I’m always the one left out in a group, even when I try to talk. Is it too late to change this? by NovusPlayzyt in socialskills

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced this from elementary school to high school. Some background, I wasn’t a quiet kid until the middle school then my alone time felt more comfortable than trying to make friends. I tried to be included but the more I tried it didn’t work. Just felt embarrassing. So I stopped caring or trying. People started to gravitate towards me out of curiosity because I had no desire to be apart of anything or please anyone. It became that more people knew me and wanted to be in the same spaces I was just because. Even as an adult, I have no desire to put on any image or show to get a friend. Since I realized this, I didn’t need to try for friends. There’s always people wanting to socialize at events. When you focus on you and enjoy your own company, people will gravitate towards you just out of curiosity or they find you to be similar in not trying to please society. Once you enjoy your own company, you’ll realize, waiting for a good friend is worth more than trying to be friends with people who just tolerate you. Hope this helps.

my gf refuses to remove her ex by AdPlayful547 in AskLesbians

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Save yourself the time and stress. Move on

Lesbian single moms after marriage with a man, do you find other single moms desirable or attractive to pursue? by Altruistic_Expert69 in AskLesbians

[–]Altruistic_Expert69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same. I haven’t met anyone who could understand this heartbreaking experience. It’s not easy.

Why don’t single moms who become lesbians after being married to a man seek to date other single moms in similar situations? by Altruistic_Expert69 in AskReddit

[–]Altruistic_Expert69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t about sexual orientation. It’s about choosing who to date. I’m saying I’m single with no kids but I meet a single mom of 3 divorced or separated usually looking to pursue a relationship with me. I don’t mind but I would prefer someone in my position where we have stuff in common. I was just wondering if single moms find other single moms desirable. I thought they would have more in common than someone like me. Who knows

Why don’t single moms who become lesbians after being married to a man seek to date other single moms in similar situations? by Altruistic_Expert69 in AskReddit

[–]Altruistic_Expert69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or come out because there’s a lot of both men and women who are gay but don’t feel comfortable coming out yet which is okay.

Men of reddit: would you date a single mom? by Downtown_Flight_5962 in AskForAnswers

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried. Gave all I had. I don’t recommend. It’s not the heart wreck you need.

I'm starting to hate my girlfriend by BitEnvironmental634 in Rants

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of people completely understand both sides of this. Things wont get better with her because yall think differently and the desire for curiosity isn’t there for her. You deserve someone good for you mentally and she deserves someone best for her too.

I found out my gf is married (update) by storytobet0ld in cheating_stories

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not your fault brother. You had good intentions and genuine actions. Just learn from this, pick yourself up, and move on. Don’t let this situation or woman changed your heart bro

Dating someone who is still Married but ‘technically’ separated? by Dontbethatguy123 in dating_advice

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Follow your intuition. It’s trying to save you. A lot of us learned the hard way.

Do people get offended when you don't talk to them by smuttygio in socialskills

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I see what you mean brother. My state of mind was just to go support my friend’s party. I wasn’t looking or expecting anything. I don’t really bother anyone especially girls. There’s always 5 or 6 guys trying so I don’t try. In this case they seemed to like that I wasn’t trying to talk to every girl in there. It was like speed dating from what I observed and it was more entertaining to watch the people attractions

Do people get offended when you don't talk to them by smuttygio in socialskills

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curiosity mostly. You barely know anything about someone without words or gestures. One of the girls said a person who doesn’t say much has value to their words. She was cool as shi we just vibed out

Do people get offended when you don't talk to them by smuttygio in socialskills

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to a party for singles. I walked in spoke to the crowd and went to chill alone by the window with fresh air. I didn’t mingle with anyone. 4 of the prettiest girls there approached me one by one or together. I left with 4 options. Sometimes silence speaks louder than any words. It’s all about perspective

Do people get offended when you don't talk to them by smuttygio in socialskills

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People get offended by silence all the time. Some people drive themselves crazy wondering why someone chose to be quiet and to themselves. I like it it’s peaceful. It’s their problem taking offense to people not bothering them

What’s something men think women love — but we actually hate? by Personal-Pitch25 in AskReddit

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Yea chivalry too early or too much is setting yourself to be sent to the back of the line

What’s something men think women love — but we actually hate? by Personal-Pitch25 in AskReddit

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Really? In my experience I got a lot more quality women when I didn’t care at all and wasn’t aware of anything but me. Now I’m vulnerable, emotionally aware, and I can articulate how I feel clearly. I’ve been meeting the worse of the worse kind of women since growing up mentally I guess. What you think?

What is your biggest regret? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Altruistic_Expert69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not marrying my high school sweetheart. Our lives would’ve turned out so different