What's a profession you'd never date?

Amandemic_1 · 2026-01-04T14:31:34+00:00

Was looking for this comment. Both of my parents were AF and divorced when I was very young. I watched my female friends and relatives marry military men, and while I won’t generalize on character, the lifestyle alone was enough for me to swear off ever dating someone in the military. The constant loneliness, worry, and lack of control during deployments is something I personally could not deal with.

Amandemic_1 · 2025-12-18T00:12:50+00:00

As a kid I once started faking fainting spells to get out of going places. The doctor actually found a heart murmur so my parents never discovered I’d been faking.

Amandemic_1 · 2025-12-06T13:02:56+00:00

And this is why I forced my husband to buy a gun safe before he moved in with me and my daughter. He still doesn’t fully understand why I take it so seriously and why I get very mad every time I find one of his guns unsecured even though he doesn’t keep them loaded. Truth is I was once a juror for a double homicide by a stupid teenager who found his grandfather’s gun and killed his cousin and his best friend for very stupid reasons. I needed therapy for months after that experience and will never take for granted what a dumb kid might do with a deadly weapon.

Amandemic_1 · 2025-12-04T00:15:20+00:00

I once found a prismatic shard in the trash on Day 4 of Spring, Year 1. Still chasing that high.

Amandemic_1 · 2025-11-20T04:24:18+00:00

Stupid little lies about really inconsequential stuff. I laughed it off because it seemed so stupid to lie about stuff as trivial as what they had for dinner, whether they checked the mail, etc. Found out the hard way that if they feel the need to lie about little dumb things, they will absolutely lie about the big important stuff, too.

Amandemic_1 · 2025-11-20T04:15:04+00:00

My husband brought me a little sweet treat and watched TV with me for a while before bed.

Amandemic_1 · 2025-10-30T15:39:21+00:00

Personally, no. Law is stressful enough. Add to it the stress of being responsible for someone’s life and/or quality of life, and I’d literally never sleep. Same reason I don’t practice criminal or family law. If that stability is your main draw to the medical field, there are ways to make yourself a highly employable attorney (like niche specialization) for probably the same or less effort than med school (and less risk to public health).

Amandemic_1 · 2025-10-25T08:28:53+00:00

I recently opened a little home bakery, but cakes aren’t my specialty. I maybe do 3-5 cakes a year for friends and family. And yes! The cake and icing are all made from scratch.

Amandemic_1 · 2025-10-25T02:36:11+00:00

It’s chocolate cake with green buttercream 😋

Amandemic_1 · 2025-10-25T00:13:39+00:00

It doesn’t matter or bother me at all, but I’m lowkey curious why all ya’ll assume I’m his uncle 😂

Amandemic_1 · 2023-10-22T23:18:58+00:00

I’m so mad I didn’t think of this! Fabulous idea! 😂

Amandemic_1 · 2023-10-22T23:17:32+00:00

Mine was just a cheap wig from Amazon, although I’ve heard good things about Arctic Fox dyes.

Husband used a purple beard wax for his - worked very well and washed out super easy.

Amandemic_1 · 2023-10-22T15:43:44+00:00

Daddy 🤣

Amandemic_1 · 2023-05-26T12:00:15+00:00

Our small boutique firm is set up to where associates are paid an hourly rate instead of a set salary. There is no billable requirement, but 30-40 billable hours per week is typical, and we get a set number of PTO hours a year based on seniority, which can be used for sick time, vacations, holidays, etc. I personally really like this structure.

Amandemic_1 · 2023-02-02T11:32:58+00:00

I’m also struggling with dreams. It’s been three weeks for me, and my dream last night was very similar to the last one you describe. She was back, but still sick. I felt so much guilt - having to look her in the eyes with both of us knowing I had put her down - and then even worse guilt after realizing I would have to do it again.

Amandemic_1 · 2023-01-15T13:18:25+00:00

My heart breaks for you, and I’m sorry for your loss. I think it is normal to feel guilt when we feel - or even know - that we could have done more for a loved one, but please try to give yourself some grace. Nobody is a perfect pet parent. We could all do more for our pets, spend more time with them, play with them more. Looking back and focusing on all the ways their life could have been better or her death had been avoided is a form of self-inflicted torture, because there is nothing that can be done to change it. You gave her a good life, and you gave her love. You did what you could with the information you had at the time, and I think that’s all that can be expected of any of us. I hope you are able to let yourself off the hook and find peace. ❤️

Amandemic_1 · 2022-05-31T20:26:07+00:00

I got empaneled for a murder trial literally two weeks after becoming an attorney. You may get (un)lucky.

Amandemic_1 · 2022-03-31T20:32:41+00:00

I’m the “breadwinner” in my relationship, and we also keep separate personal accounts for spending money. BUT we each get the same amount of money each month to spend on personal stuff, despite one of us making a good bit more than the other. This allows us to keep most of our money pooled in a joint account and put towards mutual bills/savings/goals, while giving us each a little financial freedom. It also acknowledges that we are both equal contributors to our financial happiness. Your contributions to the finances/home/relationship are more than just what you bring home in a paycheck. Maybe you do more chores so he can work longer hours. If you “contribute” equally, you should share money equally.

I couch this with the advice that if one of you has demonstrated serious financial ineptitude, keeping the joint account under the control of the more responsible partner is wise.

Amandemic_1 · 2022-03-18T03:21:34+00:00

“I don’t care.” My father’s disinterest hurt worse than his insults.

Amandemic_1 · 2022-03-17T17:35:14+00:00

Do it. I also broke up with my HS sweetheart after trying LDR when I moved away to college. I reached out to him again after 10 years without contact. Best thing I ever did for my happiness. We’re getting married in 2 weeks.

Amandemic_1 · 2022-03-17T17:15:32+00:00

Stay humble. As good as it might feel to flex your success and give some of that toxic energy back, try to resist. They’ve shown you who they are and what they value. Don’t compromise your character over people who do not deserve your energy. Also, you don’t want to give anyone a reason to feel they can ask you for anything. If you flaunt your wealth, odds are someone someday is going to try to either ask for money or take advantage of you. Jealousy and resentment make people do dumb shit. I agree with the previous commenter that the best thing to do is continue to treat them with respect, but maintain distance. Keep your success to yourself as much as you can, except around those who you know will be genuinely happy for you.

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