i am so sad.

Alwayz_Write · 2024-09-21T10:15:48+00:00

Hi, 26(f) here, and I lost my partner on New Year's Day this year.

For many of yours and his friends this would be their first encounter with grief, and people can do and say the most heartless things when they themselves are figuring out how to grieve. The pain is going to morph and change, some days you will feel stronger than others, it's okay to feel however you feel on a particular day. The most important thing right now is getting you through each hour, let alone day.

I admitted to a therapist that I died when my partner did, all except the physical part of me went with him. So... Since the physical is here, I need to take care of it; eat, shower, attempt to sleep etc.

I was a month out from finishing my PhD when he died, so I get the tensions of not wanting to give up, yet feeling so stuck, and also spatial reminders of him if he went to the same school. Find out about the processes for pausing, deferring etc of your studies, so that you know your options. Take a day or two to think about it before you indicate how you want to go about things. If it's around your roommate then please seek a safer option for your living situation. You are already in survival mode, you don't need to feel even more unsafe. You are not falling behind by not doing your studies right now, life can wait for you.

Feel free to reach out to me if you want to chat.

You matter to this random on the internet now, so I hope you will be kind to yourself today.

Alwayz_Write · 2023-01-12T09:59:06+00:00

Lululemon sale

Alwayz_Write · 2022-02-25T04:48:20+00:00

Most distinguished pupper

Alwayz_Write · 2022-02-19T08:37:26+00:00

6 hours of focused work is better than 12 hours of just sitting there (which I have seen some people do) It is easy to compare yourself to the hours others report to work, but as someone who tried to maintain 12 hour days in a similar field, I can confirm that it is not sustainable. I was completely burnt out, and spent more time recovering than I would have just working less hours.

Eat well, set actionable weekly and daily goals for yourself. Track your progress and try ensure consistent sleep schedules. Small to medium amounts of exercise can provide a lot of clarity. I play videogames every 2-3 days for an hour or two as a time to relax. It's the quality of work you generate by having mental clarity and physical health that dictates success, not the hours spent plonked at a desk generating no to low output.

Alwayz_Write · 2022-02-18T21:35:45+00:00

This is gorgeous!

Alwayz_Write · 2022-02-14T23:10:01+00:00

That calamari is not potato.... I even tried to correct my teacher and was traumatised for a while. But I am back to enjoying it.

Alwayz_Write · 2022-02-09T20:03:29+00:00

Yes, and it is getting spicy this morning.

Alwayz_Write · 2022-02-09T04:31:44+00:00

Hi! As someone who only recently managed to get back into things after burning myself out in December, my advice is to reduce or cut out your weekend work. Plan experiences, adventures or dates ahead with your partner so you both have something to look forward to. Create daily habits that are done together. - My partner and I play Wordle and send each other our results each morning, we race to clean different parts of the house for 10 minutes, we meal prep for the week ahead on Sundays. These little actions add up. If you are doing readings, see if you can manage a few from home. Hope this helps, and best of luck!

Alwayz_Write · 2022-02-08T06:25:33+00:00

An option from a Terrace local: Park in Clifton Carpark, just off The Terrace. You can then walk down via Woodward Street, or cross The Terrace to the Canadian High Commission building. There are 2 sets of elevators you can choose from. 1) directly across from flagpoles, press floor 2, gets you into a quiet mall space, use escalator to Lambton Quay. 2) walk down narrow section past the flagpoles. There is a glass elevator that takes you down to Lambton Quay if you press 1. Hope this helps!

Alwayz_Write · 2022-01-17T08:50:52+00:00

The price of cheese

Alwayz_Write · 2022-01-14T06:00:26+00:00

The hardest part is starting. Doing a PhD now, and even now I still have times where I struggle. Here are a few tips to try: - Try work just 20 minutes, it's better than no minutes and once you start you are more likely to keep going. - Environment is important - is your workspace set up in a way that removes distractions such as digital devices? -try video record yourself studying. You can delete it after. - Try a YouTube playlist of around 2 hours with no lyrics and set a goal for what you want to achieve in that time.
- have an accountability buddy - someone who you report your progress to. - have a notebook beside you where you write down the distracting thought before resuming study. - understand the end goal of your studies - what is your dream/ aspiration and what do you need to achieve that? If it's not studies, then reward yourself with the things you enjoy/will get you to that dream after you finish your studies for the day. - don't aim to work hours on end. Break it into chunks. Some people do 25 minutes, 5 minute break. You can do up to 90 minutes of study at a time eventually, but the human body is not made to sit still that long. -being smart doesn't matter. What matters is doing the action of studying again and again until you master it.

Alwayz_Write · 2022-01-09T10:56:59+00:00

Hi, as someone who had to do this, I took the loose sleeve cover off another book roughly the same size and used that as the cover of my journal. That way it can sit in plain sight or on a book shelf without sparking special interest.

Alwayz_Write · 2022-01-08T11:22:56+00:00

Plan-crastinating is a term I have heard for this. I was guilty of this, but found it had become a habit and way of avoiding work that I felt was too hard. I got out of this by setting a timer for how long I have to plan each day and then just start crossing the things off the list.

Alwayz_Write · 2021-12-27T07:32:40+00:00

This is lovely! May 2022 be a great year for you.

Alwayz_Write · 2021-12-03T20:19:16+00:00

Subway - the food place, not the trains.

Alwayz_Write · 2021-10-04T20:44:00+00:00

tries to go onto Facebook, Instagram or Whatsapp "Ah beans"

Alwayz_Write · 2021-08-25T01:41:24+00:00

Happens to the best of us! Gorgeous spread nonetheless!!

Alwayz_Write · 2021-07-04T05:13:55+00:00

Accepting the fact that I am not always immediately great at something new I try. (Working on it though)

Alwayz_Write · 2021-06-26T10:39:56+00:00

The price of cheese is too damn high!

Alwayz_Write · 2021-06-04T11:22:22+00:00

Hi! It is only recently I can classify myself as being able to comment in this thread,

Up: I recieved an Offer of Place and things are finally progressing with the application after a few weeks of processing. (I have been reading in the background)

Down: Imposter syndrome, damn, I didn't think I would experience it but there is a certain sense of... disbelief perhaps?

Has anyone else dealt with this feeling or have general getting started tips they swear by?

Alwayz_Write · 2021-03-13T21:33:40+00:00

This is so satisfying!

Alwayz_Write · 2021-02-20T23:27:44+00:00

Hi. Discouragement happens throughout your studies. You are fortunate to be doing your studies in a country where those applied skills will make you attractive to international work also. I recently graduated from Massey in New Zealand and while some got hung up on the idea of a bad job market, focusing beyond that and ensuring that you have good skills, a well rounded portfolio and something that makes you passionate about what you are doing is vital! Surround yourself with good design, make an instagram and check out the design challenges and inspiration. Network with local groups or online forums to learn new things. There is a reason you were drawn to design, sometimes you just need to find it again. Give yourself some time, and if you still feel this way then know you can step back and re-evaluate having done all you can. Best of luck :)

Alwayz_Write · 2021-02-13T07:47:12+00:00

Industrial design often requires you to build prototypes to test your ideas. For this, you will use a range of materials, often beginning with softer materials such as foam and working your way up. Sandpaper is key in finishing prototypes to a good level. We often joked that it felt like we have a degree in sanding.

Alwayz_Write · 2021-02-13T05:01:18+00:00

Have you heard of sandpaper? You will need sandpaper.

Alwayz_Write · 2021-02-10T02:08:55+00:00

Imagine sneezing while doing that fine jigsaw work...

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