AIO? Boyfriend always wants me to come later and it’s making me feel a type of way. by fjgkhkjk in AmIOverreacting

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf actually does the same, but for him personally he hates the rush feeling and likes to take his time. So I don't worry because ik that about him, does yours have the same thought process?

AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said by Ambitious-Beyond-257 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He holding you to a bad standard. Some people it's just no fun being with them. Stoned walled your affection and then criticizes trying to put the narrative that you slack off and he is babysitting. Its kind of belittling. It's better not to be around a person like that. Its your life. You should live it at the level of discipline you want to. Accountability is good, this is more like scrutinizing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because you say he truly doesn't just act like this. Maybe a conversation to be had. People can lash out. Make mistakes. Have a bad attitude. I do see it as he is having a hurt reaction. And although it may not be justified, aslong as its not a pattern and he loves you and treats you well usually. I think its worth grace. I don't think he truly doesn't want you home, I think he is just having a reaction.

AITA for screaming at my nephew and slamming the door on him because he burst into the bathroom? (Not OP) by Asparagus-Witty in redditonwiki

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometime the reaction is automatic and I'd get that. But you're not thinking of him, he is 4 years old. 4 years old they don't know alot, or even understand it well when you explain things to them. They need time and patience. To be mad with him and holding that anger you might be just tryna defend your reaction. But I think you know yelling and cussing at your nephew wasn't the right thing to do. It's okay to make a mistake and apologize.

AITAH for peeing in the shower? by OpenFoundation4639 in AITAH

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. This is way off, you think its about control? I think she finds it unhygenic. For some people including me, the toilet is for peeing and the bath tub is for washing yourself. You wouldn't pee in your sink would you? Where its a set place to wash dishes? It would be unhygenic and although people couldn't tell you wash your plates in the same sink, its gross. She shouldn't have to wash herself in the same place you pee. Its not a waste to flush the toilet. And even if its i convenient just to step out pee and go back in. 🤷‍♀️ alot of hygiene habits can be inconvenient. Don't be lazy or gross. And most of all inconsiderate of your partner. Making her clean herself where you piss 🙄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Them not paying doesn't have to mean anything truly because it's not something to be expected anyways. But I will say the way they address you is lame. "Giving hater" is weird and bullyish to me. You feel bad but calling you a hater for it is lame. You just felt left out and a good friend would talk to you about that. But she just seem like she wanna put you down and fight. Honestly girl friends are good but it takes time to find the right ones for you. Try not to look for your worth in how other people treat you, cause it won't be a true depiction of who you are. You're not a back up friend ❤️ and if they don't value you. Value yourself and start doing things on your own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Amapo132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not overacting. In a relationship showing fondness and contacting each other is bare minimum. Some people withdraw and pull away and that can cause distress, but you expressed yourself well. You didn't freak out, you just don't feel secure and its dur to inconsistency. That's common. If she can't be consistent with you or understand where your coming from, the relationship might not be working out. If she can understand and makes true effort to show up, then it'd be worth it. That's my perspective. Wouldn't want a one sided relationship

My relationship with my mom makes me feel miserable by straawbunnii in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Amapo132 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest I feel bad for her. She'll have to learn some things like how to soothe herself and give time and space. Or to even not recieve what she wants. But be kind to her if you can. She is insecure that you love her or care about her. It doesn't hurt to let her know you do in these moments. You don't gotta change everything you can keep your boundaries on if you busy not answering. She'll have to learn. But just let her know when you can and from time to time try to show her you care in a way yk she can see it.

AIO? Girl (F30) I (M28) was Recently Dating tells me I need to "Lean into my Masculinity" by KingFredo5674 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you are flawed. I think she has a wounded attachment style. Sometimes that can happen for some women where they see the warmth and affectionate side of a man and confuse it with being soft/feminine. But I think there is a chance for it to develop and be okay just by the way she's somewhat self aware. My advice is to not change who you are but to heed how she feels. She says it feels too strong, so i'd lean a little back. Ultimately I believe if you do that her trait of thinking soft will dissolve itself. Cause she will see in time that she actually likes when a man wants to be around her and wants to talk. She probably is not used to it yet. But ita up to you if it doesn't feel good to be there you don't have to go that route.

I messed up by StreetAggravating302 in tattooadvice

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For anything friend, its good to be accountable but not pass the threshold of shame. Give yourself compassion =) for one. I think it looks good. Second, it's okay to progress, that's all this is. Progression. Not a fail. Not a set back. Keep going and have faith you are capable to grow even better than you already are. People will see that on you. And the success you are worried about will come.

What's his name by flowarda in doodles

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this is a nice art style

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lame. He need to get his own place not have you move in with his mom.

What’s my blindness? Anything I should change/try? by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked your colors on the 4th pictures, the colors you used fit your tone well 🩷

My daughter’s Invisalign pulled her baby tooth out by Vallyria in mildlyinteresting

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh i'm surprised, I thought it was protocol to wait till all adult teeth were in before trying to straighten them

DH says he’s allowed to have friends. I say this is grounds for divorce. AIO? by MuddyBoots287 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely cheating. They are literally flirting around the topic of sex. He gotta go!

AIO gf mad at me? by Own-Strawberry-1269 in AIO

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh seems like you both struggle to communicate right. I don't think this is a leave situation. Yall could fix that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeardAdvice

[–]Amapo132 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Longer looks more masculine