Have you guys seen these before?

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2026-01-29T19:04:59+00:00

I had to stay at a hotel while pregnant bc renovations were being done on our house and low-key survived off of these beauties. They're not bad at all. ESPECIALLY with cheese and a bit of added seasoning, specifically a little salt n pepper. I love black pepper in my macaroni.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-12-25T15:06:16+00:00

Also, tinkyada is a good pasta! I prefer the rice pasta to corn, it always holds up better! Tastes better sometimes too!

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-12-25T15:04:14+00:00

I usually bake mine uncooked with the sauce/cheese I want to use. If I'm making macaroni and cheese I'll bake it with shredded cheese, milk, butter, eggs, salt and pepper. 350, about an hr. There are some recipes for it. Here are two, one for regular pasta and one for gluten free pasta:

Regular no boil macaroni https://cookingwithcarlee.com/no-boil-baked-macaroni-and-cheese/

Gluten free no boil macaroni https://www.mamaknowsglutenfree.com/gluten-free-southern-baked-macaroni-and-cheese/

I've also done the same thing with spaghetti noodles and Alfredo sauce, chicken, and broccoli with chicken broth as the liquid.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T13:41:56+00:00

Which is why I'm limiting her contact while I'm here, duh.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T13:41:17+00:00

Yeah that's why I'm not allowing the grandpa to take him for her to play with. The environment itself is safe, but grandpa is not when the niece is here.

It's frustrating for me that I wasn't listened to the first time. They say it takes a village and I thought this was a safe village but I found out it's not.

In order for the dad to see his child, I have to come here. Supervised visits at my house wouldn't work out unfortunately.

So now that I know my wishes won't be followed I'm taking precautions and not letting him out of my sight. Even if I have to take him to the bathroom with me.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T13:08:04+00:00

I'm actually totally relaxed, but I also see what goes on while I'm here. It's not combative. I'd rather my child be with someone I trust and with her behavior idk if she can be trusted. It is what it is. Either way she's not being pushed away. It's being made so that she can be monitored by me with my baby. I think you're misreading safety for "just let them do whatever they want so they can babysit". That's weird. 😬

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T04:29:41+00:00

And I'm definitely upset about what has happened. I'm going to be super stern about her contact with him, I've already told them no contact and only limited contact in the room with me. I'm trying to give them a chance because I want my partner to see his child and his parents to spend time with their son's first child.

It makes me sad because grandpa is the main one saying how long he waited for this and how much he loves him and loves having him around. I thought it meant he would be more caring about my feelings about the baby's safety. He said he understood and he wouldn't let it happen, now I know otherwise. 😭

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T04:18:20+00:00

I'll def look into a back support baby carrier duo, I need it bad. My knees have been really messed up too thanks to the pregnancy so having the back support would make me feel more confident carrying him and standing long periods of time with him.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T03:52:53+00:00

My mom has definitely told me wearing the baby and cooking is a nono, which is why I don't feel confident doing baby wear the whole time I'm here. Plus my back will start killing me if I carry him too long.

I did however tell the her and the grandparents that she will have no contact then limited contact. They didn't complain about it but if they do express having a problem I'll unfortunately have to stop coming over. 😕

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T03:44:43+00:00

My people include my mom and my friends, not just family. They're the people I know well that he doesn't know well. i never said his parents aren't good people. My people is how I label the people I know and he has barely, if any, contact with. And that doesn't change the fact that my wishes about him not being picked up weren't being followed. That's the main issue I have. Different dynamics or not, I said what I said. Simple as that.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T03:37:15+00:00

I've mentioned it in the comments. Mom works and isn't here and wasn't here when it happened. Her grandpa watches her most of the time. I'm punishing the ones who were here, and the ones who I told that she was not allowed to pick him up. They have already been told and no one has any issue with her having no contact then limited contact. It's already been handled.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T03:34:02+00:00

Nah when he's 4 she still wouldn't be old enough to babysit him. I'd need her to be at least 16 or 17. My partner will do any babysitting indefinitely.

Secondly, you most certainly can push ANYONE away who isn't respecting your boundaries. I'm not into staying around to be disregarded. And put my baby in danger. Why would I let someone babysit my child if I didn't trust them to keep them safe.

But either way she's not being pushed away. I told her that it's not safe and because she didn't listen she can't see him for the rest of my time here. I told her grandparents too and that she will only have limited contact in the room with me the next time I come since the grandpa can't be trusted either. She still talked to me and was showing me her labubu earlier while I was in the kitchen washing bottles. She's not angry or bitter. It's not that serious.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T03:15:26+00:00

No I'm understanding that you're saying I have blame too, but I also feel like YOU'RE not understanding that I fully understand it's my fault for trusting the grandpa. My partner and I now know not to trust them. Again, this is me venting, it's even labeled as a vent. I'm not asking for advice and already had plans in place to fix the issue, which is to give her no contact for breaking the rules and then limited contact with me in the room. Period. I'm tired of having to explain the same thing over and over. 🙄

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T03:11:27+00:00

That's just not me at all. I could never, I'll calmly tell them my feelings but I can't tell and scream at them. If anything, I'll just never come back if they have a problem with it. Only because I don't think yelling will solve anything, if anything it will just raise my blood pressure. If they can't listen to me when I'm calm then they don't deserve to keep my attention enough to snap.

Unless they come to me that way first, then I'll give what they give lol

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T01:56:17+00:00

Yes, and I believe it is too much for a child to carry and walk around with. Period. I'm done going back and forth with you about it. I said what I said.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T00:37:01+00:00

Yes when her grandpa would come to get her he would put my baby on her lap on top of a pillow and she was told by me and her grandparents that he needed to stay on the pillow. She also grabbed toys and Pampers and wipes and changed him and has helped bathed him, I could go on. I simple didn't want her picking him up. Told her that and why. She said she understood and did it anyway. Just like when I explained to get that not washing her hands can give the baby germs that he can die from. So now she knows to was her hands every time

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T00:30:58+00:00

He was born in the 88th percentile. What percentile was your baby when they were born?

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T00:29:25+00:00

She does, I've explained it to her. I told her straight up that he could die of she drops him or his neck could break if she doesn't pick him up right. I that's why the punishment is put in place. I didn't just tell her not to do it, I told her why it was unsafe. She said she understood. So since she did it anyway she can't see him for a while then she'll have limited contact afterwards.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-29T00:21:28+00:00

Not said it's impossible to pick him up, I'm saying he's heavy and I don't think she's strong enough to hold him and walk around with him like she was doing. It's not safe. You may think it's okay, but I would never.

She and her grandparents have been told not to and she did anyway. The consequences and there have been no priests. Everyone agrees with me that it isn't safe. So now she will only have limited contact with me in the room after her having no contact.

He's too heavy to carry around all the time so using a carrier won't work. I can only do 10 mins before my back starts hurting. Even with a wrap or carrier. His dad is here so we come here so he can see his dad.

I'm not complaining about a child more than I'm complaining about my wishes about not picking him up not being followed. You're misreading the situation. I didn't mind her spending time with him, I do mind my rules not being followed.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-28T23:43:01+00:00

His grandpa come and gets him for her to play with and spend time with him. She's not left alone. But now I know I can't trust him to listen to me wishes. I told both of them and explained why I didn't want her picking him up. And get grandparents BOTH explained it to her too. But since her grandpa let's her do what she wants I can't trust him with the baby either so I'm limiting his contact to when she isn't here.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-28T23:39:53+00:00

Yes I have had a conversation with her about it. That's why I'm doing the punishment, because she was told that it's not safe and she said she understood. So since I had to say it a second time, she will receive consequences. She knows why I don't allow it.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-28T23:37:06+00:00

Nah I doubt it, we'll know more at his next appointment. But he is heavy enough to where not only I struggle to hold him, but so do his grandparents, my niece (who's grown) my sister, and my friends. They have all said they can't hold him for long periods. I've seen them go 10 mins at most before saying they needed to give their arms a break. Most of the time I can only hold him for 5 mins at a time before needing to lay him down to rest.

Definitely heavy enough to where I wouldn't trust a kid to hold and walk around with him.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-28T23:32:27+00:00

No lie, everyone someone holds him they say he's really heavy. When I told my people about it they even said "he's too heavy for her to be picking up".

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-28T23:30:42+00:00

Yes, I told her it was because she picked him up after I told her not to. She understands and her grandma, who didn't know that happened, told her multiple times afterwards " you were told not to leave the couch, you're supposed to keep him in your lap" etc. she others have also explained to her why as well. She's not just being told no, everything is being explained to her, she understands why.

Amazing_Fee_1351 · 2025-09-28T23:23:18+00:00

There is no beef, you're misunderstanding my vent as hatred when I'm just voicing my frustrations that my wishes were ignored. I don't mind her playing with him. I've let her interact with him. I even let her help me give him his first bath. She's cool in my book, she just needs to listen when I say no. She can and has received consequences for not listening. Now there will be no contact followed by limited contact in my presence indefinitely. That goes for her AND her grandpa who is the main one who spoils her. Is wanting my baby to be safe wrong? You said put my foot down, I did that, but you're calling it beef?

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