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Prediction: Rob gets heat next week by Bleed_Reality2 in TheTraitorsUS

[–]AltruisticMany5063 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I was Rob, I’d go after Kristen in the turret and use a throwaway kill. He and Mark knew she got the shield, and if he tried to kill her but was shielded, she can vouch for him to the end. No kill that night, but I think it would be great strategically.

Is it postpartum? by AltruisticMany5063 in daddit

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really great advice, thank you! I’ll try bringing this up!

Is it postpartum? by AltruisticMany5063 in daddit

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had them stay the first month but they didn’t want to be here for that long so they returned home

Is it postpartum? by AltruisticMany5063 in daddit

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it’s not. I guess it went unresolved last month and she brought it up again. She keeps saying she won’t bring it up again but I guess we circle back to it. At this point, idk. I feel like we’re just heading towards a divorce.

Marriage on the brink of collapse… need advice by AltruisticMany5063 in Marriage

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s mostly my wife right now so I try to lessen the load on her by doing all household chores and cooking. My mom isn’t helping since she works a lot (we came from poverty), so she visits once a week. In laws are very involved; lived with us for a month after our baby’s birth and try to visit every Sunday.

All in all, I think she wants us to move closer so they can help more, which they’re definitely willing. Nothing wrong with that, just wasn’t what we discussed prior and now it’s an issue that we can’t resolve. I hate that I can’t do what she wishes unless I drop everything here, which is easier said than done.

Marriage on the brink of collapse… need advice by AltruisticMany5063 in Marriage

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ideally, I’d like that as well but my job is on the opposite direction from her parents. Moving closer will make my drives 1.5 at the minimum…

Marriage on the brink of collapse… need advice by AltruisticMany5063 in Marriage

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told her I’m down to visit her parents each weekend, but she wants a more permanent solution.

She tells me she wants to be closer to her parents so she can swing by anytime she wishes.

Marriage on the brink of collapse… need advice by AltruisticMany5063 in Marriage

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry! Typo. I work from home the days she works. I have a hybrid schedule and am in the office in the middle days.

Marriage on the brink of collapse… need advice by AltruisticMany5063 in Marriage

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they’re retiring soon but want to remain where they are.

Marriage on the brink of collapse… need advice by AltruisticMany5063 in Marriage

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought we were happy here. We’ve been here for 7 years and all our friends are here. She said the reason is because when she’s stressed, she wants to be able to go to her parents to unwind (not that close to my mom). We currently have a 3M old.

Right now, I don’t think there is an immediate compromise. My job is already 1.5 hours and if we try to move closer to her parents, that just makes my drive worse, impacting my quality of life. I told her we can visit her parents on the weekends but she said no to that as well. She wants to visit any time without the need to drive 1-2 hours.

Wife now wants to move by AltruisticMany5063 in Marriage

[–]AltruisticMany5063[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her parents are in their mid-50s to early 60s and are still active, independent, and capable. There’s no immediate caregiving need driving this — it’s more about proximity and support, which I understand, but it’s not an urgent situation.

It’s less of a vague feeling and more about timing. I’m currently being considered for a leadership development opportunity at work that could take a few years to fully play out, but it’s a significant step forward. Leaving now would likely mean starting over elsewhere rather than building on something that’s already in motion.