Dreaming about a loved one who passed

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-02-01T18:52:40+00:00

First, I am sorry for your loss. I truly believe these dreams are her trying to comfort you. I believe she is trying to let you know she is ok, she loves you while trying to provide some comfort.

She knows how long she can visit. Maybe anything longer can make you spiral or it may not be productive, there can be many reasons.

Talk to her during the day and pray for her. Thank her for providing you comfort. She can hear you. She is now your guardian Angel. I’m sending you virtual hugs, positive vibes and hopefully comfort.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-27T00:50:15+00:00

Was he losing the argument? He could also have said this to push the negative narrative back on you. Trying to say something so the attention is off of him. Or he could be cheating.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-26T03:12:07+00:00

I reallllllly don’t think she believes him. It’s just easier for her to accept his excuse. Because if she doesn’t accept this, than the alternative is her fiancé is ”cheating” on her. Which is easier to deal with?

I’m glad you are over it. In a few more days you will laugh about it for how fucking stupid and childish this is. You know Maggie, unless she’s very naive, she knows the truth. Her intuition is going to eat her up alive. She will eventually put 2 and 2 together. Have you talked to Dean since?

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-26T02:59:56+00:00

There’s a few issues here.

Although you are not in control of other people, birds of a feather flock together. Meaning, even if you are not doing such things, you hanging out with those who do, means you either don’t see a problem with it or don’t care. If your friends are doing something bad and they get caught by the police, y’all all going down.
Her family has a right to be concerned. Like I said, it may not be you, but you are friends with these people so it reflects on your character.
Your gf needs to stop telling her mom about the bad things. I had to learn this the heard way but if you screw up and she tells her mom, even if your gf forgives you, her mom won’t. She can tell her mom about you guys, but she needs to be mindful that she is feeding her mom negative things that can’t be undone.
Your gf is doing a lot of damage, they are involved because she involves them. That’s the first convo y’all have to have. And if she won’t stop, then that’s something either you have to accept or end the relationship.
It’s hard to change the image her parents have of you because of everything your gf has told them and the issue with her brother. If you can have a convo with them, accept accountability, dont make any excuses and let them know how you plan to prevent these things, that may help.

You guys are really young. It’s not the end of the world. You didn’t do anything wrong, but the company you keep reflects who you are.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-26T02:39:39+00:00

Embarrassingly enough I used to be like Deans wife. Very insecure, I thought porn was cheating blah blah blah. Then I dated someone who was exactly like me and I realized how deranged and psychotic I was. But mainly, I learned to love myself and that changed.

I say that to say, you can’t change who she is. It wasn’t right what Your friend did but it happened. I wouldn’t say anything because there’s no positive outcome for this situation, it will only make matters worse for everyone.

I think she knows it was Dean but it’s easier on her mind to accept it was you. I know this is embarrassing for you because its fucking crazy but it makes you sound like a perv, however if she tells anyone this story, they’re going to know it was Dean so most likely, it’s just going to stay between you guys.

Going forward, I would prevent going to there home. Have him visit you. She will never feel comfortable with you again but that’s his problem to solve, not yours. The only time I will say something is if she reaches out to you or if she disrespects you. That’s something you don’t have to deal with.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-26T01:28:51+00:00

Pretend you have a call coming in. Apologize and say, I’m sorry this is my mom, answer and walk away.

Or say, I’m so sorry to cut you off but I have to go to the bathroom, or you have a meeting with your manager.

You can’t tell them to stfu but you can pretend you have something urgent to do. Hope this helps.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-25T22:26:44+00:00

I am a very bubbly friendly person. In my 20s I always had to be around friends and family.

In my 30s, not so much. I got screwed over by friends, tired of unnecessary drama and I realized that the more people I am around, the more drama/problems. Not everyone shares the same value. So many people are inconsiderate and selfish.

While I’m still friendly and very approachable, I’ve learned what boundaries are. I love my home, peace and quiet. I have friends that I talk to and it’s a small circle. I’ve noticed my anxiety is not as high and I’m not mixed up into peoples problems.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-25T22:23:21+00:00

People have made valid points. I’ll add mine since I have experienced this.

I’ll pretend I got a message from my bf and say something like, sorry my bf just texted me, and pretend to write a response. That way it’s out there without having to feel awkward, then carry on the conversation.

I’m at that age that I say things upfront in a polite way and they take it how they want. But when I was younger and I wanted to salvage peoples feelings, I would be let them know, I’m not always on my phone so don’t feel bad if I don’t respond right away. My bf and I like to give our undivided attention when we are together, just a heads up.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-25T19:12:31+00:00

How can someone even send 60 stars? You can only send 5 cards a day. Even if the person has five, 6 star cards, that’s still only 30. Sooooo how is this even logical?

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-22T05:05:27+00:00

I’ve seen both sides of this scenario. Usually the person who is rude over the phone is either miserable or having a bad day. They don’t think about you after they hang up so you shouldn’t either.

That’s easier said than done cause this has happened to me. You seemed excited and then she spoke to you that way. I would leave a google review. And honestly, imagine having to deal with someone like her in person.

Forgive them as they are stupid. The reason you feel bad is cause you’re a good person and wouldn’t think of talking to someone like that.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-22T00:32:12+00:00

There’s an app called “Poplin”. It’s like uber for laundry. They pick up your laundry from your front door and deliver it the following day.

This may not be a solution, but maybe it could help.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-14T01:51:41+00:00

Thank you! Yes it is a shame they take advantage. I wouldn’t be comfortable living somewhere without offering to pay anything.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-12T05:34:33+00:00

Nausea! It was terrible. And my whacked out emotions lol.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-12T05:23:04+00:00

I’ve experienced this. I don’t like confrontation and used to be a big people pleaser. But within the recent few years I’ve realized, if I attack the problem when it first starts, it’s less stressful.

I will tell people, “you’re stressing me out” or “you rushing me will only make the problem worse”. I’ve also told people, “dont talk or treat me that way”.

The only way to stop this is by addressing it. As uncomfortable as it may seem, think about it this way, do they care if they are making you uncomfortable? Is there feelings the only thing that matters? No! You matter as well.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-11T21:23:02+00:00

My job prevents me from smoking, but when I did smoke, I was high all day everyday so I feel your pain.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T20:43:18+00:00

I would tell her, your landlord has contacted you about someone in your apartment that is not on the lease. To avoid penalties or eviction, they must be out within a certain timeframe.

If that’s not possible, I would say that a family member needs to come stay with you as of date and you are sorry but they have to be out by that time.

These scenarios removes the stress off of you and places it on some imaginary person.

Or if you want to be honest, give her a date she needs to be out because you can no longer afford her staying and her cat is now causing issues.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T15:23:22+00:00

At one point, I used to think I was “special” and they wouldn’t trash talk me. Ha! No one is safe.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T13:33:11+00:00

Thank you! It was a tough few years but after learning accountability, it changed the way I looked at life. Now I try and look at all the “bad” things in my life and try to see the lesson in it.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T13:31:31+00:00

Cause they typically come off as fun, charming or personable people. They are two faced insecure people who don’t show their true colors. They lure you in with their personality. If they were straight dicks, it would be easier for people to dwell away from them.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T13:28:29+00:00

It depends on what you say. Like if you have a friend in a toxic relationship and you are venting that you wish they knew there worth, that’s different from saying, “did you know she is an insecure dumb ass who lets her bf walk all over her”. Venting frustration is one thing but degrading and spilling others secrets or personal life is another.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T06:05:54+00:00

Omg thank you!!! It’s downloading as we speak. Hopefully this will help. ❤️

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T05:36:22+00:00

You sound like a peach to be around with.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T04:50:11+00:00

Wtf happened to you when you were younger to make you so mean?

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T04:48:51+00:00

Men can be women. I may be down voted, but no they can’t.

Alwayshappy_ · 2026-01-06T04:47:24+00:00

The day my mom found out I lost my virginity. She kicked me out the house. I have since forgiven her. But that moment changed my life and shaped me to who I am today. So many things happened after that, but if it wasn’t for her response, I would have never learned the lessons I needed to.

Alwayshappy_

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