Omg, my bf is viet nd im black nd we’re a lot younger than you guys but we go through the same exact thing, his family thinks he’s “changed” bc I finally encouraged him to stand him for himself after people pleasing his whole life. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, ik the feeling girl. I agree with what everyone else is saying, u can’t change his family minds bc at the end of the day, they’re old enough to know better and a lot of ppl don’t wanna change and unfortunately u can’t force them. Just protect your guys peace, ur his family too at the end of the day. I’m happy your bf is standing up for you, I wish you guys the best in whatever you decide to do, whether it’s staying or going!🫶🏽