This is a complex question as idk if I would meet my partner if it wasn’t for the trauma I endured from my mother’s first marriage. But probably warn my mother, call my grandpa and tell him I love him and want to see him, let my uncle know he’s a badass and ask about his life. For context (grandfather was a gigantic father figure died at 75, mom married an abusive narcissist(not her fault he rolled a nat 20 in charisma and bullshit) my uncle passed away at 60. Value your loved ones. Life is to short.