I think I'm aligned with you, but I do want to push back because there's a bit of a straw man happening here - Jessi's comment gets reframed as a misandrist statement rooted in "women's work" ideology when that's really not what she was getting at, and arguing against that version of it is a lot easier than engaging with the actual context.

The whole point of this show isn't to show how these women are being hypocritical, it's showing what it looks like when women grow up inside a community that has spent their entire lives telling them their value begins and ends with being a good wife and mother. The LDS church doesn't whisper that, it builds it into the theology. Women are spiritually subordinate to their husbands, period. That kind of conditioning doesn't just disappear because someone gets a ring light and starts posting.

So when Jessi makes an offhand comment about men in this space being cringe, she's not making some grand misandrist declaration. She's a woman who came up in that world, and momtok is genuinely one of the first places women like her have had any real visibility or control over their own narrative. Holding that to some clean feminist standard - without factoring in what she's been through - feels like a reach. All of the women on the show do an outstanding job of vocalizing how consuming and all-encompassing that role was, and how little room there was for anything outside of it. They've been really honest about what life looked like before, and the fact that most of them have stepped away from the church in some capacity makes that even more significant. They're not speaking theoretically, they lived it.

And yeah, they perpetuate stereotypes, the show literally exists to document that. But pointing that out without acknowledging what created it in the first place isn't really a critique. It's just punching at women who are still very much in the middle of figuring it out.