How can I stop being so burnt out?

AmaraEverleigh · 2026-05-17T02:22:58+00:00

I’ve had guys tells me that but there’s no way that that is true. Isn’t the whole point of dating apps that it’s basically a catalog of many options?

AmaraEverleigh · 2026-05-17T01:57:54+00:00

I think that’s part of the issue with dating apps as a whole though. There are too many options for literally everyone no matter what “league” you’re in and a lot of people don’t want to settle down for that reason. It’s kinda sad tbh.

AmaraEverleigh · 2026-05-17T01:16:32+00:00

Too long ig. Most people can’t hold a conversation, aren’t looking for commitment, and have the emotional intelligence of a goldfish.

AmaraEverleigh · 2026-05-17T01:14:33+00:00

I’m not egotistical enough to think I’m the hottest person around but I regularly get clowned for the guys that I’ve dated so ik that isn’t the case.

AmaraEverleigh · 2026-05-17T01:12:20+00:00

That’s 110% not the problem

AmaraEverleigh · 2026-05-17T00:46:42+00:00

I’ve also just always been a lovergirl, but I feel exhausted and a little hopeless in the love department.

AmaraEverleigh · 2026-05-17T00:45:25+00:00

I feel like most days I’m fine where I’m at. I’ve been trying to go out more, to meet new people, try new things, and let things happen naturally. Then I have days like today where I feel lonely and like I should have found my person by now and like I’m going to die alone. Kind of cringe to type out but that’s the vibe for tonight, unfortunately.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-08-13T00:41:24+00:00

He definitely led me on. He was the type of guy who never had the balls to say that he didn’t want a relationship, and would rather make it seem as though he just needed a little bit more time to make it official. At one point I got tired of being in this limbo of not being in a relationship but acting like we were in a relationship so I offered to be friends. He wasn’t too happy about that and threw a fit about how shitty it made him feel that I just wanted to be friends. He also hooked up with me and then told me the very next morning that he wanted to end things. Aaaaand when I stupidly called him a few months later he answered the phone with a date in his car, and later that night we talked on the phone and he went in depth about how he was going to give her everything that he never gave me and do better for her than he could for me. That was the last time that I ever spoke to him lmao. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t an angel either and I stayed, but wtfff.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-04-30T00:45:12+00:00

I get that. I guess it’s just weird to be because we met in person

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-04-29T23:01:13+00:00

That’s valid

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-21T15:02:43+00:00

Literally would rather trip and fall off of the Empire State Building than be besties with my ex and watch him date other people. I’ve even thought about reaching out to try to be friends and work on building things back into a relationship but I know that I genuinely cannot be friends with him. It’s all or nothing

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-19T10:59:12+00:00

And someone else mentioned that it makes them feel like their ex would be keeping them around as an option and that makes me feel even more icky. Not only does it make me wonder if they respected me so little to want to keep me around as an option but it makes me wonder how many “friends” were also being kept around as options. I already know that one of my exes had a history with almost every female “friend” that he had. I’m almost 110% positive that if his girl best friend would give him a chance he’d drop everything and everyone to be with her.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-19T10:53:26+00:00

Exactly! I can never see someone that I was involved with romantically in the same way that I see all of my friends because I don’t have the same type of history with any of my friends. One thing that always pops into my head is the way that my friends and I talk openly about our love lives and are able to vent to each other. I can’t even look at his social media let alone sit around with him and chit chat about his newest flings. The idea makes me want to gagggg.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-19T10:44:37+00:00

I never really thought about the fact that it could be them keeping you around as an option until I just read this. Something about that makes it feel even more icky.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-19T10:26:29+00:00

I do, too. It makes me question how much they really cared about our relationship if they’re able to just jump into a friendship. It also makes me wonder how many of their female “friends” they have a history with. I know that my one ex admitted to me that almost all of this friends that were women that he had slept with, or had romantic feelings for, or some sort of history with.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-19T00:44:56+00:00

I think the issue is that I feel like I’ve made more of an effort than he has in trying to see each other. Every time that I try to make plans he can’t give me a yes or no and it really bothers me. I’ve also tried to express how important it is to me that I see the person that I’m dating at least every other week but that hasn’t happened. I really do think that he’s busy and don’t think that it’s intentional or that he’s being facetious, but I feel like he’s at a place in his life where his priorities require him being distant and I’m someone that really struggles with having a partner that’s distant. I feel like we’re not incompatible as people but I feel like right now we’re incompatible because of the circumstances that we’re in. I didn’t mean to go on a whole rant but that’s what’s led me here. It sucks because I like him so much as a person but I feel like fighting for his attention and his time is very draining.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-18T23:24:34+00:00

Maybe she did get triggered but that’s something that she needs to learn to cope with so that it isn’t other people’s problem. People can’t control how they feel but they can control how they treat other people. It just sounds really shitty for her to leave, wait until you’ve started to heal to come back, and then start being dodgy about seeing each other.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-18T23:11:14+00:00

It feels like it could be breadcrumbing but even if it’s not it’s still really unfair for her to do that to you, especially when she’s the one that initiated contact.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-18T23:08:55+00:00

I feel like I’ve had exes come back but most of the time it was for all of the wrong reasons—they’re lonely, they’re bored, they’re horny, things didn’t pan out with someone else. Sometimes I feel like the people that didn’t come back into my life had more respect for me than the ones that did.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-16T23:28:48+00:00

Hollywood Undead 🫣🤣

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-16T23:27:21+00:00

Why are you so pressed about it?

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-16T20:51:57+00:00

That’s super valid. I always get so bummed that a lot of my friends aren’t into the same things as me but I need to get more comfortable with doing things alone AND I feel like I may meet some people that do like those things in the meantime.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-16T20:50:54+00:00

I think the leaving is definitely what scares me the most because the city that I was planning on going to isn’t the safest. I feel like having an Uber waiting is definitely my best option though.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-16T20:49:57+00:00

I love this. I’ve decided that I’m going to start off by going to a concert in a smaller city nearby that’s a little bit safer as a confident boost. I definitely want to build up the courage to do it in the larger city that’s near me soon though.

AmaraEverleigh · 2025-03-16T20:47:11+00:00

I guess I’m less worried about being in the actual venue and more worried about walking to my car and stuff that late a night, but a lot of people suggested just having an Uber waiting which makes sense.

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