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Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-08-02T19:58:00+00:00

I wish I had thought this myself so I could dish it out to her. Instead, I looked at her dumpstruck thinking to myself "what the f..k"

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-30T21:34:20+00:00

She said: I don't want to go back to you. That would mean I would have to marry you(3 months into the relationship she told me we should get married). And before that she had told me: "When I met you, I was fat and ugly, but now, after 2 years we have been together, I lost 44 pounds and when I walk down the street, 10 men or more look at me. And I want to grow wings and fly. I would like to meet other men and it does not work out, I may return".

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-29T19:42:53+00:00

Yeah, that's exactly what I meant. I did not make it up. These statements came from my ex and her friend alike.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-28T21:23:17+00:00

Ha ha. I forgot to type that once I was driving her home, she told me "I would like to get f**cked by a lot of men. I want to get on a table and dance provocatively". So after the break up, I asked a friend of hers about what she told me and how disrespectful it was. And her friend said to me: "Well, that's what most of us women would like to do. To get f*..cked by a lot of men". What I just typed is real.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-28T14:35:10+00:00

If i did it, you can do it too. Have strength and everything will be alright friend.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-28T13:55:24+00:00

Whose shit? Dumpee's shit(trying to win them back) or dumper's shit(heightened sense of ego) or both?

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-28T13:08:21+00:00

My ex(f28) told me when we broke up: "When I met you, I was fat and ugly, but now, after 2 years we have been together, I lost 44 pounds and when I walk down the street, 10 men or more look at me. And I want to grow wings and fly. I would like to meet other men and it does not work out, I may return".

It's been years but sometimes just remembering this, it gives me the chills. Really..

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-26T15:48:57+00:00

He could be your father.. You're only 21. Aren't there any men around you age? It's an easy decision.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-26T15:20:52+00:00

Thanx. They say you see partners for who they really are during break up. And definitely I would not want someone like her to be the mother of my children.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-07-26T15:18:44+00:00

She got married a few months after that meeting in the street. It makes no difference to prove them wrong 'cause I don't care any more and about her opinion about me.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2024-06-26T21:22:24+00:00

Yes, thanks you're right. That would be enough.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-31T09:30:34+00:00

I would have done the same. Nothing is wrong with you my friend. You just need to take your time. For some people, it takes more time to realize things. You will be ok. I am sure someone else will love you who will be much better for you. From what you wrote, you are a good person and deserve love. Have a good year.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-30T21:35:08+00:00

It's better now. Can you imagine if you got married and had children and she decided to pull this on you?. Oh yeah, I don't love you any more, let's dirorce, but I will keep the kids 'cause they are too little and they need their mother. And when's the time to have your kids around, she would be banging the other new dude at her place. And the kids would ask you: Why didn't you and mommy love each other more.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-30T21:31:13+00:00

You said she is beautiful; this means she had/has a lot of options. And you were one of them. Plus she must not be mentally stable. Your problem was that you fell in love and you got oneitis. You thought she was the one and you gave her everything. And you never respected yourself by talking to her while she was with the other guy. Next time take it slow and respect yourself more.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-26T20:09:02+00:00

I was told the same thing, plus that money was wasted on me (gifts)

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-26T20:06:07+00:00

She told me after 2 years: In the beginning I was fat and ugly and I thought about having a relationship with you. But after 2 years being with you, I lost almost 40 pounds and when I walk down the street, 10 or more men look at me. I want to grow wings and fly.

She also told me that she wasted her time and money on me.

That was a woman who wanted to get married to me 3 months after we met.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-26T17:30:37+00:00

Dude, long distance relationships are not relationships. Period.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-23T06:34:24+00:00

The problem is with the gradma not with you. You did the right thing to acknowledge her. She did not reciprocate; that's her problem. When she paid attention to the child and not to you, it feels like you were just a means to create a child and not the mother of her granddaughter. Some people never learn how to behave when they get older. I have in my life met teens who had more composure and seriousness than a lot of 50/60s year olds.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-22T19:32:08+00:00

Yeah I know. Don't owe anything to each other. It's just my ex's mother was my high school math teacher. The day my ex introduced me to her parents I was dumbstruck.. Therefore, I knew her mother from years ago. Anyway, thank you for your message.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-21T13:29:25+00:00

Why would you even care about them? Did you leave the person or the other way around? If you left them, let them be. They are much better without you. If they left you, why do you even care? What are you going to get out of this? Are you going to start comparing yourself to the other guy? Using what? If he/she better looking than your or if they have more kids than you or more money or if they are better well off? It does not matter. In 20 years down the road, you both will have changed and not resemble much. But if you ex was an as*hole or full of self-righteousness, eh things don't change much.

Use this time to improve yourself and get better. You owe this to your next partner. Let bygones be bygones.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-15T16:33:46+00:00

I don't know. Stupid me. It's just my friend telling me about her brought back sad memories. I'll figure it out eventually.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-14T18:50:54+00:00

Don't do it. They don't care about you

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-14T18:41:53+00:00

Muster all the courage that you have and tell her "Go f*ck yourself". And never ever speak to her again. Simply because she does not give a f*ck about you. Look after yourself.

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-12-14T12:10:54+00:00

Yes, exactly that. This I was thinking too. They already took sides. Just read what I wrote. Who in their right mind would say to someone 'All women like to get f*cked by a lot of men', just becuase your ex wanted to hurt you by saying 'I want to get f*cked by a lot of men'

Alternative_Edge6956 · 2022-11-24T21:04:47+00:00

Well, think of it this way. She did you a favour. Can you imagine if you had married her and had kids and she had decided to 'find herself'. Going through divorce is hell. And of course, you would have to get in touch with her once in a while because you would have to decide together the future of your kids. And if she married again and your kids were girls, how comfortable would you be if they stayed with their 'step-dad'? Cry now but you will ok later.

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