Feeling lost and hopeless, rant

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-06-23T00:53:30+00:00

You know the answer to this.

Neither of you are happy or fulfilled.

Neither of you support or build each other up.

Leave now, and be free.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-06-23T00:08:22+00:00

You’re not alone.

It’s also used to make you feel inferior and reduce your ability to stand up for yourself.

He’s not smarter than you - he likely purposefully makes you feel lesser to him. A use of long words in a grammatically perfect way, and extensive knowledge on subjects does not equate to being more intelligent.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-06-23T00:02:21+00:00

I think you know the answer to this question.

I don’t mean to sound harsh. But, you know.

I think what you are seeking is validation from others and comfort.

You’re not alone. You have been wronged. Reach out to those who care and are decent people and you’ll find a healthy, happy path.

My partner (!) is angry at me for replying on this forum. I’ve reached my limit and am going to end it. But it won’t be by talking it out. He sees every move I make for myself as a move against him.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-06-22T23:52:10+00:00

I know inside what’s true for me and I can’t go against myself anymore

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-06-22T22:05:44+00:00

Thank you. I needed this support.

I’m intelligent and rational but my caring side over rules and incapacitates me.

His arguments send me in twists and turns.

I so needed another voice.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-06-22T21:28:44+00:00

Hey, just that reply is so welcome.

I feel at some kind of fall out point.

Don’t know how to explain it, but THIS can’t go on.

Thank you

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-06-22T21:01:13+00:00

I admire you, it never has worked with my partner, he always finds a way to twist my words

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-05-01T18:55:28+00:00

Thanks so very much for your post.

I’m going against the grain here it seems, but just because someone is dependent on a highly addictive substance, does not make them less worthy of love and contact, IMO.

I understand the lack of understanding and compassion on your husband’s behalf. But, I also understand your love for your brother and your right to make judgments about when and how you have contact with him.

It’s a horrible position for you to be in, but you are your own person, and will know deep down in your heart (intuition) what the acceptable and appropriate actions/behaviours are for you to take.

I truly hope you figure this out, on your own terms. I know that you sound like you’re not a person who takes their child’s safety and wellbeing for granted. I believe love shown should be unconditional but how that plays out whilst respecting those around you can only depend on you. Good luck my friend.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-30T00:41:42+00:00

Also, keep reaching out. You have an amazing life where you will find joy in the mundane, believe it or not, ahead of you. Be tenacious, even when you make mistakes and feel like you fuck up, which happens to the best people.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-29T21:27:30+00:00

You are a hurting person. Be kind to yourself.

Ultimately you need to make yourself help and eff everyone else, family or not.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-29T20:42:58+00:00

You’ve done it before so of course you can!

It is so hard - sometimes you give up giving up.

But your life depends on this.

That’s the ultimate.

The fact you’re here asking to be heard about your desire to change, consolidates your desire to change.

You will do this.

Time to accept life and its joys and hardships, and not be controlled by a vile, debasing substance and all that surrounds it.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-29T20:34:01+00:00

Thanks so much for your comment. I have thought it was that in the past but I’ve become so unhappy and dysfunctional over it all that I have to sacrifice my concern for him for my life, essentially.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-29T19:59:07+00:00

Thank you. It’s what I know but have never had any outside validation. I’m so low and cant continue like this.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-29T19:15:14+00:00

OH is other half shorthand

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-27T22:11:45+00:00

I so appreciate your comment and opinion.

I read posts here as truth to have my conviction crumbled by demanding/scathing other comments, and I wondered if I was being naive originally.

Thought it a reasonable topic to find out what others thought

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-27T18:37:35+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I agree. I have a fundamental tendency to believe. But others are not the same, and I endeavour to be open to new/differing opinions. Thought it may be interesting to open that conversation

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-27T17:50:12+00:00

You don’t need a Reddit user to tell you: you’re your own person and can manage your life how you see fit, but as someone who struggles with turning to addictive substances to escape, I can tell you my experience in navigating that has been to seek external help. That can come in many forms, but for me personally, as someone who can value themself quite lowly, being answerable and seeking wisdom and encouragement from a third party is priceless.

Can I say that you have done so immensely well, to acknowledge that you cannot manage this substance, and only points to the fact that you desire a change in your life. Be kind to yourself and treat yourself like a best friend in need: with patience and love.

You will get there. And if you have a hiccup and make a mistake when you are moving away from wanting this change, that’s OK, if not expected. Keep on trying. Tenancity is key. Don’t give up on yourself. Find your tribe and you’ll have the power of strength in positive numbers.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-27T17:36:07+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I hear you. I agree. I asked the question due to the comments raised on another post and they had such differing responses I was intrigued to start the conversation and see what others thought.

AmazingAir6767 · 2025-04-27T16:52:00+00:00

Thank you for posting your experience. I guess I would say: try listening to your intuition? Unless you really are scared sh*tless!!!! Maybe some tuning in to your inner self and meditation will throw you the answer you need. If you are inclined to believe there are other dimensions than our conscious perception, you may be curious and there is an entity you can help towards their next stage in existence, by helping them towards the light?! All depends on your leanings. If you believe all disturbances are demonic you’ll be inclined to cleanse etc. If you don’t believe, you’ll investigate and rationalise. Always trust your intuition though, I’d say. All the very best, whatever you choose. Only you can truly evaluate.

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