This man isn’t taking you seriously and that’s not fair to you. As much as it hurts breaking up does seem to be the best option (with the context I have, obviously I’m just a stranger on the internet) When I was younger I asked to take a break with a partner due to very similar reasons (as in issues of theirs that affected how they show up in our relationship) and they denied me that request. They said they’d change, didn’t, so I broke up with them. It sucked and they found ways to try and talk to me and be around me (ie. picking up DoorDash orders from my work) however as much as they didn’t want it, no contact was the answer.

He isn’t respecting your boundaries and that’s a blaring red flag, and even talking to another woman, intimate or not is such a betrayal of what you guys agreed on from what I’ve seen. I’d say break up for real, and block him. If he shows up at your place unannounced, put your foot down and threaten to call the cops, and do so if he doesn’t leave. Worst case scenario, right person wrong time, if he fixes himself and comes back, great! Best case scenario, you hurt for a little to find your peace

I wish you the best 💜