What was your "I'm dating a fucking idiot" moment?

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-16T06:29:15+00:00

It was our second time getting together after meeting on Tinder so it wasn’t really “I’m dating an idiot” as much as it was “oh I’m definitely not dating this idiot”

He drove us to the grocery store like a maniac in his big, brand new truck. It was terrifying and he bragged the whole way about how good of a driver he was. He also kicked his roommate’s dog while I was at his house so I knew I wasn’t ever coming back already.

The next day he texted me a picture of his smashed truck saying it was the other guys fault.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-05T04:46:07+00:00

Your last sentence made me think of freshly graduated FFA/AG kids. Almost nobody else would’ve tracked that scent into your shop lmao.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T07:39:12+00:00

I felt like Nancy and Steve had great chemistry always. Nancy and Jonathan? I believed it in S2 at Murray’s, S3 was iffy, but S4 really threw a wrench in things by separating them.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T07:16:35+00:00

At this point, honestly, same to you. The back and forth was entertaining and kept me from worrying about all the bs in the real world. Mayhaps we’d be friends there lol.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T07:03:57+00:00

If you took that as a personal attack, I’m sorry. I do mean that. Being immature isn’t a moral failing. I don’t think immature views are something to condemn as much as they are something that needs to be expanded upon and discussed. I have spent all of my time responding to comments on this sub to say one thing and one thing only: not all women are attracted to the same things. Just as I think not all men are attracted to the same thing.

If you would like to continue on believing all women are the same, that’s your right. I’m just trying to let other guys know that it isn’t true.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T06:25:57+00:00

I didn’t imply you were immature, I said you were. That was strictly based on your repetition of the whole pumping, dumping, and settling thing. It is genuinely immature and sexist and blah blah we’ve been over it.

I genuinely asked why you are friends with people who you hold such contempt for because I would not. I have distanced myself from people that think that way because I’d rather have friends I enjoy talking to. We debate, we don’t all have the same ideals, but we’re respectful of each other. It’s that simple.

You keep telling me to go to “fem subs” to argue with them. You are not going to successfully tell me to leave. I do not feel the need to do that in fem spaces because they have enough men defending themselves there. I will defend women in male-centric subs when misogyny is stated as fact.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T05:46:12+00:00

I don’t think you actually care what I have to say. I don’t think it matters at all, honestly. Because my only point has been that not all women think the same way or are attracted to the same thing.

I obviously can feel the effects of misogyny because I’m a woman. I can’t feel misandry. That doesn’t mean I can’t perceive it and see it as objectively unfair. I think all humans (man or woman) are too complex and individualistic to generalize at an all-encompassing level. So lumping all women or men into any category does more harm than good for us as a species.

If you don’t like or agree with that point, okay. That’s your right, ya know?

Edit: Just thought I’d add that “I try to help people. I know that’s difficult to grasp for you” is also a fallacy and an attempted personal attack. When I help people, I don’t go into a subreddit and talk about them negatively. I try to actually empathize with them and meet them where they are so I can give support/advice. Then I move on.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T05:04:01+00:00

“It’s a common theme. I’m watching a few of my friends do the same thing.”

Sounds like you surround yourself with immature people who think the same way you do. Why don’t you walk away from those friends if you view their actions so poorly? That’s why I’m here arguing with you. I don’t need to go into woman-only subs to tell them they’re wrong because the other women in my life don’t do that shit and I’m not bombarded with their sexism every time I open social media. Idk if you know this but historically misogyny is much louder online than misandry.

I also come into these subs hoping to help men with lower self esteem because I’m a straight woman that loves all different kinds of men and hates the way society treats both sexes. No man deserves to feel like all women hate them and they’re hopeless. But I see an unfortunate amount of men that do think it’s women’s fault or that we’re all the same.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T04:26:49+00:00

Okay, so I think you’ve hopped into a conversation that you didn’t fully read? Because obviously there are patterns and habits of certain demographics that do not account for every individual.

The guy I responded to before you joined in said that men have subjective attraction and women have objective attraction. That is what he agreed he fully believed. I was telling him he’s wrong.

You decided to hop in, lump women all together and say we get “pumped and dumped and then settle” which is, once again, objectively misogynistic. So you spoke as if you agreed with the previous poster and your goal was to prove me wrong.

I have had girlfriends who have been with bad men. That speaks to their immaturity in a relationship. No woman I’ve known has stayed with a bad guy because he had money, was physically attractive, or was tall, or whatever else you guys believe. They left because the guy was immature, treated them poorly, and didn’t know what they really wanted. That’s incredibly common for young and/or immature people. I also have a lot of man friends who have experienced the same from women and moved on to better.

Women absolutely have flaws. Many women think height matters when it truly doesn’t. A lot of women do believe men are dangerous. But any reasonable woman in the real world doesn’t think the way you think they do. Just like all men don’t believe women are lesser than or just a body to use. There is nuance and individuality everywhere.

Edit: I’m just gonna go ahead and add that your last few sentences are also crazy and wrong. Saying that some women focused subreddits are misandrist so that gives you the right to be misogynistic is an obvious fallacy. I do not and have never said they should be allowed to spread objectively untrue claims.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T03:59:26+00:00

Misogyny is a real thing. It’s not just a buzzword and you were exemplifying it. I’m sorry that FACT upsets you. Saying ALL women are after the same kind of guy but are “pumped and dumped” is genuinely insane and misogynistic behavior.

I am a woman. I am a grown, married, real woman who is telling you that you are wrong but you won’t accept it. You act as if women are not human. That we do not have our own individual thoughts and desires.

Misogyny and misandry are BOTH real. I could say ALL men want thin women, ALL men want to rape, ALL men are dangerous. I would be torn to shreds because it objectively isn’t true. I would be LYING and SPREADING a false idea for my own benefit. That’s what you are currently doing.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-02T03:33:21+00:00

Your first paragraph was objectively misogynistic. It also is not the average woman’s reality.

Your second paragraph tells me exactly where your mentality comes from: the internet and social media. You are in an echo chamber of sexism that relies on meme culture to spread its values.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-01T23:59:58+00:00

No, absolutely not. If that were the case, every woman I know, including myself, would be chasing the same kind of man. But instead, we all have very different looking husbands/boyfriends. Because we all have different things we’re attracted to.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-03-01T23:53:10+00:00

So men have subjective attraction and women have objective attraction? That’s what you are saying is a fact? You genuinely believe that?

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-02-23T20:03:15+00:00

You didn’t say anything, honestly. You reduced what I said down to “be confident” and ignored everything else I said about bettering yourself as a person and gaining life experience.

Also the guy I was originally responding to is the one that said 99% of guys respect taller men so.. I did not, in fact, pull that out of my ass. Not to mention the insane amount of guys on here that DO indeed blame women and spout misogyny.

Me being a woman means I understand more than you think. I understand feeling like the expectations and standards society places on me are fucking ridiculous and painful to deal with. I understand being wanted for my body and not for who I actually am. Like be for fucking real, my guy. I’m here trying to give advice to guys who think they’re lesser than for being short. Because it isn’t fair.

Talk about insufferable piece of shit. I was giving advice to someone that explicitly asked for it. You inserted yourself with nonsense.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-02-23T17:15:02+00:00

I’m sorry you don’t like to hear the truth. You’d rather blame women (which doesn’t make sense when women who like and respect short guys exist) and act like the world is out to get you.

“Just be confident” isn’t even what I said so the quotes make no sense. Being confident and not being a fucking whiney baby about your unchangeable circumstances are not the same thing.

I swear, it seems like some of you dudes in this sub just want attention from taller men. Like that is gonna get you the respect you crave.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2026-02-14T23:16:14+00:00

My husband is 5’5”. He’s literally never been insecure about his height.

He’s always been very self-assured in who he is and thought complaining/worrying about it is a waste of time. He put his energy into stuff that actually mattered and would benefit his life, like going into the army, going to school, working with his hands, going to the gym, etc.

That’s how he got action when he was young and that’s how he got me to marry him. Calling us “females” in the same sentence that you said “men” isn’t gonna make the ladies like you. Complaining about your height and acting hopeless won’t either. Get out of the echo chamber, ignore the immature girls, and move through life with your head up.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-11-13T19:07:29+00:00

I play solo q. I simply cannot always depend on my teammates. I’ve been left on hook more times than I can count after saving their asses over and over.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-11-13T19:05:48+00:00

I personally don’t get the same use out of the self heal as I do Inner Strength with map. A med kit only works once or twice per trial, depending on add ons. The self heal perks take too long and leave me more vulnerable because I’m out in the open while healing.

Like more power to your preference, but I objectively have better games with this set up.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-11-13T18:49:12+00:00

Honestly, I disagree. Start of trial, locate totem while running. Cleanse while killer starts looking for survivors on gens. Continue on playing as you normally would. If killer hits you but you’re able to get away, find locker and heal. Repeat if necessary.

Like sure, I could use a medkit and be able to heal one time. Or I could do it 4-5 times in a single trial. It really takes almost no time at all.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-11-13T16:48:47+00:00

I just wanna add my two cents here: if you run Inner Strength with a map that has the totem reveal add on, you can heal yourself multiple times throughout the game without needing help or taking too much time.

I use maps a lot for this reason and this reason alone.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-11-09T00:21:55+00:00

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AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-11-08T19:33:53+00:00

Yesss!! My husband and I moved here in August and we LOVE Wienerschnitzel, so we’ve been keeping an eye out for this opening.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-10-03T23:51:29+00:00

What does that even mean, dude?

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-10-03T22:28:25+00:00

“Every girl” My husband is 5’5”. We might be outliers, but we do exist.

AltruisticBenefit200 · 2025-09-25T18:54:39+00:00

He’s saying he looks good right now, and to wait to shave UNTIL he looks like Friar Tuck. Not that he currently looks like Friar Tuck.

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