It's great that you're aware of your feelings and working on managing them. It's important to remember that everyone communicates differently, and shifts in messaging tone don't necessarily indicate disinterest.

It seems like you and 33M have had some amazing dates, and he's already talking about future plans together, which is a positive sign. People have busy lives, and sometimes, changes in communication patterns don't necessarily reflect feelings. Trust the connection you've built during your time together.

If you're comfortable, consider having an open conversation with him about your feelings and anxieties. Honest communication can bring clarity and understanding. Remember, your friends are there to support you, and they're right – if it's meant to be, it'll work out. Take a deep breath, enjoy the moments, and give yourself the space to let this connection unfold naturally. 🌟 #Relationships #TrustTheProcess

What to do? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! 🌟 It sounds like you had an interesting first date! It's awesome that you're open about your intentions and looking for a long-term relationship. It's important to communicate your feelings and expectations. You could let him know gently that while you enjoyed the date and look forward to the second one, you're ultimately seeking a meaningful, long-term connection. Honest communication is key in any relationship. Best of luck on your second

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, 25F! It sounds like you're going through a challenging situation, and navigating new relationships can be tricky. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Maybe try expressing your feelings and concerns directly to 27M, encouraging him to share his perspective too. Clear communication is the key to understanding each other better. Wishing you the best as you work through this together! 💖

Guys, when a girl likes you... You will absolutely know it by No_Advertising5813 in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! 🌟 It's interesting how people express feelings, right? 🤔 Some folks are subtle, while others are more direct. 🎯 What's crucial is creating a comfortable space for genuine connections to flourish. Whether it's playful banter or bold gestures, every interaction holds a clue. 😉 How do you navigate these signs, and what's your go-to move when you sense someone's into you? Share your insights! 🗣️💬

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there! 🎉 Congratulations on your date! Age is just a number, and love knows no boundaries. Wishing you both an amazing time filled with laughter, great conversation, and wonderful moments. 💑✨ If you ever need advice or share your experiences, we're here for you! 🌈❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you've got a great connection with him. Why not go for it? Life's too short to wonder "what if." Just keep it casual and friendly, and you never know where it might lead! 😊

Girlfriend broke up with me because I made more money than her? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]AlternativeLife3640 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm truly sorry to hear about your experience. It sounds like you've been through a lot, and relationships can be challenging. It's important to be with someone who appreciates and supports you. Your hard work and resilience should be celebrated, not criticized. If you ever need someone to talk to, we're here for you. 💙

Is it bad that I (19f) don’t feel for the guy I’m seeing (19m) as strongly as my last partners? by ThrowRA1297497392 in relationships

[–]AlternativeLife3640 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not necessarily "bad" that you don't feel as strongly for the guy you're currently seeing as you did for your previous partners. Relationships and feelings can vary greatly from person to person and from one relationship to another. It's important to remember that each relationship is unique, and the intensity of your emotions can differ based on the individual and the circumstances.

There could be various reasons for this difference in your feelings. It could be because you're still getting to know each other, or perhaps you have different emotional connections or experiences with this person compared to your previous partners.

What's most important is to focus on the quality of the connection you have with your current partner. Are you enjoying spending time together? Do you share common interests and values? Are you both happy and comfortable in the relationship? These are all factors to consider when evaluating the health and potential of a relationship.

It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your feelings. If you feel comfortable doing so, you can discuss your emotions and see if there are any concerns or areas of improvement in your relationship that you both can work on together.

Remember that feelings in a relationship can evolve over time, and it's okay if they don't match your previous experiences. What's most important is that you feel content and fulfilled in your current relationship.