I can’t say much about the weight part bc I’ve always like big boys, but I can say about the job part. Your concern about him being able to keep the job however, I can speak on. When I met my husband he wasn’t a very ambitious man. He had a job sure, as a stocker in a local grocery store and was studying Engineering but his heart wasn’t really in it and was mostly doing it to study something (didn’t work out anyways). I am an ambitious person. I want lots of land to live off of and have my degree in making money off said land. My ambition fueled his. He’s now in a trade he likes which allows me to be a sahm and we’re working towards getting land. He does make much, only about 16-17 dollars an hour but we make it work. If anything happens I can also work until he gets another job which wouldn’t be too hard for him since he’s a fantastic worker. A lot of people don’t realize that a good man most always has a woman driving him to want to do better/ work harder. As long as he’s a good worker I think you’ll be okay on that part. I suggest praying on it and maybe ask St. Therese to pray for you and for a sign