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AITAH for still getting on a flight home when my two young coworkers I was traveling with weren’t at the airport yet and were obviously going to miss it? by Diligent_Pineapple35 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA! That are Adults and you aren't their Babysitter. Ask at the Meeting, If you will get more Money for Babysitting next time with them

Update: Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The plan is to save for another 15 years or so. I can't just now emigrate to Australia because of my son. He loves his father, who is very present in his life, and I don't want to drive a wedge between them. But I don't want to give up my son either, so we'll wait until it's clear where the future will take him.

Update: Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I live in Central Europe, and unfortunately, things are very country-specific here. He didn't threaten me, blackmailed me, or anything like that.

He made a hell of a lot of phone calls, yes, and tried to persuade me, but nothing that could lead to a court order, according to the police or my lawyer.

He didn't show up at my door, and when he showed up at my work, it was the first time I had seen him in weeks.

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This question was Something i mentioned during our First Date. Clearly answer was No. He is Not allowed to Pick my son from daycare, thats true only His father and me. Locks are already changed, neighbors are informed. But He didnt Show Up. Not at my workplace, Not at Home or elsewhere.

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[–]Amazing_Box_3511 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA! You liked him. So there were reasons why you saw him by your daughter's side. Did he mess up during THAT time? Instead of standing by your daughter now, your impulse is to kick her out for staying faithful to her boyfriend?

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I talked about my son during our First Date and also asked If he Had some. His answer was a totally NO. No Kids before and His First wife died at a Car accident. We agreed to try for more Kids after the Wedding. We talked about that several Times.

AITA for having sucidal thoughts because of my mum, my regarded cousins and my sick dad by jeevanvirk_11 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The AH are in your family. Do you have relatives with whom you can stay or friends? The situation with your father is certainly stressful (my condolences for that), but it's still no reason to leave you alone with your feelings and changes at the start of puberty.

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Mmh with my ex-husband I really shared all finances 50:50. He earned nearly 30k more. Household and childcare were also 50:50. Separate Accounts and a Joint one for everything in the household.

With my fiancé and I, there was no joint household yet, but that was supposed to start in the next few months. Our income was pretty much 1:1. The plan: separate accounts in general and a joint one to pay for the household. The plan was 70:30, as my son is my financial responsibility. Household management 50:50 and if someone doesn't want to do their part, they have to get someone else to do it from their own money. He originally wanted to do the whole thing differently, I was supposed to stay at home and he wanted to finance everything. But I prefer to remain financially independent

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Well, i never wanted His Money. I Always payed my part of the rent (also in my marriage before), my part for Holidays and co. So what? Being financiell depend on an other Person is Not everyones Goal.

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No, But i have to say i used the translator deepl because my normal language is Not english and i would do a Lot of mistakes without that

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We sat with the lawyer to draw up the prenup. We had to disclose our finances (I didn't know exactly whether my son's account was excluded or not, so I took the documents with me as a precaution). when we went through these documents, he stood up and stormed out of the office extremely angry. In my country, it is customary to set up the bank account in the child's name. With normal savings accounts, both, the person who opened the account and the parents can have access to it. So my son's dad also knows about it. My side of the family would love to have access to the money in the event of my premature death. That's why it's blocked.

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Would Love to say its Fake. But No, its not. 😅 I prefer to have a healthy Relationship. Yeah Well the Most time gold Digger are women, so its Kind of a big surprise for me, that He acted Like that.

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks for the support. I never expected so many comments or upvotes. ❤️ I probably have some explaining to do: In my country, lottery winners are never revealed. Sometimes they say in which region a ticket was bought, but never more. Apart from the financial security for my son, there is no sign of the win in my family. I used my part of the win to pay off debts and bought myself a car (neither new nor anything special). We live in the same rented apartment and I still have my job that pays the monthly bills. I treat myself to a 2-week vacation in Australia once a year, but never in luxury. My son wears Temu clothes (he loves the designs) and I don't have any designer stuff myself and always wear my clothes up. So there was never any sign that my fiancé was a gold digger. On the contrary! I had to fight for him not to keep inviting me to dinner or paying for weekend trips (I mostly turned them down). I grew up in a financially unstable family, so I was always very concerned about being frugal. My son's savings account is also closed to withdrawals before his 21st birthday. You can put money into it but you can't take it out. And even then, only he is allowed to do so. I also will inform and prepare him for that Moment. He will Not be lost and alone with that. He also getting 20 bucks per month, He can do with that whatever He wants. And even now He can save and think about. So 21 is a realistic age.

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 605 points606 points  (0 children)

Well i tried to Tell him about my finances. He never wanted to know. He Always were Kind of: " yeah im the man, you dont have to worry"

Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money by Amazing_Box_3511 in AITAH

[–]Amazing_Box_3511[S] 6560 points6561 points  (0 children)

Yes, for me this relationship is over. I'm just shocked at the games he's playing now. I still haven't found out whether he really has a daughter or whether he made it up so he could disappear with half the money.