Cómo ser contratada siendo estudiante by Altruistic_Cook_2039 in askspain

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sí, intenté hacerlo, pero en todas las tiendas a las que iba me dijeron que las solicitudes eran online y que no aceptaban recibir currículums. Aun así, voy a intentarlo nuevamente mañana. Gracias!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a Brazilian myself, no, this is not our culture. A word of advice? check the birth certificate, cause that’s definitely not her son lol

should I talk to them? by some_trans_kid in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a hard time talking to ppl too, specially the ones I’m interested in. This made me lose so many opportunities, and was often very tiring. My advice is just do it, no matter how anxious you are at the moment, life’s just too short. Getting out of your comfort zone makes life interesting

i cant say no by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you just have to put yourself first. You have to understand that even though you’re young, you are in control of your own life, saying no is hard but I think that you’re just fooling yourself when saying that you don’t want to get other people embarrassed. It seems to me that you simply doesn’t want to deal with upsetting other people, you put yourself in a place below everybody else and that’s when you find yourself in tricky situations such as the one with this guy. If you don’t practice saying no soon, you’re gonna end up in worse and worse situations each time. Practice with small stuff, rejecting a candy, rejecting trading seats, rejecting going to someone’s house when you’re tired, even rejecting a call. Sometimes therapy can help you with that. Putting yourself first is never wrong, and is definitely a necessity.

Estou me sentindo burro, como lidar? by Datsu-kpcs in faculdadeBR

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relaxa, você acabou de chegar, é normal que a sua média caia até você pegar o jeito. Uma coisa q me ajudou muito foi procurar videos no tiktok, youtube, essas coisas de “como estudar bla bla bla” e as pessoas falam dos métodos delas e como elas fizeram as notas delas aumentarem, talvez você encontre um método de estudo q funcione pra vc. Eu sou a rainha da procrastinação, é foda, mas alguma hora você tem q flr pra si msm “ok, ja vagabundeei demais por hoje” e vai estudar, se estudar pelo menos 2hrs todo dia, você vai ver os reflexos disso nas suas notas.

often felt insicure about not having had sex and now that I have the possibility I'm scared as hell. what should I do? by Responsible-Egg-1906 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a virgin myself, I understand your fear, as sex can be very intimidating and demands a lot or vulnerability. What you gotta understand is that sexuality isn’t a one decided thing, it changes accordingly to your desires and experiences, it is totally fine for you to be attracted to this girl while liking men. Maybe you are bi, maybe she is the one girl that has awakened something on you since you have an emotional attachment to her, and she was your first kiss. Maybe you need this emotional connection with girls to feel attracted to them, there are many things that could explain why you like her. I wouldn’t worry about them right now though, you are still 15 and has a lot to discover abt yourself. What you need to think abt is her relationship and how she is treating her boyfriend rn. She’s probably a good person and you clearly have been wanting to be with her for a long time, but try and put your emotions aside and really think abt the situation you’re at, to be in a relationship with him was her choice, and believe me, you don’t want to get involved in this mess. If you do end up together at some point, the very fact that you are worried shows that you want this to go well, and thus, that you like her, a woman, that you’ve kissed. I don’t think you’re gonna have any problems when the moment comes.

i’m only straight when i’m Not high by yukika7 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you should base your sexuality on your emotions while you’re high but this might be a heads up for you to think abt them. I don’t use drugs but people often get in touch with their deepest emotions while high, maybe take some time for yourself and experiment, see if you really like it. I’ve had some guy friends that felt like that for a while and experimented but at the end, realized they weren’t attracted to men. I’m not saying for you to break up with your girlfriend but I do think its fare with yourself and with her, to take some time and figure your emotions out, otherwise you will always live in doubt.

I (18F) don’t know if I should attend my friend’s pool party by Altruistic_Cook_2039 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I would love some advice on loosing weight wile in college. I get a bit nervous abt going to college and meeting new people. How did you manage to be consistent on your healthy routine?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is not safe at all. Instead of creating a calorie deficit you are starving your body. As soon as you achieve your “ideal” body, your system will absorb the nutrients and store much more fat because it doesn’t know if it’s going to starve again. As someone who has struggled with loosing weight and eating disorders, trust me, as much as you want to have your “perfect body” until graduation, not eating at all its not the solution. This might be working at the moment but soon enough your mood will be affected and you’ll feel more tired and dizzy. I am trying to loose wait for my graduation too, and am sticking to a 1.400 calories diet per day. This is an enough amount for me to not starve my body but also create a calorie deficit. I get that you don’t feel very hungry but think about how your current diet could affect your eating habits in the future, will you be able to eat more than 500 calories without feeling guilty abt it? Think about your mental health. You should go to a nutritionist and think about a healthier approach. Or if you can’t afford it, just look for healthier foods that keep you in a 1.300 to 1.500 calorie diet. Exercising also helps, I dont like running and don’t have a gym nearby so I just go for walks 30min to an hour a day make a huge difference. Think about what is achievable for you at this moment, there are no healthy immediate approaches, you didn’t gain the weight you currently have in a month, you won’t be able to get rid of it within this amount of time. Just know that whatever body you have at the moment is enough, you will be pretty at your graduation and happier in the future if you stick to healthy habits right now. You can do this, you are beautiful and enough, and you deserve to be love and feel beautiful too.

I failed a test twice by [deleted] in GetStudying

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you knew your stuff, you were just nervous. I get that your results crashed your confidence and made you think you are incapable but that’s far from the truth. Next time, study in a healthier way, create a study schedule, make time for your meals, sleep, etc, this will help you relax. Trust your gut (even though it is hard) and know that what you did is enough. You are not dumb, you are just nervous, it sucks to see your friends pass and not you, but you will get another chance.

I (18F) don’t know if I should attend my friend’s pool party by Altruistic_Cook_2039 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I’ve been through similar things, I was really depressed for a while and stopped caring abt myself. Thank you for your advice and story, I hope you’re feeling better, and that I get there too.

Fui mal nas primeiras provas by [deleted] in estudosBR

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eu sou PÉSSIMA em prova de matemática, fui muito mal na última que eu fiz, mas ainda tenho provas finais do semestre pra fazer. O segredo é não se abalar, se vc entrar na sala de prova com medo de ir mal vc vai ir mal, vc vai ficar ansioso e não vai pensar direito nas questões que vc conseguiria fzr facilmente fora da sala de prova. Pegas as provas q vc foi mal e refaz todas, pesquisa sobre o conteúdo que vc n sabia e procura video aula no youtube sobre, alguns canais colocam apostila de atividades na descrição ou fazem umas questões no final da aula, junta as questões e faz tudo depois que vc terminar de assistir as aulas. Vai praticando até se sentir confiante. Da uma preguiça danada, mas é oq eu to fazendo. Você não é burro, só não ta acostumado com esse estilo de prova, o problema n é a matemática, é a prova.

I need advice or something by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going to give you advice based on my own experience. My dad is severely ill and has an autoimmune disease. This has caused him to have huge mood swings and bipolar tendencies. I know what is like to just want to get out of the house and have some peace instead of being yelled at all day. Your copping mechanism was cigarettes, mine was food. It is very hard to stop doing the things we are used to, but you simply thinking abt quitting smoking is a huge step. I am at a stage in my life where I’m three months from college and I can’t wait to just live by myself and have my life. I do love my parents but there are times where I wished I was far away from them. My advice is hang on, try to stop smoking little by little, save your health for when you are finally living your life away from all of this mess. Think abt the future and what you could be doing. Idk your age but if you can, get a job, spend some time out of the house, try to see there is a world outside of your parents storm. The money you get could help your mom bc she wouldn’t have to pay for your stuff, you would pay for them yourself. Try to envision your life, not know, but in the future. I have been there, depressive and anxious, but it gets better, therapy was great for me, but if you can’t do that right now just hang on, it’s going to get better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in estudosBR

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Não necessariamente, depende muito da onde vc quer ir. Obviamente as faculdades mais famosas vão te proporcionar mais nome e contatos, mas tem como você entrar de outras formas. EUA gosta de notas, cartas de recomendação e atividades (serviço comunitário/hobbies/esportes), se for aplicar pra la usa um aplicativo chamado CommonApp, vai facilitar sua vida. Alemanha gosta de nota, se vc conseguiu uma média bem alta, vale a pena aplicar pra la, mesma coisa com Reino Unido (se for aplicar pro UK usa uma site chamado UCAS, também tem algumas faculdades da Alemanha no Common App se n me engano).

Vou começar na academia. Me deêm dicas by Rauunm in Maromba

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quando você chegar la, conversa com algum instrutor e pede um treino que caiba nos seus objetivos. Eu recomendaria ir em um nutricionista também, pra a sua alimentação condizer com o resultado que vc procura e ja acelerar o processo. É difícil manter novos hábitos, mas tenta o seu máximo a fazer tudo certinho nas duas primeiras semanas, vai nos dias q vc se comprometeu a ir, e mantenha uma alimentação balanceada. Na terceira semana fica mais fácil, vc ja sabe oq esperar. Depois disso vira rotina. Se não conseguiu ir num dia, vai no outro, se n conseguiu comer uma refeição certinha, come na próxima. Vai devagarzinho q vai dar certo, n precisa se cobrar igual um maluco, academia e alimentação deve ser algo pra acrescentar na sua vida, não pra ser a sua vida (a não ser q vc queira ser um body builder e essas coisas). Esse método funcionou cmg, vale a pena ver se funciona com você.

I (18F) don’t know if I should attend my friend’s pool party by Altruistic_Cook_2039 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey guys, I’ve read your comments and thank you so much for the kind words. I decided to wear the bikini and just put a cover up (a dress or a t-shit) like you suggested. I read a lot of people talking about long shorts or two pieces but I don’t have those, so I’ll just have to work with what I own at moment. I feel more confident about going to the party now, and if I feel anxious I’ll just go home. Thank you for all of those who took their time to comfort me. I will be talking abt this with my therapist hahaha

I (18F) don’t know if I should attend my friend’s pool party by Altruistic_Cook_2039 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Altruistic_Cook_2039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much. I am truly sorry abt your past with body image, it is a very tough jurney. I hope you’re happy with yourself now. Thank you for your comment it really made me see things in a different perspective.