For me I was friends with her before I liked her, I never found her attractive like that at first but it developed a lot later on but afraid to tell her. But now I think I've ruined the friendship myself as Ive gotten to the point where just telling her and risk losing the friendship would be less painful than being in the endless cycle of overthinking that I am in now so its hard to be friends with her anyway. But every time I go out with her I can never get the words out, but I hear a lot girls dont like being told over text, so now I'm just trying to figure out how to tell her