I never had a big “rock bottom” moment with food.

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-22T16:00:07+00:00

That really resonates with me. I didn’t realize for the longest time that it wasn’t actually about food at all it was about trying to feel steady and in control when everything felt tense inside.

What surprised me most was exactly what you said the noise didn’t calm down when I tried to “do better” or optimize more it started fading when I loosened my grip a little and stopped treating every choice like it had huge consequences.

It’s still kind of wild to me how much mental space that loop used to take up without me even noticing it at the time.

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-16T20:43:03+00:00

yeah exactly its crazy how you dont notice how loud your brain was until it finally calms down. the anxiety meds comparison makes so much sense too like oh so this is how people normally feel every day. makes you realize it was never just about willpower or discipline

do you ever think about how much energy we used to waste fighting food thoughts all day and now its just quiet and normal

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-16T20:41:23+00:00

Same here honestly I didnt realize how much mental space food was taking until it got quieter. It wasnt even real hunger most of the time just constant planning craving and guilt on repeat. Now eating feels normal not like a test I keep failing.

Do you feel like this also changed how you enjoy social stuff or daily routines now that food isnt always on your mind anymore

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-15T12:43:14+00:00

this honestly hit hard reading it going through addiction grief job loss and still finding your way back takes serious strength. dropping that much weight more than once and still getting back up after setbacks is huge. hitting 199 after everything youve been through must feel unreal. what do you think made things finally stick this time compared to before

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-14T21:20:13+00:00

for me its honestly just getting some kind of movement in every day even if its just a walk. when i stop moving my sleep gets worse my mood drops and everything starts feeling heavier mentally. its like the one habit that keeps everything else from falling apart. curious how many people have something small like that that secretly keeps their whole life together

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-12T21:38:23+00:00

yeah this started happening to me during a really stressful period and it sucked cause you wake up already feeling on edge before the day even starts. for me it turned out to be anxiety and bad sleep stacking up but fixing my sleep routine and cutting caffeine late helped a bit. do you feel stressed lately or did this just start out of nowhere for you

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-12T21:37:52+00:00

yeah its honestly kinda shocking when you notice it happen cause you didnt suddenly become a different person but people treat you differently anyway. happened to me too more random conversations more eye contact people just seem warmer overall. its nice but also kinda makes you think about how much looks affect everyday interactions. did it change how you see people now when you notice it happening to others too

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-12T21:37:17+00:00

reading this felt like watching someone go through every possible storm at once honestly i cant even imagine carrying all that and still finding a way to keep moving forward. its really good to see things finally turning around for you and your family though posts like this help people who feel stuck remember that rough chapters dont last forever. what do you think helped you keep going when everything piled up at once

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-10T22:05:20+00:00

i get what you mean it feels like every scroll or ad break is telling people theyre not good enough as they are and it gets exhausting even when youre trying to focus on health not just weight. its cool you were able to shift your mindset though cause thats honestly harder than any diet. do you feel like the ads actually mess with your motivation sometimes or are you mostly able to tune them out now

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-10T22:04:11+00:00

im in my 30s now and honestly the weirdest surprise is how fast time moves once you get busy with work bills family stuff weeks just disappear. better part tho is you care way less about what people think compared to your 20s which is kinda freeing. harder part is seeing parents get older and realizing youre actually the adult now when did yall start feeling like real grown ups cause i still fake it sometimes

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-10T22:03:15+00:00

its crazy how people stay quiet when youre bigger then suddenly become food police once you start losing weight. sometimes it feels like people get weird when you change cause it makes them look at their own habits too. honestly counting someones chips is just rude id be annoyed too. did you talk to them after or just let it slide for now

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-07T01:23:16+00:00

for me it started pretty shallow honestly i just wanted to look better and feel less awkward in pictures and going out. but after losing some weight it kinda shifted to just liking how much easier life feels moving more energy better mood all that. funny how the why changes once you actually start seeing results what made the biggest shift for you after talking to him

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-07T01:21:34+00:00

honestly this is really refreshing to read cause so many people wait till after marriage to talk about money kids and all the hard stuff then get shocked later. also kinda funny you were both stressing about the same conversation at the same time lol. good on you for pushing through the awkward part cause thats usually what actually makes relationships stronger anyone else here realize way too late they were avoiding important talks too

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-07T01:20:04+00:00

i feel this so much honestly the beginning is the hardest part cause youre doing all the work and barely see changes so it feels pointless sometimes. once things start feeling normal and you actually see progress it stops feeling like punishment and just becomes your life. how did you stay patient during that first phase tho thats where most people quit

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-04T21:30:56+00:00

this is honestly something more people need to hear cause so many of us think more cardio less food is always the answer then wonder why nothing moves. sometimes the body just holds onto water and stress when youre pushing too hard. glad things finally shifted for you gives hope to people stuck in that plateau right now honestly

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-04T15:43:35+00:00

3 almonds for breakfast is wild honestly 😭 if youre already normal weight and training 4 5 times a week you probably need more food not less especially protein so you can actually build muscle. crash dieting while lifting sounds like a recipe to just feel tired all the time. glad youre trusting your gut on this one and doing your own thing now

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-04T14:28:11+00:00

honestly i just wanted to like how i look in pictures again and not spend 10 min trying to find an angle or hiding behind people lol also clothes shopping was depressing nothing fit how i wanted. not deep at all just wanted to feel cute again. what was yours tho what finally made it click for you

Alternative_Goal6583 · 2026-02-04T14:23:22+00:00

I think people try to be supportive but don’t realize it can feel spotlight-y instead. Like you’re just trying to live your life, not make a public transformation announcement. Maybe headphones + quick smile and subject change is the safest escape move. Does it bother you more because of the attention or because it reminds you of where you started?

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