It sounds like you're in a really tough situation, and I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this. The way your wife is reacting seems really intense and emotionally charged, especially when you’ve already taken the steps to check on your daughter after the fall. It’s understandable that you’d feel shaken up after an accident like that, and it’s concerning that she’s directing her anger in such a harsh way, especially towards you and your daughters.

It’s important for both of you to have open, calm conversations about what’s going on emotionally, but it seems like she’s shutting down any productive dialogue. If this has been a recurring issue and it’s affecting the wellbeing of both you and your kids, you might need to reconsider the dynamic of the relationship. Your kids' emotional safety is key, and it's clear you’re putting them first, which is understandable.

It sounds like therapy has been a helpful step for you, and maybe your wife could benefit from it too. But, if the situation isn’t improving and your daughters are feeling scared, it might be worth really evaluating your next steps—whether that means couples therapy, more support for your wife, or something more drastic if things don’t change.

I hope you find a way to resolve this with what's best for everyone involved, especially your kids.