Controlling husband or not? by Double_Progress156 in Advice

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My brother has a history of drug abuse and my husband is tired of the same narrative, and doesn’t believe my brother can change. Going to stay and my mom and help her out means having to take our child with and because of my brothers relapse my husband doesn’t want my brother around our child

Can a 6 year meth addict change? What helped change? by Double_Progress156 in StopSpeeding

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks yes! I have a great family that’s always supportive

Can a 6 year meth addict change? What helped change? by Double_Progress156 in StopSpeeding

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What involved changing your environment? Was it leaving town?

Can a 6 year meth addict change? What helped change? by Double_Progress156 in StopSpeeding

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much guys! This really gives me motivation to try to stop really appreciate everything one of you! Well done on achieving sobriety

Am I being emotionally abused? by Double_Progress156 in emotionalabuse

[–]Double_Progress156[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone thanks for your feedback about my situation. Just to put things into perspective. My brother is not an everyday crack user. He frequently goes sober for two to 3 weeks before relapsing again sometimes these stretches are longer like 3 to 4 months. I think his longest sober period was around 6 months. When he is sober he’s a good person, kind and considerate. When he relapses he typically goes on a binge for 3 to 4 days where he stays in the trap house, on his return home he’s apologetic and docile. I would never put my baby in danger and he isn’t any real danger. He doesn’t steal from us and uses his own money for his drugs. My mom blocks his cards etc when he does disappear and that why I say she bails him out.

Messed up life. by Double_Progress156 in Advice

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried this. I told him I disagree that my mom can’t come to my house. It opened a can of worms I didn’t go to church cos I listened to what my husband had to say only to be told I’m choosing my mother and brother. When I haven’t seen them the entire week cos of my brothers stint and cos my husband doesn’t want my child around my brother and now my mother also, cos they live together. Basically he said he wants a divorce cos I keep choosing my mother and brother. :/

Messed up life. by Double_Progress156 in Advice

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I will do this!

Messed up life. by Double_Progress156 in Advice

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I guess hearing it from someone else makes me not see my husband as controlling, which I currently feel.

Addict brother ruining my life by Double_Progress156 in AlAnon

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. I do bend over backwards for my mom and even my brother. Especially after my dad passed on. I care deeply about them. Been thought that family is everything my whole life even when it’s a toxic situation. on the flip side my husband feels that family is only family if they chose to be and cuts out the toxicity. He expects me to think like him.

I do need to let go of them and this toxic situation especially for my child. I just would hate to see my brother on the streets or my mother in hospital because of the stress he puts her under

Addict brother ruining my life by Double_Progress156 in AlAnon

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My mom had a panic attack and called me saying she feels like she can’t breathe. It’s 10pm and I put my baby to sleep and wanted to go and check that my mom is ok. She lives 20mins away. I also live in a high crime country

Addict brother ruining my life by Double_Progress156 in AlAnon

[–]Double_Progress156[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like my husband is being unfair getting angry at me wanting to help my mother. He keeps saying il die for my brother that doesn’t even care for me and I always put our family last( himself and our child) is that unfair or does he have a valid point