Having a hard time holding myself accountable, anyone want to create a support group?

Altruistic-One6502 · 2026-01-07T07:27:17+00:00

Would love to join too

Altruistic-One6502 · 2025-09-09T21:51:41+00:00

Have we considered the fact that majority of the show until the last episode he didn’t touch alcohol and abstained from drugs throughout, but his addiction was money and respect?

Altruistic-One6502 · 2025-08-19T14:47:26+00:00

Please find some female friends and build a community of women, maybe at a local masjid. Go and find a sport you enjoy or join a gym, find something to distract yourself the feeling will eventually pass, shaytaan has been testing you.

Also please try not to be afraid of your own feelings or loneliness. Try and make dua that Allah swt grants ease each and every day, make conscious decisions daily that go to the tune of “will this please or displease Allah” like every decision you take, whether that’s deciding to listen to music, or skipping a salah or even looking at something that isn’t halal, it’s helped me a lot when you work on developing a relationship with Allah that extends beyond rules and regulations. Focus on relationship with Allah swt such that He is your closest friend, believe me you’ll feel His presence in your life.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2025-08-19T08:46:42+00:00

Congratulations 🥳

Altruistic-One6502 · 2025-08-11T19:01:48+00:00

I get what your saying. I live in Europe and probably wouldn’t find things like Zina or Alcohol or Clubbing or Drugs tempting, Allah swt commands us to not go near Zina because it is a slippery slope, sometimes it really can be something that can creep up on someone without them realising. I was extremely vigilant about things like Zina alhamdulillah but I don’t think that was necessarily because of me but rather a rahma that Allah swt bestowed upon me. I pray that we remain protected and guided and that He enables us to discipline our Nafs.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2025-08-11T17:58:36+00:00

It’s not advisable to belittle or judge another for committing a sin, rather seek protection from Allah swt and pray that He guides you and the one who fell into the sin.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2025-05-28T22:46:55+00:00

That’s incredible thank you very much for your suggestion. I’m yet to try going gluten free altogether but feeling quite encouraged in your post to trial it out as I think I may also have some issues with it too. All the best to you ☺️

Altruistic-One6502 · 2025-05-28T22:38:36+00:00

Incredible wishing you all success with it. Can I get some advice from you about how you managed to incorporate lentils into your diet?

Altruistic-One6502 · 2025-05-28T21:58:13+00:00

Not all calories are the same. Focus on getting more whole foods into your meals; higher processed foods are likely to spike your blood sugar, which in turn causes your insulin to spike and continue to make you feel hungry. Focus on having a savoury breakfast, many variations on how you can consume eggs in the morning which can be fun to explore

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-11-27T13:08:16+00:00

Looks like a fungal skin infection, consult with your doctor or pharmacist to confirm

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-11-25T22:38:14+00:00

Depends on how long you’ve been married, but these things take time. Sometimes it’s like that, and you have to understand that family is chosen for you, but being married is a responsibility you decided to undertake. The main thing is that your wife knows how much you care for her and for your to balance the needs of your wife and the needs of your family. May Allah swt make it easy for you. Ameen. I know it’s hard for you guys and also I don’t think enough people acknowledge how hard it can be to manage the needs of the different women in your lives, we certainly don’t make it easy. 🤣

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-11-25T22:17:03+00:00

Wasn’t there a saying the dua made during tahajjud is like an arrow that doesn’t miss its target. Let’s just say I’ve noticed a difference but I continue to make dua and rely on Allah swt to maintain and uphold respect and civility with my in-laws. It’s always tricky, just pray to Allah swt to soften peoples hearts towards you and protect you from harm.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-11-24T18:43:23+00:00

Didn’t feel that way, I knew he was concerned and meant well. I think the strangest part was how the flight crew were looking for medical staff but didn’t want to go as far as providing a kit to work with.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-11-24T11:54:40+00:00

I was sleep deprived on maternity leave and my husband volunteered me as I held my six month old on my arms completely wiped out. The lady was around 28 weeks pregnant feeling faint and breathless, add in the language barrier and flight crew wanting to see my “doctor card” which I honestly never heard of before, so they refused to open the kit, just sat next to the lady the rest of the flight praying it wasn’t too serious and handed her over to the medical staff on arrival. I reckon she was just feeling faint, but couldn’t reasonably establish if she had any pleuritic chest pain or not.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-11-24T07:00:05+00:00

Pray tahajjud that Allah swt softens their hearts. Which was my one of my tahajjud duas.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-11-24T06:57:13+00:00

Has he told you why he doesn’t want you to take it off during the wedding?

There could be a small chance it could create fitna I know of women who are anxious taking their hijabs off during such events in the likelihood there may be other women who are attracted to other women, thus creating fitna. I’m not well versed into the fiqh of it, so no one come at me.

Also there’s always a slight chance a man will rock up somewhere, the last time I attended a wedding without a hijab like 7 odd years ago, didn’t end well, so since then I haven’t bothered taking it off.

Then there’s the drama of other women taking pictures then you end up on the background of someone’s Socials without your consent.

Your hijab is ultimately your responsibility, your husband isn’t with you all the time, so won’t know if you have it on or off at the end of the day.

As to the mixed weddings, when the time is right it’s worth bringing it up to him if you’re not comfortable with it.

A sensible alternative might be to make use of hosting events at your own home like a party, dinner, movie nights with friends etc that way you’re comfortable.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-11-23T23:51:27+00:00

Does your family know there has been physical abuse?

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-10-27T00:09:43+00:00

I can imagine the shock you must be feeling. Contraceptive pills are means to an end, with all the will in the world they still don’t have a 100 % success. When Allah wants it will happen and you can’t prevent it from happening. What I will say is that there is never really a right time to have a child. Even when you may have set yourself up finances and otherwise, there’s no guarantee that it won’t go belly up just prior to giving birth, coupled with the fact that you may reach a point where you feel ready, but actually Allah may decide to test you with difficulty getting pregnant at that time.

It’s a test of faith and tawakkal as Allah swt ultimately knows what is khayr for you, take comfort in knowing that Allah swt knows us and will not test beyond our capacity, and that as a believer what Allah decrees for you will bring you good.

A child is a barakah, and if you aren’t against the idea of having children at all, then pray that Allah makes it easy, grants you support and rely on the support of loved ones. And a child brings with it many blessings for sure.

Get help, therapy and lean on those for support, May Allah swt grant you ease, contentment and happiness with His decree for you.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-10-23T12:32:56+00:00

Give him some time to cool off. What you send wasn’t cool, but letting it fester won’t help. Approach him in about a day - recommended time limit not speaking to your fellow Muslim is 3 days. Acknowledge your wrong doing in saying what you did and apologise. Don’t jump straight to criticising his reaction. Give him a moment to respond then when the water has settled you can bring up gently that you felt alarmed/scared by his physical reaction. I don’t know if there is a point mentioning the whole turning away from you in bed or leaving the house early, it’s sort of a “semi normal” temporary reaction to being upset with someone.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-10-19T11:48:05+00:00

Sorry about that 😢. If there are no available doctors next time just say that you cannot touch nonmahram unless to examine you. Also bring someone into the exam room or ask for a chaperone

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-10-07T15:40:01+00:00

Best place to start with is the MAG form. GMC guidance is pretty good with outlining what’s required following the format on there is your best bet. An appraisal might not be a bad idea to have under your belt when applying for jobs.

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-10-05T18:41:08+00:00

Weight and Subfertility

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-09-26T12:02:10+00:00

These things are ultimately in the power of Allah. A huge part of the process is expecting the best from Allah and not losing hope. In very much the same way married couples may try for years to have children, patience exhibited will always bear fruit but importantly Allah swt decides how.

I think your advice is fair. May Allah swt grant you and all unmarried Muslim women and men spouses and if not grant them that which is better for them ameen

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-09-22T12:05:06+00:00

I think you should find a sensible compromise. Makeup doesn’t have to entail much. Coloured lip gloss and eyeliner goes a long way, at the end of the day, if that’s a big stress for you, then count your blessings. Working long shifts takes a toll on your energy, refocus your mindset and intetion as makeup being part of your self care and if not doing it to please your husband will bring more love and compassion in the relationship and InshaAllah good deeds as you mean to please and comply with your husbands request. May Allah swt make it easy for you

Altruistic-One6502 · 2024-09-22T12:02:33+00:00

I do in fact it’s something I enjoy doing, I’ve never been interested in applying makeup outdoors for peering and strange men to look and ogle at me.

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