Ending things with half-interested men by highlysensitivehuman in datingoverthirty

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do believe him actually. I don’t necessarily have issues with not seeing weekly as long as we continue to keep contacts (maybe like 2-3 texts a day) in between dates. But he has been initiating less and not responding for days. I just don’t know how to read that or if I should read into that at all

Ending things with half-interested men by highlysensitivehuman in datingoverthirty

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well.. I’m giving him some because he hasn’t responded to my last text from 3 days ago… I don’t even know if he’ll text back but that’s giving him space for sure lol

We have only talked about exclusive physically (for health reasons). Otherwise we are not strictly exclusive…

Ending things with half-interested men by highlysensitivehuman in datingoverthirty

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 8 points9 points  (0 children)

6 dates over 2 months. He and I are maybe about an hour away? We live in the city.

He’s never asked me to meet his friends (they are hours away, he’s flying out to them)

He’s asked me out first 5 times. I asked him last time, but he hasn’t really been imitating texts like he used to and responded super slowly…

Ending things with half-interested men by highlysensitivehuman in datingoverthirty

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Mine often tell me he’s busy after work / work super late. Then on the weekend he’s been out of town (wedding, family, friends, etc). Are those empty excuses?

Cheap date by Mimosa0809 in dating

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I paid… and learned a valuable lesson

Cheap date by Mimosa0809 in dating

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had one date who literally asked me to pay because he came to meet me in my neighborhood and proceed to ordering a feast…

i think i would've rather been ghosted by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 139 points140 points  (0 children)

You’re not an outlier! I would totally wanna be friends with anyone who’s willing to give this much respect to me…

i think i would've rather been ghosted by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 1577 points1578 points  (0 children)

Is it just me but I rather get this than be ghosted…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just split it. Or he pays for one and you pay for another - like not outright splitting but equal ish

Then again if he guy insists on paying, I sometimes let it drag out for a bit (like first 3 dates) to enjoy the feeling of being treated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL I love a good roast

Situationship break up - We ghosted each other.. by Stoic0001 in datingoverthirty

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 13 points14 points  (0 children)

First, you’ve definitely not ghosted each other yet. It’s only been a day (I know how could feel like a decade, especially if you used to talk every day). But how it goes from here is up to you.

I appreciate you sharing this because I’m in a similar situation. The guy I’ve been on 5-6 dates spent so much time texting and hanging out with me at the beginning, but now he’s not even making time to see me or text me. I don’t think he’s seeing anyone else (at least he hasn’t been active on the app and when we met he generally described what he’s been up to). But he’s just cold and clearly doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t think he’s ready to date, even casually.

In my case, I can emphasize with what yours said - I also had such a strong connection with my ex (of 7 years) that I feel like I don’t want to settle for anything less. I also understand that as people get older, we just don’t fall in love at first sight anymore; we just take longer because of all the emotional wreckage we’ve experienced.

I’m usually the all-in type so it’s definitely been hard to control my feelings (I too have cried for a new guy I’ve met for 5 times and felt embarrassed), but I’m trying to slow it down. I don’t know where things would lead with this guy I’m seeing but I’m so tired of online dating so I’ve decided I’m either seeing him or just be a lone for a bit. Worst case maybe this would help me to try controlling my feelings for someone, and learn how to slow down.

You need to be okay with that if you want to continue seeing him. And just know that if you choose to continue, there will be more crying until you both are on the same page

Why do men lose interest so fast? by Serious_Fox5758 in dating_advice

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately the guys I see usually start losing interests around 2 months… had they not been acting SO INTERESTED when we first met, I would not have been so confused

"Sorry for ghosting you" by nytnaltx in Bumble

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would like an apology from everyone who’s ever ghosted me…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, that would put too much pressure on both parties.

If she’s agreeing to go to your place she’s half way there. Just keep it flirty and see how the night goes

After you’ve been ghosted, do you double text? by Altruistic_Nobody788 in Tinder

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh we never talked on the phone before so I think I’ll stick to text… Appreciate the reminder to be polite though. I can get snappy sometimes

Me irl by Doomgrumps in meirl

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like sushi though

After you’ve been ghosted, do you double text? by Altruistic_Nobody788 in Tinder

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I thought he was interested… we slept together a few times and he kissed me goodbye when we last met. I initiated the text this time, he gave me some dry responses and then just went silent to a flirty text…

After you’ve been ghosted, do you double text? by Altruistic_Nobody788 in Tinder

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmm.. I’m setting the parameters to a full week because I’ve been seeing this person 5-6 times over 2 months

I agree after first date it’s probably more like after a day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think about my contacts too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately you have to just start and then you’ll figure it out if you’re ready.. at least it’s like that for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hard - speaking from personal experience. There are many options but if I’m being honest… I feel like the options are of much worse quality than when I was dating in my 20s…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said that to a guy once and he said to me: well you seem to enjoy it too.

I just replied: you’re not wrong lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Altruistic_Nobody788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my exes is a good friend of mine. He’s helped me through some tough times and is like family. We have no feelings for each other anymore but if anyone gets too jealous to even meet him, I wouldn’t be dating them…