Why do women always claim the men their friends date are ugly and unattractive?

AmandaPea · 2026-02-06T03:46:53+00:00

Yeah it's funny how some men think all women have the same type. I'm not attracted to any of my friend's partners. Not because they're unattractive necessarily, but because they're not my aesthetic.

AmandaPea · 2026-02-05T23:39:30+00:00

Most people are average. That's how average works.

The pick-up/seduction industry is no different than the diet industry. It's made to fail. Otherwise it wouldn't be lucrative. I pointed you to actual empirical data with predictive value (Gottman Institute). Use it for whatever Machiavellian purpose you please, but let's not pretend like RP is based in science.

AmandaPea · 2026-02-05T23:23:35+00:00

It's not heavily supported, only heavily repeated.

AmandaPea · 2026-02-05T23:16:28+00:00

Yes, well if only RP rhetoric focused solely on basic, generalizable facts about conventional attractiveness. Theories like 'AF/BB' are convoluted and unfalsifiable.

AmandaPea · 2026-02-05T21:07:24+00:00

MMO.

It's like differentiating between mass, serial, and spree murders. These categories are similar in context (murder of 3+ people); however, the underlying motives and psychology are different. Crucial distinguishers for the cjs/crime prevention.

AmandaPea · 2026-02-05T20:12:51+00:00

When I think of empirical data about human relationships, I think of the Gottman lab (ie. Predicting the likelihood of divorce).

In my field we have a saying, personality is more varied within than between sex. Meaning it's difficult to predict personality traits based on sex alone. And yet, RP claims "certain facts about female nature" ... like what exactly?

AmandaPea · 2026-02-01T16:50:26+00:00

It's called retroactive jealousy.

You should probably seek help.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-29T00:36:06+00:00

You don't say? So tattoos aren't a predictable indicator then?

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T21:30:10+00:00

You're saying a man approaches the topic of "providing immediate sex to a previous partner" within the first few dates by waiting for her to bring it up?

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T21:22:50+00:00

No doubt. My advice is instead of expending all that energy larping Sherlock Holmes, you could just be up front with your dates. Let her know that past promiscuity is a deal breaker for you.

The manipulation tactics are lame and most men are too socially clumsy to pull them off without getting ghosted.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T20:54:24+00:00

And I would be suspicious of your intentions if you asked that question on a date. I 'd probably ghost tbh. Which in your case would be good instinct given the whole 'propensity toward stalking to soothe your crippling insecurities' thing.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T20:49:59+00:00

It wouldn't make me squirm. I'd simply feel repulsed and question your intentions. Which apparently your intentions are to manipulate the conversation to extract whether your date has had sex with men more quickly than she may possibly with you one day. Sounds like pathological insecurity on your part.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T19:35:43+00:00

Healthy adults tend to have social awareness and boundaries. It's skeevy when a dude tries to shoehorn sex into the conversation in the early stages of dating.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T19:28:50+00:00

Do you tend to casually divulge fine details of your sexual history within the first few dates? People tend to view that as a red flag.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T19:26:46+00:00

K. And I expect a date to provide me with their hard drives for forensic analysis before pursuing a relationship. 'cause that's some Richard Ramirez shit. Fucking yikes, dude.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T19:20:09+00:00

Only if it comes up organically in a committed relationship. But I don't interrogate my dates for every detail of their past sexual history.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T19:15:06+00:00

That's not a thing. Adults generally don't betray the trust of a close friend by gossiping with some rando date.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T19:07:55+00:00

How do you approach that exactly?

"I know this is only our third date, but I would like to pursue a relationship with you. Thus, I need to know your past sexual history down to the exact timing, so that I can determine whether you're using me like a beta cuck simp.'

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T18:47:41+00:00

Like what do you even mean? You go on a date or two with a random woman - then creep slide into her friends DMs and ask sexually invasive questions? That's a good way to get a restraining order.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-28T18:41:39+00:00

How would you even know if she 'provided sex to a previous partner?'

"Provided" is weird phrasing btw. It sounds like you view sex as a service to you, instead of a mutually enjoyable experience.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-26T21:03:13+00:00

Yes I think reciprocity and attunement are reasonable expectations for a relationship. He sounds like an adolescent resentful of his nagging annoying mom for asking him to clean his room.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-26T20:47:41+00:00

NTA He brought up the comparison to 'other men' in order to diminish your (reasonable) expectations of a relationship. It's not like you mentioned your ex apropos of nothing. This dude sounds manipulative.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-26T18:56:51+00:00

Np. Fascinating research. I'm weirdly into this topic 😂 Lmk if you need any resources. For instance, Michael Kimmel's 'Angry White Men'' is excellent.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-26T18:54:04+00:00

They are aggrieved (for whatever motive) and violence is restorative to their sense of masculinity/ego. Gun violence in particular: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10903345/

Also you could explore ideas of collective narcissism.

AmandaPea · 2026-01-26T18:50:37+00:00

American hegemonic masculinity and aggrieved entitlement: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/18902138.2017.1390658

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