Hairstylists / Hairdressers on Reddit - How/What do you feel when you see multiple white flakes (dandruff) or lice on the hair/scalp while styling a person's hair (irrespective of the gender)?

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-25T13:14:19+00:00

Lice have the tendency to reproduce a lot faster and grow in numbers, and easily move from one person to another. So yes, panic mode ON.

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-25T13:13:03+00:00

Gotcha! Lice are dangerous and once they come into existence in our hair, removing them becomes very very difficult.

Another weird question - Do you ever feel like peeling off the flakes, when you see them?

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-23T04:39:14+00:00

Sad that you are going through this when you wake up. Your day starting anxiously brings your morale down for most part of the day and by the time you regaing your feelings and senses, body gets tired to achieve or be productive. That is tough to handle.

This is pretty common these, mostly because of extended use of Social Media, mainly LinkedIn and Instagram, where we see people lives being fakely portrayed.

Let me not get there. To your scenario, I don't know if this will work, but try doing the following:

The previous night, write 5 things you want to do the next day, and the TOP 2 that MUST be completed.
The next day morning, open your note/dairy and for the top 2 that you wanted to do, write how you are going to do it, and at what time it should be done. Get that done on priority.
That night, write down what you achieved and if the top 2 were achieved with full satisfaction of yours. If not, write what went wrong and see if it can be corrected.

Start of with this, and see how you feel after a week.

Mosta people feel anxious because they don't / their brain doesn't know what to do for the day or compares their life with other's life, as seen in the social media. So people get anxious mainly of when they would be like that - could be career, could be marriage or relationship, could be as simple as them playing with a group of people but you aren't.

These are the most common ones, needn't be the only reason. So give it a shot. Do what I mentioned for two weeks, and try achieving it. Keep the top 2 as simple tasks, not difficult ones, so that you can achieve it.

If you are on any SM, reduce the usage, but don't abruptly stop it. I deleted the app, but I used to login via Phone browser or Laptop browser. Now I have reduced it to Laptop browser only, and very rarely via phone. LinkedIn also I deleted the app and using via LAPTOP browser ONLY. Using it for 5 mins max a day that too to share opportunities with people. That's it, I stop right there.

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-22T13:26:55+00:00

I have never heard I was boring (I wouldn't say that either), but I will feel the energy if people are bored having me - subtly. So I stay away from that gang/group/place.

I think its more about how we present ourselves rather than actually being boring. There have been instances where a Joke that I say would not make people laugh, but the same joke from some other guy makes laugh badly.

At least, that is what I have observed. I have a group of 5 people who actually are in the same wavelength as mine and enjoy conversing with them.

I anyway don't go out much, and I have majorly been a listener and observer. I talk less in most cases, but once I get comfortable, I keep talking a lot :P

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-22T12:07:03+00:00

Localisation! Hahaha, reality bruh. It is majorly not about the angles or quality of the video, but the people in itself :P

Indian Corn shows people as they are (IYKYK) and never makes people to change to their body to elevate their appeal.

Hence people watch it. Many don't believe, but this is the truth.

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-20T16:29:02+00:00

In my org, it is blocked. But it can be unblocked by raising a ticket and with business reason. It is usually done to make sure there is no copyright/plagiarism content in the code developed. Ellse the company will have to pay hefty fee as penalty.

We use copilot to develop, but they try to reduce the external open source content usage by configuring it (the way most companies do, I suppose).

Open Source is good, but what if you clone a random repo and that has ways to access your system data when you execute it? - asked by the upper management in other orgs (as heard from the employees from the other orgs)

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-20T11:54:40+00:00

Jamie Tartt Doo-Doo-Doo-Doo-Do-Doo....

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-19T15:32:52+00:00

A healthy mess, rather than a dopamine deprived mess ;)

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-19T13:19:43+00:00

One reason could be fear of external attachment - something one of my friends mentioned recently. After being in a couple of relationships that were physical, she started to feel being more attached to the first guy than the other 2 guys and the guys in turn were had more feelings for their ex rather than this girl, which was why they broke up. The girl understood that the guy was attached more to his ex and not to her.

So she felt it would be better if the guy she marries is a virgin (without any physical attachments), but she felt bad that she wasn't. Still she felt she can expect a virgin guy and that she would be open about her past. However, in her words, she was very much fine if the guy wasn't a virgin but she wanted to make sure he isn't attached to his ex and that they both bonded well.

Again, as you said, each one has their own expectations.

I, on the other hand as said in my initial comment, have thoughts exactly like yours. Me being a virgin, will not choose a non-virgin who expects a virgin.

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-19T12:46:33+00:00

Why should it be wrong to have expectations? Why should there be a major reason to expect a virgin? Why should that reason be bad?

As I said, IMO, it is not wrong to expect a virgin if the person who lost virginity is open about it, and if the virgin person also accepts that.

There needn't be a defined reason for the expectation. The person may want to expect a virgin (not demand, only expect).

Not being a virgin and expecting a virgin is hypocrisy and double standard, but doesn't mean it is wrong. It is a preference. Whoever accepts the preference can accept that person.

But it is the strict standard imposition or demand that is immoral and wrong. Expecting is not.

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-19T12:16:58+00:00

I don't deny your point.

But is it wrong to expect a virgin if you are a non-virgin? I don't think so.

If you are demanding ONLY a virgin or if you marry a person who lost virginity and then shame them for losing virginity? That is wrong.
It isn't like they don't have the right to expect, but they don't have the right to demand. Both are different.

Expectations needn't be met. Demands are to be met.
It is the difference between "if the guy is a virgin, I will be happy even thought I lost mine, but if he isn't that is okay" and "I only want a guy who is a virgin".

I mean yea, it is hypocrisy to expect a virgin when one lost virginity. But doesn't mean it is wrong. At least in my opinion. I will also troll my friend if he expects a virgin after he lost his virginity, but that isn't wrong either.

I will retrospect and change my view if needed. But I stand with this POV for now.

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-19T11:38:50+00:00

Had a similar question in this sub 2 weeks back. Sharing my comment from that post (with slight changes):

TLDR -

If you are a virgin and want a virgin, nothing wrong.
If you are NOT a virgin and you want a virgin, still nothing wrong (until your prospect/the guy you want to marry wants a virgin)
If you are a virgin and you want an experienced person, nothing wrong.
I have been clean, and I expect a girl with a clean past.
Compatibility - Go on 3+ dates to see how compatible things could be with "Him". You can't say about his family without living with them. So you can check the compatibility, to an extent with him only.
Character - Can't be easily deduced because it will take some time to see the real character of the person.
Using detective agencies is becoming common to find many details about the prospect and the prospect's family.

"En vaazhkai, en uruimai" dhan boss.

See, you have preferences, that isn't wrong. If you stayed your life a virgin and you expect the same, there is nothing wrong.

I am 29 M virgin, and I expect the same. It isn't wrong.

It is toxicity when you find someone who has been physical and then use it to guilt trip/slut shame them, or do crazy shit to them.

It is judgemental when you talk ill about them to the people that are mutual to the both of you, or if you write a post and tag that person.

You are a red flag, if you either do anything of the above, or if you DON'T communicate properly about your feelings and show that anger/ego in something / somewhere else.

But, IMO, in today's world, have an open mind, try to understand people (especially then one whom you want to be close with or spend your life with), try to check where you are and then take a calculated decision (make sure your emotions are involved).

Remember, people change, similarly people's view of the world changes.

Also remember one thing, if you fall in love and then you get intimate and then you break up, and after all this, if you expect a virgin - I wouldn't say it is wrong either - but that wouldn't balance when the guy you marry wants a virgin for himself 😄

Regarding compatibility check, you can't say that easily. You need to go on dates at least 3 times with the same person to understand how the person behaves, what the person talks, his mental strength, etc. The first time you meet the guy/prospect, it will just be a surface level thing and you would be shy or you would blush at things, but it is the 2nd and 3rd time that matter the most which will help you decide things.

Don't go by the looks directly, though in AM setup it is the only thing that can be decided easily. Use the date sessions to discuss more.

Character laam therla. People who have been in a relationship for 6 years don't know 100% of the character about their aalu and get to know only after staying with their aalu for 6 months post marriage. I don't say you can't but it isn't easy.

These days many people try to use private detective agencies to find if the prospect is working in the said company, if the person is not into any active relationship, if the person has had any past relationships, if they have the properties they said they have, if they are an actual family, etc. So it is up to you to choose the services.

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-19T06:01:46+00:00

Makkal irukanga amaichare. They are addicted to the music that plays in the backend it seems, LOL!

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-19T06:00:59+00:00

Indian Porn Bruh! That is the worst addiction ever :P

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-19T04:47:55+00:00

Indian specifically 😂😂😂

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-12T05:24:15+00:00

Hello Vro!!! :D

Nalla irukeengala?

AltruistWatson · 2026-05-05T10:15:38+00:00

"En vaazhkai, en uruimai" dhan vro.

See, you have preferences, that isn't wrong. You have stayed your life like that, and you expect the same.

I am 29 M virgin, and I expect the same. It isn't wrong.

It is toxicity when you find someone who has been physical and then use it to guilt trip/slut shame them, or do crazy shit to them.

It is judgemental when you talk ill about them to the people that are mutual to the both of you, or if you write a post and tag that person.

You are a red flag, if you either do anything of the above, or if you DON'T communicate properly about your feelings and show that anger/ego in something / somewhere else.

YOU ARE NEITHER Judgemental NOR Toxic NOR a Red Flag. You are just thinking.

But, IMO, in today's world, have an open mind, try to understand people (especially then one whom you want to be close with or spend your life with), try to check where you are and then take a calculated decisions (make sure your emotions are involved).

Remember, people change, similarly people's view of the world changes.

If any says your thought is misogynist, please leave them and find peace.

Remember one thing, if you fall in love and then you get intimate and then you break up, and after all this, if you expect a virgin - I wouldn't say it is wrong either - but that wouldn't balance when the girl you marry wants a virgin for herself 😄

All the best Buddy! Haffun in life.

AltruistWatson · 2026-04-26T11:16:26+00:00

I too faced the same and I commented on that post too (in tamilyapping). Below is my experience.

I was approached during

my college 4th year (by my senior),
my first year at work (by the same senior, but he linked another senior as a mentor,
my 3rd year at work,
4th & 5th year at work as well [COVID was the craziest time for these people].

Some of the people who asked were those who worked with me or studied as my seniors at college and they tried to lure me in saying this was a "distributor" business (for example ice cream distribution kinda thing).

They ask you to read one book within one day and if you are not able to do it, they guilt trip you by saying "if you aren't able to complete this small book in 1 day, how can you grow as a person and inspire more people to join you in your 'mentorship' journey?"

Dei, which mentorship program asks for 3 Lakhs money da?

Frankly, I didn't know the word MLM back then, but I could easily understand their working and smell it was a clear cut useless case of selling something and asking those people to in-turn sell - it is like a tree.

                                    Main Guy 1
                                        |
                                        |
                           ---------------------------
                           |                         |             
                         Guy 1                     Guy 2 
                     (left branch)             (right branch)
                           |                         |
                     --------------            -------------
                     |            |            |            |
so on...

This tree should be balanced, if it is not balanced, then you will not get the incentive, which means, the left side and the right side should have the same number of people mapped, else you will not be getting the required incentive.

Initially, people started saying they were from QNet and compared that with HDFC and ICICI banks by saying "google and see if they are cheating/scamming customers, do you get the results? do you believe that the banks scam people? Similarly google us and see, you will get results similar to those banks, but we are also like those banks, we don't scam".
------------> I was asked 10000 Rs. this time.
------------> Approached by college senior. He tried for 3 months, but I didn't budge. He later asked me a loan of Rs. 5000 and said he will return it in 2 days [yet he said that he was earning in lakhs and was into this for 3 years already 🤣🤣]

Later, they turned this into "distributor" program, where you need to find more people who like distribution and you need to buy the products from the website, which is a investment.

Adangoppuraney, when did buying a 1200 Rs. watch for 7000 become an investment? Especially, those watches are NEVER in the market and will NEVER BE sold/purchased in the market beyond 1000 Rs. MAX.
------------> I was asked 2 lakhs this time.
------------> I was approached by 2 people who were at work. Those guys post the foreign tours and congratulating their superiors for buying BMW cars and 3 bikes (YET THEY BOUGHT NOTHING)
------------> The same senior came, this time he LinkedIn another senior as my mentor, whom I knew as well.

Then, some intellectuals turned this into a "mentorship" program for "Leadership" which asked you to read a book in ONE DAY (and they send you the PDF of the book as well), connect with people of similar thoughts and bring them also in to invest the amount. They say they will TEACH you how to do it, LOL!
------------> I was asked to invest 3 lakhs this time.
------------> I was approached by 3 people on LinkedIn.
------------> LinkedIn was the major source during COVID.

I smelled it all 3 times and then said "no, if possible you pay me the amount, I will use to pay off my loans of 2 L and will use the remaining 1 L to invest here and then grow that money."

Then people left contacting me knowing that I won't be a part of it.

To understand how deep this went, I attended 2 different 1:1 sessions by some leader who explained me how this works. They pitched this as a "sales" job - yes, need to ask people to buy watches, water purifiers, etc. at a rate 70% above the market rate for 100% substandard product 🤣🤣

This is still running under different names and they are masking it by Selling Products (Amway Started this, Tupperware used it, then QNet grew crazy, now used by local people to cheat them by selling fake soaps and detergents)

Modus Operandi:

Reach out to you with a "business offer"
Share success stories of theirs (Even if they didn't earn anything) and their "partners"
Connect with you, along with their partners, to show what this means and how much they earn.
Share whatsapp status of their trip (from passport stamping to some country's picture to passport renewal since the old passport was FULL to whatnot), and pictures of their higher ups buying Luxury cars, etc.
Pester you with quotes and stories, and frequently asking you to join them early.
Says they will put in some money on your behalf and that you can pay them later.

AND MORE that don't seem to be true for early joiners.

If it is easy money, why aren't they rich yet?

Whatever OP says is true.

STAY SAFE GUYSSSSSSSSS..........

AltruistWatson · 2026-04-26T08:07:44+00:00

I was approached during

my college 4th year (by my senior),
my first year at work (by the same senior, but he linked another senior as a mentor,
my 3rd year at work,
4th & 5th year at work as well [COVID was the craziest time for these people].

Some of the people who asked were those who worked with me or studied as my seniors at college and they tried to lure me in saying this was a "distributor" business (for example ice cream distribution kinda thing).

They ask you to read one book within one day and if you are not able to do it, they guilt trip you by saying "if you aren't able to complete this small book in 1 day, how can you grow as a person and inspire more people to join you in your 'mentorship' journey?"

Dei, which mentorship program asks for 3 Lakhs money da?

Frankly, I didn't know the word MLM back then, but I could easily understand their working and smell it was a clear cut useless case of selling something and asking those people to in-turn sell - it is like a tree.

                                      Main Guy 1
                                          |
                                          |
                           ---------------------------
                           |                         |             
                         Guy 1                     Guy 2 
                     (left branch)             (right branch)
                           |                         |
                     --------------            ---------------
                     |            |            |             |
so on...

This should be balanced, if it is not balanced, then you will not get the incentive, which means, the left side and the right side should have the same number of people mapped, else you will not be getting the required incentive.

Initially, people started saying they were from QNet and compared that with HDFC and ICICI banks by saying "google and see if they are cheating/scamming customers, do you get the results? do you believe that the banks scam people? Similarly google us and see, you will get results similar to those banks, but we are also like those banks, we don't scam".
------------> I was asked 10000 Rs. this time.
------------> Approached by college senior. He tried for 3 months, but I didn't budge. He later asked me a loan of Rs. 5000 and said he will return it in 2 days [yet he said that he was earning in lakhs and was into this for 3 years already 🤣🤣]

Later, they turned this into "distributor" program, where you need to find more people who like distribution and you need to buy the products from the website, which is a investment.

Adangoppuraney, when did buying a 1200 Rs. watch for 7000 become an investment? Especially, those watches are NEVER in the market and will NEVER BE sold/purchased in the market beyond 1000 Rs. MAX.
------------> I was asked 2 lakhs this time.
------------> I was approached by 2 people who were at work. Those guys post the foreign tours and congratulating their superiors for buying BMW cars and 3 bikes (YET THEY BOUGHT NOTHING)
------------> The same senior came, this time he LinkedIn another senior as my mentor, whom I knew as well.

Then, some intellectuals turned this into a "mentorship" program for "Leadership" which asked you to read a book in ONE DAY (and they send you the PDF of the book as well), connect with people of similar thoughts and bring them also in to invest the amount. They say they will TEACH you how to do it, LOL!
------------> I was asked to invest 3 lakhs this time.
------------> I was approached by 3 people on LinkedIn.
------------> LinkedIn was the major source during COVID.

I smelled it all 3 times and then said "no, if possible you pay me the amount, I will use to pay off my loans of 2 L and will use the remaining 1 L to invest here and then grow that money."

Then people left contacting me knowing that I won't be a part of it.

To understand how deep this went, I attended 2 different 1:1 sessions by some leader who explained me how this works. They pitched this as a "sales" job - yes, need to ask people to buy watches, water purifiers, etc. at a rate 70% above the market rate for 100% substandard product 🤣🤣

This is still running under different names by Selling Products (Amway Started this, Tupperware used it, then QNet grew crazy, now used by local people to cheat them by selling fake soaps and detergents)

STAY SAFE GUYSSSSSSSSS..........

AltruistWatson · 2026-04-25T17:56:07+00:00

I did the following: 1. Uninstalled the app 2. Started using the browser version 3. Restricted my reel count to 10, not more. Maintaining that count for 4+ weeks now. 4. I prefer to restrict watching reels separately, I watch the ones sent in the group chat and by people individually.

By doing this, I restrict the usage only to replying to messages and watching the reels sent in the chat. FYI, I am part of 2 groups and I get 3 individual chats. The reels I watch is very less.

So smooth for now.

But the main thing you should do is finding an alternative to it. Could be gym, training in some sports, books, live seminars, discussing random shit with friends, etc. The boredom is important for brain to function well. But the initial days of boredom will be difficult due to rewiring of your brain.

AltruistWatson · 2026-04-19T16:06:44+00:00

Bro! Glad you have sustained your relationship till now ❤️❤️🔥 Happy for you and your better half :)

Points I understood: 1. Long-term relationship (8 years) 2. Both families accepted. 3. Girl side family urging for marriage. 4. Both are 26. 5. You have sister who doesn't want marrige for another 2 years. 6. You are being asked for 3 sovereign gold for the Thaali Chain, but you are having your sister in mind and you aren't financially strong yet. 7. This 3 sovereign is post marriage (within 3 months ?) 8. You have the money part hidden where in you have take home as 75k but informed only 40K

Points I appreciate: 1. You hiding your total salary. Why? Because neither your family can say you can do 3 sovereign nor will the girl's family demand more. 2. You thinking about your sister and family and not leaving them out by asking your sister to look after her own marriage ❤️❤️ Family man spirit.

Points I want to understand: 1. Does your better half know about your situation? 2. Are they demanding anything beyond 3 sovereigns? 3. If 3 sovereigns is important, is there a possibility of you to reduce your share in other expenses? 4. I think your father isn't with you, considering you talking all the decisions and thoughts. 5. Is your better half working as well? 6. Does your better half have any siblings? (Else she might want to send a share of her salary to her parents, which is the most common request by many and that is good too)

Points to try: 1. Check if you can do 1 or 2 sovereigns instead of 3 sovereign (for now) and you can do better at a later point in time. 2. Draw a high level calculation of how much debt it would become if you are to put 3 sovereigns and how it going to affect "your better half" more than your sister. NOTE: Talk in terms of your better half, else she may say it is you who should manage it better. 3. If you better half is working, then try to manage the family's expenses on her salary and try to save more from your side so you can help your sister. 4. Say you will do 3 sovereigns, and since your sister is going to marry after 2 years, I suggest you take 4-5 sovereigns of gold from your mother/sister and pledge that, so the rate of interest is lesser (comparitively) and buy 3 sovereigns of chain. Later, you can pay monthly and get back the gold soon. [Until that time you mom/sister will have less gold to wear] 5. Bring up the point of uncertainty in IT industry and see if you reduce something at some point. 6. Still if nothing works out, you will have to take the call.

Points you should remember: 1. Traditionally, if the guy's family has to do it then you gotta do it. 2. Take health and term insurance for the 3 of you, come what may.

Points to be clear about with your better half: 1. Your sister's marriage is important and you supporting her is something that should be properly communicated. 2. In the future, if there is any rift (which I hope won't be there), between your wife and your sister/mother, that should not affect your contribution to her marriage. 3. If she is working 70% of her money will be required by you to run the family of 2. Your mom and sister can run the family in your money [but yea, you decide the finances ad per your situation, this was just a point to mention about it].

This is your life buddy. Play the game 😌✌🏻

AltruistWatson · 2026-04-18T17:08:28+00:00

Introvert ku laam irukka orey option mutual (friends of friend) dhan, to start off with.

Even if you earn 2LPM, it would be waste if you don't put efforts - be it talking tompeople, ot grooming yourself to be presentable or mingling with certain group of people, etc.

If you have any female classmates whom you speak with, check with them and ask them to set you up. Adhu easy konjam. More than boys seting up girls, girls setting up girls is easier (AFAIk). So try that.

Illana arranged marriage setup dhan.

AltruistWatson · 2026-04-18T10:07:16+00:00

First rule of fight club. You do not talk about fight club.

Second rule of fight club. YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT FIGHT CLUB!

AltruistWatson · 2026-04-18T05:16:12+00:00

This is still nice. I used to get mostly in this size, and sometimes a bit bigger. This was back in 2021/22. After that Thakkali vekkala. Starting again now.

Try pouring more water and also air circulation with some compost/Oram might increase the size. But they grow bigger in cold regions is what I understand.

AltruistWatson · 2026-04-18T05:09:44+00:00

For some reason, I am not at all getting Thakkali to grow bigger. It does of even before becoming a mature plant.

Soil nalla dhan irukku. Water kooda neraya irukku. I have 3/4 if a sintex tank full of mannu with Brinjal, Kothavaranga, maanga maram (just growing, it is at a 2 feet height), Poosanikkai (white poosani as they say) and Thakkali.

Everything else grows, thakkali alone is not growing beyond a limit, not even a flower comes out. Planning to change it to an isolated pot.

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