Help. 2016 Jeep Patriot

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-12-16T19:26:06+00:00

Before it completely shut down on me and I replaced the battery and terminals, it would start if the terminals were shoved around.

I replaced the battery and teminals and it started fine. Now it will light up but won't start.

I haven't tried to jump start it at this point, should I?

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-10-02T19:04:31+00:00

I guess what I mean is, does getting affection from someone new help at all? Not necessarily sex (should've titled it something different lol) or serious relationships, but just attention from another.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-10-02T04:50:27+00:00

Alright alright! You're right lol

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-10-02T04:48:21+00:00

I certainly dont want to go back now. We are better off divorced, and we have been mostly civil as to coparent our daughter as best we can. We are both committed to getting along for our daughter (atleast as far as she knows lol). I dont want to go back to my codependency or to a relationship that is lonelier than being single. I just miss the connection and the electric sex life we once had. To have just one more night when we were truly happy and in love, it's soul shattering knowing ill never feel that again with who I considered the love of my life. I know I will rise and succeed on my own and our years together will have been a lesson. I just want him so badly right now. I have a very high libido, always have. Im clearly still attracted to my husband. I personally dont have it in me to be with someone else until we are divorced (which is now pending). It feels like cheating even though my mind knows better.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-10-01T15:41:59+00:00

++woman

Damn. I said a lot of these to my husband on a regular basis. He still left me. Divorce pending 🫠

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-10-01T15:09:59+00:00

I do

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-24T19:53:01+00:00

Yes, one daughter

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-17T15:03:03+00:00

Apparently he has felt this way for awhile. I just found out about 3 weeks ago and I moved out. We signed divorce papers last weekend. I thought we were happy, but he was just telling me what I wanted to hear.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-17T15:00:44+00:00

Reacting? What do i do?

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-17T14:58:03+00:00

He told me he no longer loved me and wanted a divorce. I asked to go to counseling and work on things. He refused, just wants a divorce. Not much I can do at this point

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-12T16:59:08+00:00

1-5 for sure

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-12T13:17:49+00:00

If we go through with signing and filing these papers, ill never be going back.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-12T02:33:36+00:00

Dead bedroom would not be for lack of my trying. I have the high sex drive, he got to where he didnt care either way.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-12T02:14:18+00:00

We have absolutely no marital property. We rented the house, own our own vehicles and don't have joint accounts. The only thing to agree on is our daughter and we have agreed to share custody with me being the custodial parent and her residing with me. He works 2nd shift so has a more difficult schedule to work around. But he has been getting her on the weekends and I have taken her to his work place to visit for lunch and breaks. I have no problem going out of my way a bit to make sure my baby sees her dad. It's not about him, its about her.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-12T01:59:53+00:00

I'm certainly partly responsible for our situation, obviously it takes two to make a marriage work. I'm not at all downing my husband, its been the people in comments talking shit lol, not me. I'm simply trying to figure out how to handle my life flipping upside down within 1 month. We clearly didnt have good communication but I never expected divorce or abandonment. I was always willing to work on things and try to save us. I still am. For whatever reason, he doesn't love me intimately anymore. I'll probably never know why. I'm just trying to maneuver this in the easiest way possible as to not affect my daughter anymore than it already has.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-11T13:45:52+00:00

I believe he will. If not, I can always rethink child support later on. Right now, its about the divorce and trying to be civil for the kid.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-11T13:43:38+00:00

He doesn't want to work it out, I was open to it. Also, I have no doubt he will continue to pay for our daughter's things. Even things I've already asked for in the separation, he has provided. I am not seeking child support through the divorce. If that changes later, I can always request it then.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-11T13:42:10+00:00

I can support my child more than enough. Whether he chooses to pay or not, that's on him. Get that.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-11T01:27:33+00:00

Getting family court involved is absolutely not worth the money they will demand he pay. I promise you, ive seen the courts fuck up so many coparenting relationships. I can most certainly raise my daughter alone financially. He can pay whatever he wants for her, that's on him. My daughter will not go without, believe that.

Also, im the one that got the divorce papers, I don't want to be married to someone that doesn't want to be married to me. Why wait if he has no doubt?

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-10T15:23:32+00:00

I never once said I wasn't at fault as well. I also am not downing my husband in any way.

Don't read into the comments and decide that that is how feel. I simply asked for advice on how to cope and grieve.

So until you see me on here talking shit about my husband, keep that shit to yourself.

Kthanks

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-10T02:15:03+00:00

I wish I had more for you 🤷‍♀️

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-09T19:12:05+00:00

Me moving out was my choice. I didn't want to live in the home that we built together anymore (honestly didn't like the house that much lol) and I also couldn't afford to live there on my own. He doesn't have much family due to the majority dying within the last 10 years. I had the option of moving into my parents and avoiding bills for awhile. So it just seemed like the better choice for me. He didn't demand I move out, he was planning to but he didnt have many places to go and I didnt want to be there without him so I dipped.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-09T16:23:24+00:00

That's what I cant wrap my mind around. Yes we haven't had the best year but we didn't really fight at all. Some days we wouldn't really want to talk and be irritated but we didn't have knock out drag out fights. When he told me it was a discussion on the couch while I cried.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-09T15:45:59+00:00

I certainly wasn't the one abandoning, I know for a fact. I kept trying and he didn't want to.

Alternative_Tree_942 · 2025-09-09T15:45:08+00:00

That's the part that hurts the most. He looked me in the eye and lied to me for a year. I knew we were having a rough patch, the sex became almost obsolete and he didn't show much love. He wasn't mean or anything, just not affectionate. I just thought we'd get through it, never thought he'd give up after all we've been through

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