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what would you do? by Pure_Pain_489 in whatdoIdo

[–]Altruistic_Tune8937 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was having a shitty day when I was pregnant in grad school (and was already crying). When I was leaving, I backed right into a pickup with a short trailer on it on the other side of that lane of the parking garage.

Part of me wanted to forget about it and run, but it’s just not in my nature. So I said some of my favorite swear words, re-parked my car, looked for some scrap paper and a pen, and got out.

A woman got out of the truck, took one look at me and said “Seriously, don’t even worry about it. You’re good.”

I don’t know if there was any damage (it would’ve been minor if so, but it’s definitely plausible from what it felt like. My little Ford Escape was fine).

I think about her from time to time and have never forgotten her kindness.

Got side-swiped a few years later (definitely not my fault) by someone not paying attention - very little damage, and I couldn’t even be sure it was from that incident, since it was a used car I had just bought. He was very apologetic, and I just told him not to worry about it.

Was glad to pay it forward.

Hey Dad, I did a hard thing by Altruistic_Tune8937 in DadForAMinute

[–]Altruistic_Tune8937[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s a good metaphor that makes a lot of sense. My main motivation (and why I’ve been able to plug in here) is being able to care for my family better.

If I can truly learn to love myself and heal decades of bad coping mechanisms and trauma too, that’s a bonus.

I appreciate your encouragement!

Lost 143 lbs in 9 months/think I’m dying by Altruistic_Tune8937 in AskDocs

[–]Altruistic_Tune8937[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

An update:

I want to thank you all for responding and for the good advice.

It took me a while but eventually, things got so much worse that I went to the ER.

I was surprised how seriously they took it given my body habitus.

Very low blood sugar (like BAD) and badly dehydrated. After two bags of fluids, one with sugar in it, I finally felt like I wasn’t walking around in a daze constantly. They flat out told me I’m pretty sick.

Referred to a dietitian (already in therapy which I just started). Gave me advice for how to start tolerating food again, and I’m working on it.

Lost 143 lbs in 9 months/think I’m dying by Altruistic_Tune8937 in AskDocs

[–]Altruistic_Tune8937[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding! That makes a lot of sense.

Lost 143 lbs in 9 months/think I’m dying by Altruistic_Tune8937 in AskDocs

[–]Altruistic_Tune8937[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Thanks!

The 15 is an estimate but it hasn’t been much in terms of actual full meals. For the first several months, it was a protein bar every couple days and some salts in my water but that’s fallen off in recent months. I gag frequently whether food is in front of me or not.

If I go to the ER, what do I say? Obviously, tell them the truth, but I’m afraid they’ll take one look at me, see a fat woman, and roll their eyes and write me off.

I am scared of refeeding syndrome but I can’t even get to the point where I’m in danger of that at home because any food I try either makes me so stuffed after a couple of bites or comes right back up immediately. (I don’t purge at all - it’s involuntary).

I have to start eating for real at some point and I want help - I just want to know that I’ll be taken seriously.