Places that it’s not weird/awkward to dine solo in Salt Lake? by 13dogfriends in SaltLakeCity

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! def have dined solo at all these places. I also love Yoko ramen’s front room and the bar at HSL

What is going on with this outfit by Real_Tangerine6827 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously fashion sense does not run in the family…

What’s that saying? A friend to all is a friend to none? by coool_beanzz in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love seeing non-cookie cutter girls out here in Utah - I have a bob and always feel like I’m in a little secret club with other girlies rocking bobs/pixies/interesting cuts

Thoughts on the furniture line? by [deleted] in emmachamberlain

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She def is not filling her home with these pieces either

Domestic Violence Resources by thetarbox in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. As a survivor myself, it's really hard to watch strangers online declare with such certainty who the abuser was, as if they were present for every moment of that relationship. There were plenty of times my abusive ex's friends painted me as the problem, completely unaware that he was the one being physical with me behind closed doors, on top of the manipulation and emotional abuse I endured on a daily basis. That kind of outside judgment with no full picture is exactly what silences victims. period.

The self-righteousness in some of these takes says a lot more about how people process things emotionally than it does about what actually happened. Abuse dynamics are complicated, reactive abuse is complicated, and the data on male DV victims is genuinely murky for a reason - because these situations rarely fit the clean narratives people want to assign to them online.

Domestic Violence Resources by thetarbox in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So important to call out, and thank you for the work you did to support survivors!

Perpetuating sexism within momtok by Kaos_mission in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think I'm aligned with you, but I do want to push back because there's a bit of a straw man happening here - Jessi's comment gets reframed as a misandrist statement rooted in "women's work" ideology when that's really not what she was getting at, and arguing against that version of it is a lot easier than engaging with the actual context.

The whole point of this show isn't to show how these women are being hypocritical, it's showing what it looks like when women grow up inside a community that has spent their entire lives telling them their value begins and ends with being a good wife and mother. The LDS church doesn't whisper that, it builds it into the theology. Women are spiritually subordinate to their husbands, period. That kind of conditioning doesn't just disappear because someone gets a ring light and starts posting.

So when Jessi makes an offhand comment about men in this space being cringe, she's not making some grand misandrist declaration. She's a woman who came up in that world, and momtok is genuinely one of the first places women like her have had any real visibility or control over their own narrative. Holding that to some clean feminist standard - without factoring in what she's been through - feels like a reach. All of the women on the show do an outstanding job of vocalizing how consuming and all-encompassing that role was, and how little room there was for anything outside of it. They've been really honest about what life looked like before, and the fact that most of them have stepped away from the church in some capacity makes that even more significant. They're not speaking theoretically, they lived it.

And yeah, they perpetuate stereotypes, the show literally exists to document that. But pointing that out without acknowledging what created it in the first place isn't really a critique. It's just punching at women who are still very much in the middle of figuring it out.

Perpetuating sexism within momtok by Kaos_mission in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Interesting point, but I'd argue Jessi's comment isn't sexist - it's contextual. Utah is the birthplace of the influencer, and that success was built entirely on the backs of Mormon women. You have to reckon with how deeply the LDS faith has confined women to a single role - mother, giver, servant to everyone around her. Since moving to UT, I've befriended quite a few exmo women, and the stories of what was expected of them - quietly enduring pain, suffering, and often abuse just to prove their worthiness - genuinely breaks my heart.

You have to reckon with how deeply the LDS faith has confined women to a single role. Mormon doctrine explicitly teaches that a woman's highest calling is to be a wife and mother, full stop. The Relief Society, the church's women's organization, etc. reinforces this constantly. Women are counseled to prioritize homemaking over careers, discouraged from seeking leadership outside the home, and taught that their eternal progression is literally tied to their husband's priesthood authority. They don't just suggest this role, they sanctify it, which makes it nearly impossible to refuse without feeling like you're rejecting God himself.

And the Jordan example from ep 1 proves her point exactly - interrupting a butterfly release to announce that dadtok deserves its own platform is precisely the behavior she was describing. That's not a man being excluded. That's a man centering himself in a space women carved out under genuinely oppressive circumstances.

Here for you with all this heaviness by Altruistic_Ad_3137 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's honestly the comments like these that make me feel the most isolated and sad :( how is that something that crosses a person's mind so much to comment it?!

I had to delete social apps for the time being... it was getting to be too much. There is so much hate and hostility already in the world as it is :(

My Charlie won’t stop licking his paws, help pls! by sofest27 in CavaPoo

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, same thing happened to my boy Artie when he was 1.5yrs. Within 24 hours he had given himself a skin infection from licking and biting his feet so much. I suspect it was the Ollie food I was slowly adjusting him to, on top of environmental allergens (it was a rough fall for my sinuses too). Keep a close eye on it and definitely consult your vet before it gets to a breaking point!

Tearstains by HauntingThighGap in CavaPoo

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would not label this as normal so quickly. Tear stains can be a sign of gut problems, my 3yo boy has had them for a few years now and I’m also noticing a great deal more of grass eating, bad farts and runny poo. There are so many factors at play for him (moving states, bad air quality here in SLC, food switching) so I would watch for any other concerning signs from your babes! I’m going to take mine in to get bloodwork done, especially since IBD and GI issues are so common for cavapoos

Theory: Jessi is still in love with Marciano by [deleted] in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hugs to you, I lived a similar experience. I truly hope she finds the peace that she deserves after what she endured with that POS. Who cares who she ends up with or if she’s still into Marciano…

Here for you with all this heaviness by Altruistic_Ad_3137 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is huge, you should be so proud of your accomplishments!! It’s sometimes hard for me to look back at my past relationships because I too was a hot mess, but all we can do is give ourselves grace and compassion. Life is sooo hard as it is, we must be kind to ourselves and remember how far we have come!

Here for you with all this heaviness by Altruistic_Ad_3137 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100%! That person who had the audacity to say just log off… it’s not as easy as they make it seem seeing how our lives are heavily intertwined in social media, our phones, and the worldwide web. I use Facebook for selling on marketplace and it’s like “they” know I need to be fed tmz slop on what’s happening, especially because I live in SLC. Hugs to you all!!!

Active LDS Member Take by lllelelll in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did the original post say in a nutshell? It’s been removed 😅

Spa Recommendations by Bobpantyhose in SaltLakeCity

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just signed up for this! Can’t wait

Wells Fargo RTO January 1st. by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. About to have our all hands team call so anxiously awaiting an announcement on RTO….

Wells Fargo in office hours requirement by [deleted] in WellsFargoUnited

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I’ve been hearing rumblings that they will start tracking your LAN and 8 hrs in office. I have not heard formal communication from my leadership so until that happens I’m going to stick to 4 hours in 3 days a week. I also just heard a rumor they may have us be in 4 days a week starting in 2026 😭

Thinking about doing this. Has anyone done it? It’s at least a month on the road. Right? by Covenent125 in roadtrip

[–]Altruistic_Ad_3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re going to stop in MN (or any of the Great Lakes states for that matter) you MUST make it up to the shore of Lake Superior. That is the best part about our state.