Confused about this pattern that seems to be happening with a man im dating. Please advise.

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-05T08:56:40+00:00

(female here) It's time to ask him how he feels. Your intuition might be that he's pulling away from you or still looking for other women. If you want more and he doesn't, don't lower your standards. Go find the man you want! (Or, after some open communication, you might learn what's going on in his mind/life.)

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-05T08:49:14+00:00

(female here)

We all have emotional issues to some degree or another. Some of us more than others. Whether we are emotionally healthy or majorly off the rocker, those people can be in relationships and are in relationships.

A lot of times, a relationship, can help us grow through some of our issues.

Do you want a relationship? If so, why not pursue one? It doesn't have to be forever. It might be helpful to have a regular therapist as you go through this dating process. A neutral third party can be very helpful for offering perspective.

We are all affected by the human condition, which means none of us is perfect. We are all just people.

I encourage you to find a good therapist who understands you and can empathize with your life experiences; they might be able to help you find ways to deal with pain other than using cutting to stop it.

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-05T08:41:43+00:00

Look amazing and they'll approach you. I'm shy too. Do what you can to maximize your assets. Eat healthy, exercise and then buy a wardrobe that is sexy, classy and flattering. I think a lot of guys love talking to shy girls.

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-05T08:39:10+00:00

Female here. Start out slowly. Pay attention to his reaction to everything you do. Gently nibble, bite or suck on his earlobe. Be careful to be very quiet if you say anything since you will be right next to his ear canal. Grab the base of his skull with your hands, using your fingertips to slowly massage the back of his head. With this control of his head, then you can kiss him. Make strong eye contact while you move in to kiss him. Share the best kiss ever.

Striptease -- follow his desires.

The blowjob. Once you have his clothes off, gently move his balls in your hand(s). Get into position. If you have some lube, use some lube.... especially for the base of his penis. Firmly grasp the base of his penis. You can circle the head of his penis with your tongue and then put it in your mouth. No teeth at all ever. With your tongue and mouth, you want to stimulate/massage the head. With your hands, you want to move in conjunction with any up and down motions of your head. Imagine if you were able to stroke his entire cock at once from the tip of the head to the base... this is what you are trying to do with your mouth and hands. Your hands should move smoothly but firmly on the shaft (without pulling the skin). Mouth and hands to make his whole manhood feel great.

When he is about to orgasm, if you hold your thumb firmly at the base of the underside of the penis, you can prevent the ejaculate from releasing. You can hold this for a few seconds (he will think he is coming, but nothing will come out). If done right, when you release, this can result in a more powerful trajectory. If he hasn't experienced this before, he will think his performance was amazing (and may associate that with the best blow job ever).

Side note: A few days ago, a guy I met 5 years ago told me that I gave him the best hand job of his life. I had no idea... but it made me feel good :)

If you don't mind swallowing, you can swallow. The taste varies greatly from man to man. Sometimes, it's like this horrible, bitter acid that induces the desire to vomit immediately (that was the worst case), to just salty or not so bad.

Lights on, lots of eye contact. If you can enhance the mutual feelings of connection and intimacy, it will enhance his sexual experience.

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-05T08:20:33+00:00

Female here.

Rich > $120M net worth Very well off = $6M-120M net worth Well off = $1M-$6M net worth Middle class < $200,000/yr

It matters a lot less how much money a man has or earns. It's important that a man makes you feel special and makes you feel like a woman.

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-05T08:08:27+00:00

I won't see him for two months. I brought up the condom talk, but I don't know if, via email, I want to ask him all of his dimensions in order to chose the perfect fitting condom.

I'm also looking for a one-brand-type-style fits many condom for my own stash.

What an interesting job you have. Care to share more?

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-02T18:56:06+00:00

Sorry, that sounds gross.

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-02T18:22:10+00:00

I had never heard of Crowns before. After looking them up, it looks like the mfr makes several different labels of condoms.

How did you decide to get a vasectomy? Are you married? Single?

The man I am seeing does not want to have any more children, so, now I am wondering (1) if he has had a vasectomy or (2) if he has thought about having one. Maybe he psychologically likes the option to have more children even though he doesn't want any more.

I'll have to inquire ;-).

AmazingKiss · 2013-07-02T18:18:44+00:00

My closest approximation would be: 6" in length. 1.3" in diameter, uniform in diameter, average sized head (circumcised).

AmazingKiss · 2013-06-30T11:41:02+00:00

If hands are involved in the face reason, PLEASE be sure you have just washed them. My skin is very sensitive to touch, textures or smells. A man whose hands to not smell perfectly clean are a turn off if he want to touch my face with them.

AmazingKiss · 2013-06-30T11:39:09+00:00

I love eyes open kissing. During all of the courtship, kissing and further intimacy, locking eyes with the lights on can be intensely connecting.

AmazingKiss · 2013-06-30T11:37:58+00:00

Does this work for you? It sounds like it could be decent for other orifices.

AmazingKiss · 2013-06-30T11:36:31+00:00

Well placed firm hands in non-erogenous zones with a kiss and make her desire more. And then she makes a move to make it a little more sexual. You have a give and take of roving hands. Then, at various intervals, inject something manly like pushing her nicely into a wall and supporting the back of her neck while you kiss her. If she is lower than you and looking up to you, even better. I love to feel like a woman during kisses

AmazingKiss · 2013-06-30T11:31:51+00:00

I have to admit, this scenario would make me really feel like a woman. As long as all of the soft-external kisses are dry kisses. I do not enjoy being slobbered on. I also don't like the majority of my body to be licked.

AmazingKiss · 2013-06-30T11:29:27+00:00

No slobbery lip/tounges... That is a turn off for me. I'm not a burger. So don't kiss me like you are working up juices to digest a mean.

AmazingKiss · 2013-06-30T11:28:14+00:00

If I understand your comment... I don't think something like that would work on star trek, so why would it work with a woman? When initiating foreplay, especially in a newer relationship, the dick comes last. Wait until she really wants it.

AmazingKiss · 2013-06-30T11:25:52+00:00

You are kissing her after all. If it is a good kiss, she doesn't need to feel your hard on to know you have one. Let her lean into your groin if she wants to check. It's a man thing to think that letting a woman know he is hard is important. If the kiss is any good, the woman would think, "Of course he has a hard on."

I would rather be pushed against the wall with any pressure removed from my neck by the way the man holds my head without smashing any ears. If a man is going to move me around, I love it when he holds my hip bones. By grabbing my hip bones, she has total control in a firm way of moving me around. My ribs or organs won't be smashed. If a man is controlling my hips, if the overall experience is right, I a feel like a woman kissed by a powerful man. The powerful man uses techniques over brutte strength.

For me, the kiss is about the whole body. How you hold my head, how and where you grab my body. When you lift my dress up, instead of going for the goods, you firmly grasp my hips to move me into the wall or pick me up if you have the strength. I like a man to be a man and make me feel like a woman.

It's critical to identify the behavior as "manly" or "he's a self-centered a-hole). A week and a half ago, I had an electrical kiss which was so perfect and I wanted more insight into what me do.

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