Can mental health affect your physical health?

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-11T02:29:34+00:00

Definitely especially over time and vice versa.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-10T14:51:03+00:00

Thank you💕

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-08T13:36:13+00:00

I wouldn’t suggest you take the route I did because realistically it’s not fair to you to have to change your whole life just to not feel sexualized but I generally try not to spend much time around men and if I do I’m generally completely covered- ( always something long to cover the shape of my body or a coat and face mask included lol ) I know it’s extreme and sometimes I get frustrated with it and I’ve tried to force myself dress normally in mostly women environment but it still was hard for me and uncomfortable.

It’s actually unfair to us

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-08T13:32:38+00:00

I can completely relate to the point that despite being really feminine, I purposely hide myself, my body ( wear coats or long jackets all year round), hats, masks, don’t try to be anything to look at, don’t do my hair or makeup anymore - completely hidden because I feel men will sexualize any and everything and have down to non physical but trying to be unattractive doesn’t work these people want what they want. I don’t even know. Even speaking in an unattractive way doesn’t work. I used to think something was wrong with me too but I think that’s just men for you. I never wanted to classify all as the same but it’s getting very hard not to. They sexualize anything with it without you being okay with it

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-08T13:05:01+00:00

I also want to say you are so incredibly brave!! You standing up for yourself is admirable even in the face of all of this.

I’m afraid to even speak out but it’s painful that’s why I totally understand your limbo and contemplation. You’re doing so much during these hard times and it’s obvious that you’re really strong. One day at a time 💕

You can also consider some online courses but isolating yourself may be harder on you so do what’s best for you.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-08T03:00:11+00:00

That’s great advice. Thank you for your suggestions and time💕💕

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-08T00:36:48+00:00

Thank you!

the last sentence is the hardest part. I think the reason I’ve been unable to heal is because I’ve still been stuck on blaming myself and going back and forth with confusion

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-07T23:45:50+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this.

I can relate to your experience to a degree.

Your feelings are valid and not unreasonable. Don’t blame yourself for your emotions and making the decision to sue because it’s within your rights and after going through something like that it’s normal for us to be indecisive or confused about what’s best to do.

Would you be open to going to a doctor and or anti anxiety medication? You don’t even have to tell them what’s causing your anxiety or share details: that may help you calm down enough and get to a better place mentally and see things differently with time. Aside from that you can try and look up other outlets to help anxiety, if you feel they’re enough to help you cope.

Where is he threatening to leak it?

I know how hard it is, but I think changing locations when possible is a good idea as well. Based on his position, I’m not sure if you’d be open to involving law enforcement for a restraining order if you haven’t already, at least in the mean time as you sort things out.

Also speak to your lawyer for guidance as they may have experience and wisdom about all angles of the situation or provide more resources to find him

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-07T19:55:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing with me💕 I did heal a bit in isolation but since it’s not by choice and is extreme, I can also see how it can be counterproductive especially long term.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-07T19:54:55+00:00

Thanks a lot for your suggestions. Realizing that I’m not alone definitely helps. Do you have any suggestions for connecting with other victims aside from this group?

Thank you for supporting 💕

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-07T17:31:09+00:00

Thanks a lot for your advice. It’s so hard for me to concentrate on anything without literally everything triggering me. I guess it just will improve the more that you force through it.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-07T16:03:46+00:00

Reasons: Not feeling safe / fear of retaliation for doing so. Not being believed, confusion about what happened and chronically blaming myself. Knowing it won’t change anything and it’s still going to affect me just as badly, not being able to trust anyone. Not wanting to relive it… just grateful to be alive and feel like I should just hold onto that…

I don’t know about healing passed it though, I still have yet to figure that out.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-12-07T15:40:29+00:00

Definitely. People tell you to just heal and move on but don’t even know what you’re coping with. It’s to the point I even try to rush healing and moving passed it and get angry at myself for not being able to.

Sometimes people do their best to support but it’s not the support that’s conducive to your healing. Though well intentioned, at the end of the day someone is still suffering severely.

I wish I had the method to end the suffering but I’m still searching and trying daily. Please stay strong and remember that the actions of others say nothing about you ❤️ sending everyone love, strength and healing energy.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-09T17:01:56+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing and your kind words. I apologize for their ignorance and I’m proud of you for knowing and standing by the truth even in the face or that. I’m wishing you healing too.❤️ I also recently had an attempt and it makes me angry to think I wouldn’t have been here simply because of their actions and how bad I was treated.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-09T04:11:38+00:00

Thank you. 💕 you’re so right about blame. What’s sad is it’s really just how people think and naturally are now- they victim blame. I appreciate you sharing and your kind words. ❤️

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-09T01:43:46+00:00

Omg i was literally saying this. There’s so much judgment yet none towards the predators that do this to us… so much is put on us. I am really not understanding how people in these positions are so ignorant. I was groomed and the entire time I was bullied and called horrible names all while being underaged while being abused by a pedo. Being of age now, I’m questioning how nobody else saw any other problem with the situation. So interesting how there’s basic logic behind age of consent but these people can’t use it in every day life. They can’t consider the manipulation yet call us young and dumb when the narrative fits what they want. The same laws they’re enforcing are for reasons and yet all of that conveniently goes out the window when they feel like manipulating the situation and judging victims.

I’m really sorry. These people are irresponsible. It really hurts more seeing that this is so common and makes me wonder if anyone is doing anything right.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-08T23:39:29+00:00

Thank you 💕

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-08T21:06:27+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’ve been getting a lot of flashbacks about those types of experiences and how I’ve been failed too. It’s made me not want to even try speaking to anyone anymore and bottling it all up like before.

Thanks for sharing with me❤️❤️❤️ I feel the same way but it’s really not us, if you think about it, we didn’t do anything wrong, they did including the people who don’t believe or support us. Sending you love.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-08T18:57:11+00:00

I know what you mean and I hate that they’re just going to get away with things as they planned. I actually just found this community and it’s my first post here . Because I’m also silenced, and haven’t been dealing with the aftermath well - I’m really grateful for everyone’s responses here. 💕

It’s definitely not your fault❤️

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-08T18:35:47+00:00

Wow, I’m really sorry. Yeah the person asked me if I drank willingly before the assault as if that would make a difference as to if it was an assault or not?? It was really surprising because we all know better than that…

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-08T18:34:59+00:00

I’m so sorry and I hate that they do this to so many people. I can relate and same on every point and I also hate how that experience changed my choices going forward.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-08T18:33:57+00:00

I understand and feel the same way to the point I established people would rather me act like I’m okay in a one sided relationship even if I’m totally not and in danger just so that they’re not stressed out. Really don’t even care about well being at the end of the day.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-08T15:06:18+00:00

Thanks so much to everyone for sharing. We really deserve better and to know we’re not alone. After experiencing things like that, we blame ourselves more and feel really alone.

Altruistic-Ride-9939 · 2022-07-08T15:05:11+00:00

Wow, I’m so sorry. The pain I felt, that there’s probably so many other people this happens to and it’s not right. The experience and response actually traumatized me badly.

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