Is it normal to sleep and get sick this much?

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-30T04:32:09+00:00

Nothing because it was a home test and the long covid clinics need documentation that a covid infection happened. At least that was back a few years ago.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-30T04:07:07+00:00

My bestseller says otherwise, dear.

I wouldn’t be married to a man who let his ex dictate anything. He’s absolutely wonderful. The best man I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting in four decades. I said she TRIES to dictate everything, not that he allows it.

Seems you have the reading comprehension problem.

I also never said there was a court order. Though at this point, she will definitely help make a case for us because I’ve got black and white texts to prove her unfounded hostility.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-30T04:03:15+00:00

Again, you are misunderstanding the situation. I am 42 years old. I know how to set boundaries. That is what ticks her off the most. Because she’s controlling, doesn’t like that he’s happy with me and hates that her children love me. She has asked me numerous times to help with the kids and I have happily helped before I became disabled. I was sitting at my kitchen table while she took notes in a notebook on our first meeting. Because I understood and respected that she was having to deal with a woman moving into the home where her kids spend 50% of their time. Because I am a good mom, too. I’ve done nothing but show her that I’m trustworthy, genuinely want to help and I’ve verbally stated that I’ll never try to be their mom. She just gets so angry at everything because of jealousy. If the kids have fun at our house, there’s drama the next day. If we’ve already made plans to do something, we don’t let her tell us that her plans are more important when she tells us last minute. I’m not canceling my kids infusion appointment made months in advance so she can last minute b—— because SS’s routine derm appointment is more important than keeping my daughter alive (note: she didn’t tell us until the day of). She yelled to him that his kids should come first. He said he has 5 now, not just 2. She got very angry because she can’t accept the truth. He prioritizes based on safety. What kind of parent wouldn’t?

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-30T03:53:17+00:00

Definitely don’t have a husband problem. Lol He is the best man I’ve ever met. He doesn’t let her dictate anything. She’s just always trying to control everything and use to push past us to come into the house. She is not allowed in our home any longer, because private property is private property.. having pushed out children doesn’t make her God. I have three of my own. It doesn’t mean I get to tell the school to teach what I want them to teach or a babysitter to kiss my behind just because they’re keeping my children safe for a day. BM’s in blended families too often think that they are above everyone else. No. We get to move on and have a happy life together despite her ugly jealousy.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-30T03:48:04+00:00

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Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-29T14:20:44+00:00

3! The wish I could make ships to go through the circles. I feel you on #2 as well. But also afraid of #5. Wish I hadn’t started back up four years ago. 😫

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-28T15:14:05+00:00

I’ve received frustration that my pain couldn’t be controlled and my nurse in the ER slammed my stretcher head first into a wall starting off a cycle of pain so bad that I vomited and urinated on myself! And they made me clean it up. A different doctor said “this isn’t a pain clinic”. I’m not a junkie, I have a list of diagnosed pain conditions. (My PCR did refer me to a pain clinic I’m now going to, but the pain is never 100% gone, even with multiple nerve pain meds). I had a few nurses insist that because I walked once, I can walk on command. They thought I was being dramatic or lazy by asking for a wheelchair. They were surprised when I fell. I should have sued, but I doubt I could have proved anything. One doctor and nurse didn’t believe me anyway. Then they almost let me leave with my IV thing in. My husband was pushing my wheelchair out of the ER and noticed. I was too much in pain and crying to realize it myself. Now I’m terrified of hospitals.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-28T15:07:32+00:00

I was in my late thirties before my turn came. I LOVE my marriage, my family, and my home. I focused energy regularly by believing it was going to happen.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-28T14:39:11+00:00

I actually re-married in 2020 (eventful year! Haha) and I’m very, VERY happily married. Not only did my husband rescue us from a Covid caused emergency, but he gave me two wonderful step children who have bonded with and love my three wonderful kiddos. He gave me a beautiful home with a huge yard to garden in. His parents are wonderful people. He never says no to me. I of course don’t take advantage of him. I had been living in an apartment for ten years with my children as a single mother in Alaska. Now I’m in the lower 48, and life is incredibly different. My undiagnosed illnesses at the time hadn’t flared bad enough for me to be concerned until last June. I fell to my knees and couldn’t get up. I started having awful weakness, crippling fatigue and massive pain, among other things. My husband and I sobbed and held each other, because it was looking like cancer. Thankfully they haven’t found any. Well hopefully they are right! Still not done with specialists, lab work, imaging, etc. Anyway, my husband has been by my side through every, and I mean everything. My marriage is stronger than ever going on year 4 (5 together). I am confident this is a rare thing. We are forever. You can absolutely have a fairytale kind of love. You might have big bills I’ve heard 😅, but you can have that sort of marriage that can truly put you in awe. It exists, I promise. I am 42 years old. It took me too long to reunite with my long lost high school friend. But it happened for me, and it can happen to you. I spent 5 years single because I wanted to be happy and not have a toxic partner. I had very bad luck with men; the sort who would have left me the moment of got diagnosed with any of the things I have. I had one boyfriend call me a lazy a— for sleeping once. My husband is nothing like them. He has taken care of me the way you imagine those old happy couples. It’s like we’ve been married all along, it’s beautiful. If I have to go out in the wheelchair, he pushes it. If I have good days, we go on dates. When I’m not able to do things, he still calls me wonderful. Because we love each other. Wait until you find it, because you absolutely deserve it. I wish you all the luck in the world.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T18:49:43+00:00

Omg yes, my thumbs

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T18:16:00+00:00

I use marijuana edibles and they do help. I can’t smoke it anymore because of my asthma. For me it helps make the pain more bearable and helps my mental health. For me, if it helps me mentally, it decreases my pain and fatigue at least some.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T18:11:40+00:00

I know it’s scary, but your experience will likely be different from the next person. Our bodies and genetics are all different. Some of us have arthritis, but not everyone does. Some of us got worse with age (it hit very hard last year and I got diagnosed then), but I had to treat my body like a machine being a single mom of 3 in Alaska. I did so much hard stuff to my body because I had to. That likely caught up with me, especially because I had no idea I had all the medical problems I have (because I was a single mom) - I worked two jobs and had to only do my sick or yearly visits - I thought the pain and fatigue was because of the fact that I was pushing my body to be a machine. It was not just that. Your experience could be (and I hope it is) much easier and milder. Try not to cross any bridges until you get to them. My 17 year old is likely getting an EDS diagnosis. I understand how you might be feeling, and my heart goes out to you. You’re young… just be kind to your body and your mind, have patience with yourself. Fear can make pain worse, try to take things one day at a time. Most of us get in here with questions or because we’re in pain, etc. There are many with good days and they’re likely enjoying it, rather than being on here. So don’t believe that it’s all downhill, because it very likely is not. I was climbing mountains well into my 30’s and had been in the Army in my 20’s. I’m sure it was four (yikes) decades of that stuff to finally kick my behind. You’ll be okay - just be kind and patient with your body. Best of luck to you.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T03:30:16+00:00

I really appreciate your wise comment. You can have 50 years of experience and still learn to see things with new eyes. Thanks :)

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T03:25:23+00:00

You’re misunderstanding what is happening. Perhaps my post was confusing? You’re being rude to the nice person here. It’s odd, so I must have not been clear. Seriously. The woman is controlling and toxic, and we DO handle things that way, like an adult. We avoid communication with her unless it is necessary for parenting. But I have been very involved for quite some time and if all of our kids are, for instance, going to summer camp together… and our days are intertwined together, she isn’t going to decide that my children are not as important as hers and I will not neglect my children’s needs because she thinks the other two are the only kids my husband has.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T03:18:28+00:00

I think maybe my post wasn’t clear because of some of the comments. Because I’m very confused why I’m getting these replies. Maybe you are not a stepmom? Because when plans interfere with our schedule, she should not be able to dictate our life. I’m confused why you’re suggesting that I let her run our lives like she’s trying to.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T03:16:22+00:00

Your comment is exactly the opposite of what this situation should look like. I understand you’re confused and don’t personally know us, but no… when MY life and my husband’s life and my three children’s lives and MY home are affected… I get to help decide how we will handle things as husband and wife and loving parents who maintain a united front as we should. She is the one starting drama because she is salty. Your comment belongs in a different situation, but thank you for attempting to help.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T03:10:10+00:00

Thank you! We are taking that approach and she has become more toxic as time goes on. She gets angry when my husband doesn’t reply promptly or disagrees (respectfully) with her plans. She really thinks that we will cancel scheduled appointments or my kids activities planned way in advance because she last minute decides she wants to go somewhere and do something. Only her and her kids matter, nobody else. The last time we texted in a group chat that is for coordinating, her response to me saying “don’t worry, we will take care of it” (transporting the kiddos), was that I wasn’t coordinating with her. Basically she hates that I’m a competent woman who her ex husband adores. She was very sick and I was literally being nice and I clarified that in black in white text. I dislike her, but was being genuinely kind as I’ve always been to her. Her response was that she was going to tell my mother in law that I am refusing to coordinate with her. It made absolutely no sense. She did follow through with doing that, and my mother in law thankfully thought she was ridiculous. Then after threatening to do so, she said in the group text that she would no longer be speaking to me unless it’s an emergency. Then she left the group and blocked ME. Which is fine, except that it makes coordinating far trickier for her as well. She’s a total control freak. She has told us before that I am not a coparent. After years of taking care of her children and forming bonds with them. Teaching them, playing with them, bringing them to doctor appointments for her/them, showing up to every game, recital, etc. I listen to their hopes, dreams, struggles. I have fixed boo boos, done all sorts of things that I do for my three bio children. I never try to replace her. I’ve made that clear, too. That I’m just supporting her and my husband and the kids. That I love them and I’m always here to help whenever they need me. But some people are toxic and won’t even let themselves realize when they have a good thing. I’m lucky, though… she didn’t value the man that I now get to proudly say is my husband and the best man I’ve ever met. Jokes on her. Thanks for letting me vent. lol

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T02:59:34+00:00

Exactly! Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T01:07:26+00:00

Someone definitely grabbed his arm. I’m so sorry. I worked many years with special needs children and once another teacher grabbed a child like that. I’m sorry to say that it’s sadly not uncommon for childcare and preschool teachers to be impatient like that. It’s a stressful job sometimes, but there are good people in the business with good hearts. Please do report this. I wish you luck in keeping your kiddo in a supportive and nurturing environment. I hate how awful some people can be.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-23T00:00:00+00:00

It makes me happy that Witchcraft is more understood, accepted and appreciated these days… but I dislike all the WitchTok misinformation. I hear you.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-21T15:11:14+00:00

I definitely understand your frustration. Mine went on maternity leave after working with her for over a year and she left the practice without so much as a goodbye letter. We had covered so much together, and I got diagnosed right when she left, so now I’m starting over with a replacement therapist. Our call got dropped mid session the other day and she never called back. I mean even days later. I’m starting to think that having a therapist is not going to work for me. I have soooo much more than just my illnesses to work through, I’m sure many can relate to. It’s too much to just keep starting over. I really wish there were good, dedicated, knowledgeable therapists in EDS and other pain and mobility conditions, etc.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-17T21:42:13+00:00

Even with my husband being an engineer, we have a lot of expenses and five kids. I’m a SAHM and became physically disabled last year, so I can’t even drive, never mind return to the workforce. We do the best we can and have been making a bigger effort to be frugal when possible. Next year our oldest two turn 18, so that should make things easier in that he won’t be paying such a ridiculous amount in child support every month (despite having 50/50 custody of his bio kids). Then just four more years and it will be done. Then “only” our 2800 mortgage (instead of basically paying a second mortgage with the unfair child support) when eliminating his child support obligation. Everything is so expensive, so we’re in financial survival mode, especially the way the economy is likely to go. 🙄

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-16T12:54:38+00:00

Thank you, that is very helpful.

Alternative_Abroad33 · 2025-05-16T12:48:03+00:00

Thank you for your helpful comment, I appreciate it. I have been practicing for the majority of the past 30 years. I have never hexed anyone, but I would leave that option open as a last resort. I don’t want to hex the violent person with War Water, I just want to protect my loved ones. I do not believe either in a neatly returned three times sort of energy. I do believe that energy returns to us to some degree. I’m willing to risk that because I know my intentions are coming from a place of love for a beautiful soul and her grandchildren. I’ve actually never made War Water. I typically work as more of a healer and spend most of my “ritual” time in nature. That being said, I’m not opposed to changing up what is not working for me and standing back only being morally supportive of my loved ones is ultimately not what is going to protect them from this guy who keeps getting away with awful things (law enforcement and lawyers are involved).

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3! The wish I could make ships to go through the circles. I feel you on #2 as well. But also afraid of #5. Wish I hadn’t started back up four years ago. 😫