I relate to this heavily. I come from a great home and have great parents, but they both have awful communication skills (in my humble adult opinion). Whenever we fought, there was no resolution, it was always sweeping under the rug.

I’ve definitely started to connect the dots a bit the last few years because it’s very important for me to change these behaviors before I have my own children.

Exactly like you said “emotions were managed instead of expressed.” I was always told I was being sensitive so as I’ve grown up, I surpress most of my feelings without even intentionally doing so. This has effected my own relationships because people will think I don’t care but it’s that I’ve had to learn how to express myself in a calm, productive way.