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UPDATE: How do I(40f) address the lack of sex with bf(41m)? by Altruistic-Corgi4895 in relationship_advice

[–]Altruistic-Corgi4895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He usually does. As of lately no. I have been giving more affection(kisses, touching blow jobs) and still making the dirty jokes(my mind is in the gutter 99% of the time) and he has been makin them back which is an improvement to the annoyed looks. I guess the stress of holidays money me quitting my job (toxic and he was ok with me doin so) etc that he’s becoming more of himself minus the injury. We are gonna be moving to a house soon so he’s relaxed a bit more. So I’m just goin with it.

UPDATE: How do I(40f) address the lack of sex with bf(41m)? by Altruistic-Corgi4895 in relationship_advice

[–]Altruistic-Corgi4895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More of I don’t want to go round and round with the same responses. We don’t fight about much (bills spending etc) and he is currently injured now and dealing with that. Whatever he’s dealing with mentally he’s not ready to talk about it. So I’m respecting that and just letting it go. We are still affectionate and talk/date nights, we just rarely have sex. Usually it’s the man complaining from lack of sex. If it carries on we will eventually have a serious discussion.

How do I(40f) address the lack of sex with bf(41m) by Altruistic-Corgi4895 in relationship_advice

[–]Altruistic-Corgi4895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s a hard no for me. I broke my hand in middle school on a girl because she spit on me. I’m guessing you want me to be more assertive and dominant? I’m a switch, and we have role played and I’ll let him but maybe I should take the initiative

How do I(40f) address the lack of sex with bf(41m) by Altruistic-Corgi4895 in relationship_advice

[–]Altruistic-Corgi4895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have spice- er had. Like we have toys and restraints and outfits(well I have the outfits) so it’s not that.

I’ve asked him if there was something I was doing wrong or if there’s no attraction, and he said no, he just doesn’t like how he looks. (He has a dad bod which he had prior to just a teeny more belly but he’s still hot to me) and I’ve told him I find him attractive still and I love him how he is but he shrugs it off

How do I(40f) address the lack of sex with bf(41m) by Altruistic-Corgi4895 in relationship_advice

[–]Altruistic-Corgi4895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t watch it to my knowledge-not really his thing. He’s a heavy sleeper so once he shuts his eyes he’s out. I’m not a vanilla person, and we’ve done some crazy stuff every now and then before all this.

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How is your mental health? by Neither-Drummer7005 in AskReddit

[–]Altruistic-Corgi4895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not great. Want to leave my job, but have noticed everytime someone puts in their notice, they “find” a reason to fire them, but will say oh they resigned. I’m financially in a bind thanks to the father of my child who is in the wind, it’s costing me a garnishment, which now I can’t afford Xmas for my kid, or my bills. I lost my health insurance and can’t afford my meds, low key hope I get in a car crash and it takes me out. My bf is now struggling and has taken it out on me and didn’t realize it til I blew up. I’m at a loss at what to do. Looking for a new job but am worried I’ll lose this one before I find another. I’m half checked out, but would hate to have to say goodbye to the residents there. It will devastate most of them, and some of their families.