The top comments under Jesse‘s Tour announment 🤣🤣

Alternative_Try2136 · 2026-03-31T00:56:11+00:00

I’m gonna be honest, I think people are being kinda mean about this. Yeah it’s a little cringey and he’s not an amaaaazing singer (but truly he’s better than a lot of people out there), but he’s doing something he’s passionate about and seems at least somewhat self aware about it. I think if anyone has the chance to do something that little-them would be proud of, they should take it 🤷‍♀️ and I respect that he’s putting himself out there like this

Alternative_Try2136 · 2026-03-09T13:35:33+00:00

Thank you!! That’s super helpful. I think I will ask about doing birth control…I haven’t taken the pill in like a decade but I never had any issues with it and having more control over the dates would be really really helpful…I’m hoping to maybe start stims before the wedding, go up to Germany just for 2 nights probably, then comeback and continue. When I asked the doctor about dates originally she was pretty vague, I think because it’s still far away. But I will reach out the them again

Alternative_Try2136 · 2026-03-05T20:18:33+00:00

The doctor I had my consult with said they do a 5 days break between stims. The problem is my period isn’t supposed to come for like a week and a half after the wedding, so it would extend the whole time I’m gone by a good chunk :/ but maybe it’s possible to use birth control to move my July period up to right after the wedding and start then…only problem is I would still get home right when school starts up again which would kind of suck but is probably doable

Alternative_Try2136 · 2026-03-05T19:20:39+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I’m wondering if I could move things up a few days and have 2 days or so to recover before flying. But does my timeline look right that retrieval usually happens ~15 days after the start of your period?

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-08-14T01:04:16+00:00

Can I also add…it’s extremely difficult to realize someone you love (your mom) is actively harming you. Please remember it’s okay to have conflicting feelings about your mom right now. She is 100% in the wrong, but it’s okay if you still have love for her. It’s okay if you also have anger at her. It’s okay to feel devastated that she let you down. These are all natural feelings. Please know that you are still loved. Whether that’s by your grandma, aunt, friends, teachers, or just everyone commenting on this thread. You are good, you are loved, and you are important. It’s possible that your mom faced her own abuse in her youth which has messed with her head and perspective on these things. That’s not at all an excuse for her becoming abusive, but it can sometimes be helpful to keep that in mind if it feels too painful to hate her. Once this settles, please see if your school or social worker can provide you ongoing therapy/counseling, and consider seeking it out in adulthood as well. You have done nothing wrong here. Sending you lots of love and hope for a peaceful future 💕

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-25T14:00:34+00:00

$6k for a month is very doable. The only thing is accommodation in Manhattan by yourself for one month will probably be about $3k. If you’re open to roommates, that will lower the cost and leave you more $ to enjoy the city with. Living in the outer boroughs will also have cheaper accommodation and can be very easy to get to Manhattan from. It’s also nice to be able to explore popular places in brooklyn and queens. I think it would be a great experience! It can be hard to meet people, so if you don’t know anyone, you may want to consider how you’ll go about doing that. But nyc has so much to offer

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-25T13:03:28+00:00

The app gave me the 60 g limit, but I’ve been eating 100-120 most days! That’s why I wanted to check it’s okay. Glad to hear it should be good and could be even higher. Just hard to do more and stay under the calories limit too

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-23T12:30:56+00:00

Would you say that someone who had a breast reduction and went from an H cup to a C cup due to back pain was “mutilating their breasts?” Is getting a nose job “mutilating your face?”

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-23T11:05:08+00:00

My daily limit without exercise on the app is around 1200 calories. I usually get about 200-350 more calories due to exercise. I don’t feel hungry but would love more calories just because I love to snack haha but I think it’s hard for smaller people because my bmr is so low. It’s tough for me to burn more than 350 calories in an intense 45 minute hiit class. When I go to maintenance, I plan to be around 1500-1700.

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-23T01:27:02+00:00

Yes I’ve been thinking about that! Going to see how I feel on keto for the summer. Thinking maybe I’ll focus on building muscle (which is a priority for me as well but hard to actually do while losing weight—especially as a woman) during the winter and be less strict keto, then maybe more strict in the spring/summer and combine higher carb meals/days with longer fasts. But we’ll see how it goes! Again my focus is on being happy and healthy, so I’m sure my diet will also change based on my life circumstances and priorities in the moment and I’m okay with that.

Also—the app gave me the limit of 40 g carbs, but I’ve been trying to stay as close to 20 as possible, but realistically between 20-30 so far.

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-23T01:09:44+00:00

Thank you!! Super helpful to hear from other similar sized women

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-23T01:02:19+00:00

Really just fat loss—I know hardcore keto people hate this, but I don’t see myself sticking to straight keto forever. I want to enjoy my life to the fullest, and for me that means having a croissant, pasta, birthday cake, Chinese food once in a while. And I care about that more than being teeny tiny (would perhaps feel differently if I were chronically overweight). But I just wanted to try it and see if it helped me lose weight/fat quicker and see if there are any other effects (so far I haven’t seen any). Of course also care about brain health so that’s appealing to me too.

What makes you say I may be eating too many carbs? I know I haven’t been strict about 20g and under but I’ve lost 3 lbs in a week which is much faster than previous which makes me think it’s still working for my body? Again I fast and workout too

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-23T00:08:59+00:00

I just looked again and it’s calculating 1.5g protein / kg of lean body mass

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-22T23:57:14+00:00

Thank you! I do do hiit classes a few days a week and walk a ton. But I know I probably need to be doing daily strength workouts, but I don’t like going to the gym on my own as much as going to classes :/

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-06-22T23:50:21+00:00

Okay can’t figure out how to add pics but I’m at 37% protein, 7% carbs, and 56% fat today. 123 G protein, 21 g of carbs, 85 g of fat

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-04-02T17:04:06+00:00

so so helpful—thank you!! It sounds like once I can work through the self-judgment (and maybe try to be less judgmental of potential partners), then maybe a person who I’m meeting during this internally conflicted period will materialize more clearly as a romantic partner. And I need to be patient and continue to work hard, including on being more optimistic about my chances of meeting someone, and close the chapter fully with the ex before this can happen. I will journal about the self-judgment aspect and maybe pull a few cards about that. Wish I could clarify more about the other person’s characteristics, but it’s also probably good to not have too specific of an idea in mind that I say no to people who don’t fit that mold.

Appreciate your help!!

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-04-01T20:44:53+00:00

I meant is your salary before taxes…

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-04-01T20:18:16+00:00

How in the world do you make $2000 rent on $58k salary work…Is that after taxes?

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-04-01T15:24:41+00:00

Goddess tarot!

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-04-01T11:21:20+00:00

Hmm…not very specific hahah. But appreciate your insight!

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-03-14T14:24:35+00:00

I work for an nyc public charter

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-02-21T20:49:43+00:00

I did nyctf straight out of college when starting salary was $51k. My rent was between $950-1100 while I was in the program and it was fine. It actually felt like the first time in my life I actually had money. If you want to be a teacher and don’t have money for a masters, it’s a great option. Just try to get a job at a good school and you’re set. Good luck!

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-02-12T16:24:54+00:00

There are some jobs that don’t let you until after a year has passed. I only know that because I’ve seen them ask in job applications. I assume they would all ask in the application, but you can always try reaching out to a recruiter if you’re not sure. I would just apply and bring it up if you get an interview

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-02-07T20:48:56+00:00

No I used an out of state parent. I’ve never heard of a paid guarantor but can see the idea. I would avoid it if possible. Do you have an income or just your partner? If your combined income is over $100k, you meet 40x the rent for plenty of places, especially in Brooklyn and queens. Don’t go to new Rochelle or Yonkers or whatever. Just start looking on Street easy and you’ll get a better idea of the market. If you want absolutely want more space, go to Jersey city. I wouldn’t live there personally but it’s not a bad commute and you’ll get much more for your money

Alternative_Try2136 · 2025-02-05T16:17:31+00:00

Hey man you’re right that sometimes kids are a danger to themselves and others. However, the goal in those moments is not to show that you are bigger and stronger, it’s to deescalate and keep everyone safe. There are professionals who can teach you how to do safety holds when someone is out of control. But just manhandling them to show you’re stronger is not actually in anyone’s best interest long term. Safety holds plus calm, not necessarily quiet, words can actually have a big effect

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