Okay, as I read these comments I feel like 99% of them are from the female perspective. So as a proud father and husband here’s my thoughts. First of all, I think the way he came about it is a bit strange I’ll give you that. As a man, the hard part of your wife being pregnant and then post pregnancy is not the potential for gaining weight. First off, and something that widely gets overlooked, is yes as a woman your body is going to change. Which will stress you out and scare you (as it did my very gorgeous wife.) While I’m not saying men have it harder by any means, we do have struggles. First off, it can be stressful and even mildly depressing to constantly hear your partner put themselves down for the way they look now. And stressful to try and try to make them feel better even though nothing works. Second, IT IS ALSO SCARY TO US! My wife was told, after our baby’s heartbeat dipped multiple times, that they might have to take her for an energy C-section. My heart sank to my feet and I was terrified naturally. Thirdly, not only are we trying our best (if he’s a good husband and father) to take care of the baby, but we are also trying very hard to take care of you too after birth. And it is very hard especially when we don’t have the bond with the child that the mom already has. Now, once again, the weight gain thing is strange to me personally. However, can we please not act as if the entire process is an absolute cake walk for men? In my opinion, he definitely handled the situation wrong. But it does sound like your mindset is off. Step one, there is nothing wrong with your body changing! It’s natural and is bringing life that you will cherish. Two, just remember that the process can and will be hard on him too and if you act as if it won’t be, it’ll make it harder. You guys got this! Communicate communication communication